True happiness involves the full use of one’s power and talents. After almost two decades of doing taxes under the table, I’ve been de-liv-ered! I just certified with the IRS as a Tax Expert and have landed a contract with Intuit! It’s one of the top tax preparation service providers in the the nation! With that being said, I’m here for you! I want to file your taxes and get you the biggest refund possible. Now if you’re wondering if I know anything, well here’s just a snippet of how I look out for moms.
If you noticed the cupcake in the slide show, just know that India love me! It has beets, and turtles in there! And it was delicious!
Filing Tips For Single Moms:
File as Head Of Household. It the best bang for your return. It gives you a lower tax rate.
File your dependents. Don’t let anyone trick you into using their number for a fraction of the credit. (But that’s not my business.}
Claim Everything! Specifically the Dependent care and Dependent Exception.
A. Deduct Child Care Expenses! .Some parents in my local learning pod are capturing big money by filing child care expenses to recoup the money they pay me for hosting their students through out the week.
B. Hire your 8 year old! Mamas, they can sweep your office floor. Just hire and pay them. You don’t have to give them the money, Use it for their college fund or buy a new mini van to cart them around town. (That’s what I did.)
C. Child Support……… maybe taxable. (( So pour more into your 401k))
Alimony, on the other hand, counts as income. The spouse accepting alimony must report all the payments as income when completing tax filing. He can, however, increase his employer tax withholding to avoid a surprise tax bill at the end of the year. The ex-spouse paying the alimony may claim a tax deduction.
D. The American Opportunity Tax Credit and the Lifetime Learning Credit help defray the cost of post-secondary education, Kornblatt said. Qualifying single parents who are paying for college or other post-secondary education for their children might be able to claim these credits. The American Opportunity Tax Credit offers a maximum annual credit of $2,500 per student; the Lifetime Learning Credit offers a refund of up to $2,000 per tax return.
In addition to other rules specific to each credit, three basic criteria must be met in order to qualify for these education credits:
The parent, the dependent or a third party must pay qualified education expenses for higher education.
An eligible student must be enrolled at an eligible educational institution.
The eligible student must be a dependent listed on the filer’s tax return.
A couple of options are available as tax breaks for parents saving for their children’s futures. “A single parent planning to pay for college in the future can start saving now using an education savings account or 529 plan — both provide tax-related advantages,” Kornblatt said.
Qualified tuition plans — also known as 529 plans — vary from state to state, but the main tax advantage is the same: The earnings are exempt from federal tax when used for qualified education expenses of the designated beneficiary. And generally, this exemption applies to state tax as well. Tuition, fees, books, room and board all fall under the category of qualified expenses. But contributions to a 529 plan are not tax-deductible.
The Coverdell education savings account can be used to pay qualified expenses for elementary, secondary and higher education. Contributions to a Coverdell savings account are not considered deductible, but amounts deposited in the account grow tax-free.
E. Determine Your Eligibility for the Earned Income Tax Credit
Some single custodial parents qualify for the earned income tax credit. Those with earned income below certain levels who file as single or as head of household can earn credits ranging from $3,400 for one qualifying child to $6,318 for three or more qualifying children.
F. Deduct Adoption Expenses
A parent who adopts a child can claim an adoption credit for the fees, legal costs and travel expenses associated with a legal adoption. In addition, adoptive parents don’t have to pay tax on income they get from adoption assistance provided by their employers.
When taking on taxes as a single parent, the complex IRS rules can be confusing, but you deserve to maximize your savings and possibly get some money back. Take advantage of these tips to help you, but seek the advice of a tax professional if you need it. I’m here sis’!
So yeah, I’ll be working off two different pc’s my desk looks funny to my babies. lol
This February is gonna be different. Black History Month is only twenty- eight days, so I intend on making the most of it for my home-schooled children and our learning pod students. We will be intentional about celebrating our culture – EVERY single day with workshops, conversations, and ole school, low- technology research! Feel free to join us as we discover and share our current challenges as a large African American family here in the south, and honor how our ancestors overcame many of then with their inner strength, spiritual guidance, creative will power, and communal efforts.
