The EOG test scores came in

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NC gives students end-of-grade test.It allows them to measure their educational growth for the current school year. Only my daughters took them this year. With my kids, the results are always the same! One does well, and the other one well…..long story short- it t’aint what it should be!

Soooooooo- today post will be  short and sweet. Pray for my child that I don’t hurt her tonight. The end, good night!

Friday Four: For “Eboni”

It’s 4:07 am, and I can’t sleep. I have sorrow in my heart for a stranger, a young mom that I have never met.

Ugh , I hate how people talk about teen mothers .... I had my daughter at 18 but so did I graduated from high school , currently enrolled in college and still with the father of my child ... I refuse to be another statistic ... I'm just a young mother who's determined to give my daughter everything her little heart desires ... run & ' tell that .

Ugh , I hate how people talk about teen mothers …. I had my daughter at 18 but so did I graduated from high school , currently enrolled in college and still with the father of my child … I refuse to be another statistic … I’m just a young mother who’s determined to give my daughter everything her little heart desires … run & ‘ tell that .

Here’s what happened  in a nutshell, this young girl, got murdered by the hands of her baby’s father. Her boyfriend “John”, killed her around 9:pm on Friday night. (more details in the above link)

What drives a person to killing their own child’s mother? How can someone be that angry, heartless and confused?

I can’t even recall how I found out about this young girl from my home town, but in so many ways, she reminded me of who I could have been.I too had my first child in high school and was determined to get out of the statistical pool that most teen moms find themselves in.

The tributes on her page was all across the board. Funny, sweet, angry, confusion, celebration; even from Eboni herself. And that’s what I was looking at today.

Just looking at everything on her timeline, it’s so clear to see that she was not only a beautiful scholar, but an excellent mother, sister and friend. I have shared some of the most significant mentions on her time line here. We gotta get to the bottom of this.

Valencia Maria 18 hours ago

Psalm 30:5 “For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime; weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.”
July 6, 2012 he's sooo much more then the father of my daughter , he's more like my best friend , my comforter , my rod and my other half . regardless of what life throws at us , the bond that we share is unbreakable , i love my boyfriend and without a doubt i know he loves me backkk !!

July 6, 2012
he’s sooo much more then the father of my daughter , he’s more like my best friend , my comforter , my rod and my other half . regardless of what life throws at us , the bond that we share is unbreakable , i love my boyfriend and without a doubt i know he loves me backkk !!

Thanks honey, we proving everybody who thought we wouldn’t made it wrong !”
1 year & 11 months filled with arguments, tears, rumors, lies, smiles, all night conversations and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE !  Wouldn't trade em, what we have or what me go through for ANYTHING in this world !

1 year & 11 months filled with arguments, tears, rumors, lies, smiles, all night conversations and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE !
Wouldn’t trade em, what we have or what me go through for ANYTHING in this world !

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This is sad  don’t know you at all Eboni Michelle Drayton, but sweetie when I saw your situation all over Facebook, my eyes were full of tears & my heart was so heavy of emotions as a Mother, because I can’t even imagine the pain of what your daughter is going through when she realizes that her closest friend, her provider, the first love of her life HER MOTHER is not here to give anymore. I pray for that child because NO ONE should have to bury their mom especially at such a young age. My heart, soul, emotions & deepest condolences goes out to your precious little one & your family & closest friends. May you rest I’m peace!!!

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Eboni’s words:

The two loves of my life ! his belongings : i rock that

his heart : i stole that
his last name : i got that
ha , y’all hoes mad : fall tf back !

established : 071710

She lost her mother to her father and her father to the system . Tragedy strikes again . Eboni we all miss and love you . You will not be forgotten . Still don't wanna believe this . Lil Ki gonna be good . She got FAM . Still don't understand how you can take the mother of your child life . R.I.P bbygrl . I love you !

She lost her mother to her father and her father to the system . Tragedy strikes again . Eboni we all miss and love you . You will not be forgotten . Still don’t wanna believe this . Lil Ki gonna be good . She got FAM . Still don’t understand how you can take the mother of your child life . R.I.P bbygrl . I love you !

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Eboni Michelle Drayton
- in the words of my pastor, “church hurt is the worst hurt , that’s why so many people walk away from the church ; the church suppose to be about loving and not judgement !”    -To me, it looks like she didn’t feel comfortable speaking to ANYONE.
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 Here is my advice for parents on this matter:

1. Never make them choose. The last thing you want to do is make your child prove she /he loves her/his mate. Some kids do things just to piss us parents off. If a guy/girl is getting sexed, it’s even harder to pull them apart.

2. Become a detective. Read what your child puts on social media. You can learn a lot by just investing time in and with your children.

