It’s 4:07 am, and I can’t sleep. I have sorrow in my heart for a stranger, a young mom that I have never met.
Ugh , I hate how people talk about teen mothers …. I had my daughter at 18 but so did I graduated from high school , currently enrolled in college and still with the father of my child … I refuse to be another statistic … I’m just a young mother who’s determined to give my daughter everything her little heart desires … run & ‘ tell that .
Here’s what happened in a nutshell, this young girl, got murdered by the hands of her baby’s father. Her boyfriend “John”, killed her around 9:pm on Friday night. (more details in the above link)
What drives a person to killing their own child’s mother? How can someone be that angry, heartless and confused?
I can’t even recall how I found out about this young girl from my home town, but in so many ways, she reminded me of who I could have been.I too had my first child in high school and was determined to get out of the statistical pool that most teen moms find themselves in.
The tributes on her page was all across the board. Funny, sweet, angry, confusion, celebration; even from Eboni herself. And that’s what I was looking at today.
Just looking at everything on her timeline, it’s so clear to see that she was not only a beautiful scholar, but an excellent mother, sister and friend. I have shared some of the most significant mentions on her time line here. We gotta get to the bottom of this.
Valencia Maria 18 hours ago
Psalm 30:5 “For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime; weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.”
July 6, 2012
he’s sooo much more then the father of my daughter , he’s more like my best friend , my comforter , my rod and my other half . regardless of what life throws at us , the bond that we share is unbreakable , i love my boyfriend and without a doubt i know he loves me backkk !!
Thanks honey, we proving everybody who thought we wouldn’t made it wrong !”
1 year & 11 months filled with arguments, tears, rumors, lies, smiles, all night conversations and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE !
Wouldn’t trade em, what we have or what me go through for ANYTHING in this world !
This is sad don’t know you at all Eboni Michelle Drayton, but sweetie when I saw your situation all over Facebook, my eyes were full of tears & my heart was so heavy of emotions as a Mother, because I can’t even imagine the pain of what your daughter is going through when she realizes that her closest friend, her provider, the first love of her life HER MOTHER is not here to give anymore. I pray for that child because NO ONE should have to bury their mom especially at such a young age. My heart, soul, emotions & deepest condolences goes out to your precious little one & your family & closest friends. May you rest I’m peace!!!
The two loves of my life ! his belongings : i rock that
his heart : i stole that
his last name : i got that
ha , y’all hoes mad : fall tf back !
established : 071710
She lost her mother to her father and her father to the system . Tragedy strikes again . Eboni we all miss and love you . You will not be forgotten . Still don’t wanna believe this . Lil Ki gonna be good . She got FAM . Still don’t understand how you can take the mother of your child life . R.I.P bbygrl . I love you !
- in the words of my pastor, “church hurt is the worst hurt , that’s why so many people walk away from the church ; the church suppose to be about loving and not judgement !” -To me, it looks like she didn’t feel comfortable speaking to ANYONE.
Here is my advice for parents on this matter:
1. Never make them choose. The last thing you want to do is make your child prove she /he loves her/his mate. Some kids do things just to piss us parents off. If a guy/girl is getting sexed, it’s even harder to pull them apart.
2. Become a detective. Read what your child puts on social media. You can learn a lot by just investing time in and with your children.
3. Always speak up! Then take action. Be very clear about what happens to both the victim and the abuser. After all it will effect more than them. For example, the morgue, hospital, children, parents, friends, family, employment status, etc.
4. Show your child a healthy relationship, even if you must show them via other family members, friends, and books.
In closing, parents, teach your child(ren) to walk away from anything that does not make them better. It’s not worth it. If YOU are having an domestic issue, leave- get help. You are teaching your child that it’s ok to stay. There were so may thing that went wrong here, way too many to mention in one post. Life is too short for needing to prove that you are loved, needed and amazing. Finding that type of love comes from within. I wish each of you peace and understanding on your journey.
She is loved! She is someone’s child, mother, and friend,
Love yourself enough to walk away,