All of our live engagement will be on QC Supermom Facebook and Instagram pages. So if you are not following now, be sure to hit the like and follow button on them right now—> FB and here’s IG
PARENTS of black children, it’s time to teach a new way! It is our responsibility to help them work through our history so it won’t haunt them within their future. As they gain knowledge and age, they will begin to challenge the system and want to play a role in deconstructing institutional barriers. This year,we must teach our children a more full circle view of black history. Otherwise, we will fail them! We are NOTHING without our ancestors. Nothing without access to our history. We are more than slaves, ballers, and drug dealers. African Americans are not to be feared, shunned or avoided. Black excellence is not confined to athletics and entertainment. I am so thankful for my parents for ensuring that we not only learned our family history, but also understood the challenges of people that looked the most like us. We got the painfully truth, blissful success and everything in between. From them, I have learned that when children are taught black history in their homes, and how we have contributed positively to society, education,science, art, law and medicine, it gives them an appreciation for themselves.
Lack of cultural appreciation leads to xenophobia both in the United States and around the world.
Traveling Seeds —
Africans brought over many seeds- A few of out favorite ones are–> Watermelon Black-eye Peas, Okra, Coffee and the West African Yam
African Traditional Kids Games-
Here’s one I found online. I called my friend in Kumasi to learn more. He says that children still play theses games today.!
Pronounced “Mboo-bay Mboo-bay,” this game uses a Zulu word for lion. The Zulu tribe is based in what is modern-day South Africa. The game is good for groups of six or more.
In this game, children help a lion, or mbube, locate and capture an impala (a deer-like animal with antlers). Players begin the game standing in a circle and two blindfolded players start the game. One player is the lion and the other one is the impala.
First, both players are spun around. Next, players in the circle begin calling out to the lion, “mbube, mbube!” As the impala gets closer to the lion, the circle players’ chants get quicker and louder. Conversely, if the lion is far away, the circle’s chants decrease and get softer.
If the lion fails to catch the impala in a minute, a new lion is chosen, and if the lion catches the impala, a new impala is chosen.
Ngunui/ Intonga -> This is a stick fighting game. It is quite violent but considered as part of South Africa’s culture. You might be a part of this sport by just viewing from the sidelines as it has rules that you might not be aware of. It is a game that helps young men develop endurance and learning to defend without “weapons of war”. It was a traditional way of settling disputes or for deciphering the stronger man amongst herdsmen.
It is a game of two, usually played by young men. Both players hold on to two sticks each, one for attack and the other for defense. A helmet or a rugby scrum cap is worn to protect the head. Strikes to the head, neck, knees, and ankles attract points while areas behind the ears and the groin when attacked are considered foal. It is advisable that you simply watch the sport as it is played so you don’t earn yourself bad injuries.
We Are Some Soulful, Beautiful, Naturally good people! This video of kids playing just warmed my soul! Watch it here.
I want my kids to be able to stay healthy after leaving our home. For this I want to infuse their brains in herbal remidies that they can easily reclaim as needed. Herbs and roots like garlic, and onions were documented as being used 4,500 years before present. Humans used spices to help preserve foods before refrigeration. Both were also used in religious ceremonies too.
This month they will learn how to use herbs, roots, and other parts of a plant, etc … to heal by creating: infusions, oils, poultices and lotions.
Note: To prejudice mothers-> “Inclusion and Respect are both Learned in the home.”
Our History. Our Story
Ok, this one will require our children to annoy us a little more, but it’s ok. They will be asking us questions about our parents, our siblings, our childhood, our education, our favorite ancestors, our dreams, our relationship with God, food, nature, our struggles- our story. After all who better to tell them who they are give them a sense of self? —— RIGHT!!! Their parents!!! Then we’ll put it all in a book for them to keep as heirlooms.
My Affirmation: Children are the reward of life. ~ African proverb
The short answer is because, it was Gods will. I only planned for two children; a boy and a girl. And I did. My first two were just that. But the great divine had other plans. And it’s a good thing. Because I lost that daughter in 2005. I ended up with nine. Sometimes I attempt figure it out, as if one could truly read Gods mind. I imagine that woman are physical gods. We are so powerful. Some of us have a specific mission to fulfill during our time here on Earth as leaders, nurturers, creators and intentional first teachers.
The old woman looks after the child to grow its teeth and the young one in turn looks after the old woman when she loses her teeth. ~ Akan (Ghana, Ivory Coast) proverb
And then there are women that don’t want any, Team No Kid , Mrs Michal. (the wife of David in the bible, barrenness, etc.)