3. Always speak up! Then take action. Be very clear about what happens to both the victim and the abuser. After all it will effect more than them. For example, the morgue, hospital, children, parents, friends, family, employment status, etc.

4. Show your child a healthy relationship, even if you must show them via other family members, friends, and books.

In closing, parents, teach your child(ren) to walk away from anything that does not make them better. It’s not worth it. If YOU are having an domestic issue, leave- get help. You are teaching your child that it’s ok to stay. There were so may thing that went wrong here, way too many to mention in one post. Life is too short for needing to prove that you are loved, needed and amazing. Finding that type of love comes from within. I wish each of you peace and understanding on your journey.

She is loved! She is someone's child, mother, and friend,

She is loved! She is someone’s child, mother, and friend,

Love yourself enough to walk away,

QC Supermom

Wednesday WoW: Disney On Ice Presents Princess and Heroes

Mark You Calendar RIGHT NOW. Disney On Ice Returns to the Queen City (Charlotte, NC) October 1-5th, 2014 and we are so excited because that means contest time!

By now you should know that I don’t do anything without a sizzle! Over the last few years, I have had the honor of having the best participants for my big contest. This year will be no different. But first, here’s more information on Disney On Ice presents Princesses & Heroes. 

 

Enter a world where heroes and hearts prevail. Join Ariel as she explores life above the waves and Prince Eric as he breaks Ursula’s spell to reclaim his true love. See Prince Phillip, in a race against time to rescue Aurora, defeat evil Maleficent.  Discover a whole new world with Jasmine and Aladdin.  And watch in awe as the dreams of Cinderella, Belle, Snow White, Rapunzel and Tiana all come true. High-flying jumps, breathtaking skating, and lovable Disney friends are a wish away at Disney On Ice presents Princesses & Heroes. 

Now, here’s how to win a Family Four pack? It’s Free. Like 100% free.THE CONTEST IS VOID WHERE PROHIBITED BY LAW. Details post below, but keep reading to get there.

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Sometimes you just know.

Ready to be a part of the Pre show? Here’s how to win them a family four pack.

Grab your camera and get your alter ego ready!

1.    How to Enter the Contest:

(a)    The “Disney on Ice” contest will begin on  September 1st and end on September 20, 2014. Contest is hosted by Queen City Stay At Home Moms & yours truly .

(b)    To participate in the contest, “Disney on Ice” contestants must make a 3 minute video of their self or their child acting out ” If I was a Disney princess, I would be _____.” WHILE using at least one of the most romantic Disney lines ever and send it to me, on Facebook!  The deadline for entry is 11:59 pm on September 20, 2014.

(c)    One entry per person.

(d) All entries become the sole property of QC Supermom.  By entering, entrants agree to abide by these rules, and warrant and represent that their entry is their original work.

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2.    Prizes: One family will win 4 complimentary passes to Disney On Ice presents Princesses & Heroes. 

(a)    Contest prizes are not transferable.  Prizes may not be substituted for or redeemed for cash.  Station reserves the right to substitute prize of comparable value.

3.    Selection of Winners:

(a)    The Creative Services department, i,e. , my children (aged 2-16) will chose the best videos and use a majority rule voting process to determine the winners.

(b)    Decisions of contest sponsors, with respect to the contest, are final.

(c)    Winners will be notified by email.

4.    Contest sponsors reserve the right to make changes in the rules of the contest, which will become effective upon announcement.

Easy right? Okay here’s a peek of what I’m looking for.

Time For a little fun ya’ll!

QC Supermom

I Woke Up Like This!

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I woke up happy, eager, on a mission and loved.I woke up like this……… QC Roar2

 

 

 

THEN I went to the market, got in the checkout line.and seen a lady shorter than me, although we have about the same wastes width. It’s rare that I compare myself to others, but her shopping cart made me feel like either my metabolism is seriously out of whack OR I need to step up my game….. as in adding exercising quickly because healthy eating alone isn’t working for me and I promised no diet pills..

I don’t want to offend anyone. Because food and diet is a personal thing.

I grew up hearing my uncle say ” Your bodies is like a car. The better you take care of it the better and longer  your body will take care of you.

See that food….. it’s not mine. It was the lady in front of me. bad food ladyWe don’t shop or eat like this. Our cheat days aren’t even this bad.

But I don’t exercise at all. So I guess she and I balance each other out.

  • I  purchased a workout hula hoop.
  •  I bought my gym membership from the YMCA
  • My son bought me some sweeeeeeeet sneakers
  • The boys  love getting in fun time outdoors.

Now what? We all have our struggles. And truthfully, I do want a magic pill. Life would be so much easier for me.

My feet hit the bed on average at 1 am and the floor at 6:30 every morning. I can’t seem to find time to workout. Between home schooling the boys, my work and house cleaning, I’m spent! I do know that all this sitting is awful on my body, and I need to change  this cycle.   I did NOT wake up like this and will not get back to where I want to be overnight. Any tips?

So far, I’ve came up with this video. She even provides affirmations. I like it! – 

Friday Four: I Told Ya So! You Had The Power All Along!

Some of us were raised with an emotional deficit; programmed to believe we’re not worth the ruby slippers we’re born with.

You Had The Power

We’d rather hang back on the yellow brick road, serving as landmines to personal happiness and fulfillment. It’s not healthy, but hey, it’s comfortable.

Even Dorothy from The Wizard of Oz eventually got her self together.

When I 1st became a mom, it was bitter-sweet. I was 17, still in high school and an embarrassment to my self and parents. (Even though they never said or suggested otherwise)

From the moment my son was born, I wasn’t 100% sure I was worthy of being loved by this tiny person. Why because society said so. As no honorable teen has a baby in high school, right? ‘

When it comes to following our dreams, it’s natural to be afraid. The greater the cost, the bigger the fear. The bigger the fear, the greater the reward. But what if we fail? Or even scarier – what if we succeed? Besides, everybody knows it’s more about the yellow brick road, than the man behind the curtain. Right?

Here’s 4 strategies to regain your power:

1. Drop your “image.” How many things are you doing to impress others so they’ll view you in a certain way? Have the internal confidence to drop them. Real power does not need this

2. Get some new friends. Surround yourself only with people who support you and show their support.

3. Just do it. Who do you think “decides” that you are powerful? You do. Real power is not given by money or title. Decide who you really are.

4. Stop complaining, start requesting.

Complaining doesn’t change things. Requesting action does. “Who,” specifically do you have to ask to do “what,” so that things improve?

Imagine if Dorothy knew she had the power all along, from the beginning. What a different movie, that would’ve been. Instead of soaking up each experience along the way, she may have clicked her heels right out of the gate. But that’s not how life works. Our lessons are designed to unveil themselves with each experience. We learn them when we’re supposed to. And if we don’t, guess what? Glinda The Good Witch aint showing up until we do.

There are tons of Glindas out there. Each one, selflessly waving their “wake-up!” wands, hoping to set us free from self-doubt. They understand why we perhaps can’t (or won’t) see our full potential. But that doesn’t stop them. After shunning the finger pointers, I continued to explore holistic motherhood.

I started writing in my journal. I noticed how others were parenting and watching how it played out in their child. I decided that I wanted to be a great mom, raise incredible children and still make money.

Mom coach, doula, product reviewer, CEO, craftier, instructor, speaker, income tax processor, MOM -whatever makes your panty tight, just DO IT.

It’s taken me a long time to get here, but now,my journey has made it worth it. And with the help of the Glindas of the world, I’m realizing – there really is no place like it with my large loving family.

When we realize our worth………………………………………….

Cup Of Abundance

Cup Of Abundance

QC Supermom

Wednesday Wow: “Every New Broom Sweeps Clean!”

bwbA new broom sweeps clean, but an old broom knows every corner. It warns that being fresh and loaded with energy, but experience is also a valuable thing.

In the light of everything that is going on with police power and “the White privileged I will use that saying another way.

Babies, are born with a clean slate ready to learn. Parents are older and they are responsible for leading and  carving their child.

Either I’m naive or so hard wired not to have noticed any racism personally. but listening to my husband and other older adults, I know it happens and was taken aback at some of the boldness of it all. After all this time and awful moments in racial history, how does it continue?

It comes from home!There is NO way a child that is brought up in a loving, supportive, well exposed home will grow up to be a racists. It won’t be in them.

For example. Weekly, my daughter babysits for a group of white moms while they meet privately in their home.I like this set up because not only do they pay and treat her well, she also gets to educate the babies. One girl said my skin is light, yours is dark. I like both of them.d and her

Here’s my point: I tell my children how awesome they are and how nice it is to have friends like them of every race. Every race is a door to something new and should be seen as a blessing. They know there is various types of skin colors, yet the quality of a person is what makes the difference.

A Mother’s White Privilege
By Elizabeth of “Manic Pixie Dream Mama” As the ongoing events in Ferguson, Missouri show us, America’s racial tensions didn’t disappear when George Wallace backed down from the schoolhouse door. Dr. King didn’t wave a magic wand, and we never got together to feel all right. White America remembers this at ugly flashpoints: the Rodney King beatings, the OJ Simpson trial, the Jena Six, Trayvon Martin’s death. White America recoils in horror not at the crimes – though the crimes are certainly horrible. It’s not the teenagers gunned down, the police abuse, the corrupt trials. It’s this: at these sudden, raw moments, in these riots and dem …
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The Noah 6-3-2013 3-17-46 PM I would like to see more parents teach their children (or any child they come in contact with)  how to appreciate the differences each race bring to their life. Moms will instill universal love for everyone at infancy. More moms of color will feed her colored child affirmations of inner greatness and promise as she nurses him. I want to see more adults expecting the best from the youth, by being an example. And last but not least, I want to see more black woman love who they are and stop putting babies on “The Brown Paper Bag Test” (Don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about). “OOh that, baby got good hair”…UUUugh – Stop teaching our babies to hate themselves and how to hate others!

Go make a colored friend,

QCSupermom

Goodbye Homeschool; Hello Charter School

I hope no one dares try to put me in a box. Although I support homeschooling 100%; I do what’s best for my family. As you should do for yours.

HoooRay! The girls are leaving homeschool!!!! Yup, you heard it hear! Their home schooled days are officially behind them. Hoooray!!!!  (yes, I’m  excited, can you tell?)

School days coming

After researching their perspective schools and visiting the campuses, made me want to attend high school all over again.

She said that her phone will be her best friend.

She said that her phone will be her best friend.

I remember when we took them out of public school like it was yesterday. It was horrible and no one was on our child’s side.

One daughter was bullied and bored. Every day she would weep. the children teased her because she wanted to learn, and the teachers ignored her because she kept asking for more work.

Even after numerous trips to the

Entrepreneur High School -DR Potts

Entrepreneur High School -DR Potts

school to discuss my concerns with the teacher, principal and even guidance counselor, nothing worked long term and it started to get old really quick. My other daughter was just restless. She got to a point where she felt like an insignificant number. We felt that the teachers were on the same level as her classmates. Things got way too unruly for us and yes, it was right up her alley.  We had to make changes before they became a habit. So I went to the placement center and it seemed like they gave me very little options. I had no options but to keep them with me at home. Who better right? I could help them prepare for life. FAST FORWARDING—the girls have their own business ( Cassie Sweetz  and The Big Sister ) and both are well involved in the community.

Culinary teacher  and uniformSo, I think it’s fair to say home school worked from them. Now they need something more. Something, that I can’t give them. More social skills with their peers, a more consistent study into college (should they choose to go), prom*, a break from each other; I’m not sure, but this decision feels right.

I’m sending them to  Entrepreneur High School and Kennedy Charter (on the campus of Johnson C.Smith University) both excellent choices for my girls. I have weighed the pros and cons and decided that they would benefit est at the perspective charter schools. 

If you need help navigating this big decision start some where. Ask yourself what’s best for your child. Can you give it to them? The answer will come. What I don’t want you to do is get lost in the education shuffle. I feel sorry for this mom. She should not be punished for wanting better for her son! Free Tonya McDowell!

I think both daughters will do just fine!

Ten Things to Look for In a School

10 Things Colleges Look for in a High-School Student

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Friday Four: My hula hoop doesn’t like me!

I recently purchased a fancy hula hoop from a thrift store and fell deep in love with it, I’ve read that it’s good for your inner workings (IBS) and that it burns up calories galore, but things aren’t going well. I keep it up for a few rounds and then it falls… 

My question is should hooping only be for skinny people? ‘Can a big girl hula?QC Super mom hula hoop training

The hoop is such a powerful, transformational tool to help all of us on our journey in embracing ourselves, no matter what our size. If you don’t give hooping time, you won’t be able to improve. Plus sized hoopers may throw in the towel more easily because we’re often told we can’t do things. Sometimes we even tell ourselves that. Therefore it’s up to all of us to promote prioritizing practice. This will allow the body to get to know itself again and get used to movement. Move with your body and make friends with it.  Hooping.Org

I found this video and within the 1st few minutes, I thought she was high or something. but after a few minutes in, I couldn’t stop watching. She gave me hope. I will not give up just yet ya’ll! Check her out. 

Here’s four tips I got for plus sized hulas like myself to ponder:

1.Practice -Practice-Practice. If you don’t give hooping time, you won’t be able to improve. So practice.

2. Get the right size hoop for your body.( Don’t even go to WalMart for it)

3. Try different ways of moving inside the hoop, and give each style/direction 10 serious attempts before moving on next.

4. Love your body now! Don’t wait till it’s thinner.

in closing, I’m still trying – AGAIN. I’m sure that I’ll never completely quit this journey. I am a fluffy women and won’t begin to use my weight as a handicap. One day, I’ll upload a video of myself doing this as Hippy Hip did in her winning video. 

QC Supermom