Professionally, as a birth doula, I really shouldn’t be sharing this list. Since I am a full spectrum doula and trainer, I would be dismissive to omit this information.
13 TYPES OF BIRTH CONTROL
I’ve tried just about every type of birth control on the market. Methods range from non-hormonal and hormonal to single use and long-lasting use. I have noted which ones I have tried. For some, I’ve given my opinion on how it worked for me.
Here’s what you need to know about several of the birth control methods out there to make the best decision for your body and lifestyle:
Permanent Birth Control(This is what finally worked for me)
A surgical procedure that makes a person who can produce sperm unable to cause a pregnancy or a person who can ovulate unable to become pregnant. Permanent birth control is not reversible and prevents pregnancy 99% of the time. While women can choose from bilateral tubal ligation in the hospital (aka “having your tubes tied”) or a tubal block done in a health center, men may choose a vasectomy. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of a tubal ligation, tubal block or vasectomy.
2. IUD (Non-hormonal/Hormonal)(Tried it.)
A small t-shaped device that is placed inside of the uterus by a health care provider to prevent pregnancy 99% of the time. Less than 1 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they use an IUD. Available in non-hormonal (copper) and hormonal (plastic) options, the IUD is one of the most effective forms of birth control and can last anywhere between 3 to 10 years depending on which type you choose. Non-hormonal and hormonal IUDs work to prevent sperm from fertilizing an egg. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the IUD
3. Implant (Hormonal)(Tried it.)
A small rod placed under the skin in the upper arm by a health care provider to prevent pregnancy 99% of the time. Less than 1 out of 100 women a year will become pregnant using the implant. The implant, which lasts for 3 years, releases the hormone progestin to stop the ovaries from releasing eggs, and it thickens cervical mucus, so it is difficult for sperm to enter the uterus. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the implant
4. The Shot (Hormonal)(Yup, tried it too!)It was the worst for me. My mood swings were awful
An injection given by a medical professional of the hormone progestin in the arm or hip that lasts three months and prevents pregnancy 99% of the time. Less than 1 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they always use the shot as directed. The shot, also known as Depo-Provera, stops the ovaries from releasing eggs and thickens the cervical mucus, so it is difficult for sperm to enter the uterus. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the shot
5. The Vaginal Ring (Hormonal)(used it for 3 weeks. )
A flexible ring that is inserted into the vagina each month for three weeks at a time that prevents pregnancy 99% of the time. Less than 1 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they always use the ring as directed. The vaginal ring releases hormones that stop the ovaries from releasing eggs and thickens cervical mucus, so it is difficult for sperm to enter the uterus. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the ring
6. Patch (Hormonal)My daughter father LOVED this one. But after I got pregnant, I stopped using it too.
The patch is applied (like a sticker) weekly anywhere on the skin (except for the breasts) and prevents pregnancy 99% of the time. Less than 1 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they always use the patch as directed. The patch releases hormones that stop the ovaries from releasing eggs, and it thickens cervical mucus, so it is difficult for sperm to enter the uterus. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the patch.
7. The Pill (Hormonal)(I consider the pill to be the gateway into birth control. I was on it at 16. I wasn’t consistent. I failed the pill. )
A pill that should be taken at the same time every day for maximum effectiveness, which is often used to reduce cramping and bleeding during periods and that prevents pregnancy 99% of the time. Less than 1 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they take the pill each day as directed. The pill releases hormones (progestin-only or a combination of hormones) to stop the ovaries from releasing eggs and thickens cervical mucus, so it is difficult for sperm to enter the uterus. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the pill.
8. Condoms (Non-hormonal) ( Condoms …..it just isn’t the same. My body would snatch it off. I never considered using the female condom.)
Available in latex or polyurethane, condoms, which prevent pregnancy 98% of the time, are placed over an erect penis to stop sperm from entering the vagina during ejaculation. 2 out of 100 women whose partners use condoms will get pregnant if they always use condoms correctly.
9. Insertive/female condoms are inserted into the vagina and prevent pregnancy 95% of the time. This means that 5 out of 100 women will become pregnant if the inserted condom is always used correctly.
Not only are condoms arguably one of the most affordable, accessible forms of birth control, they also protect against STDs. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of condoms and insertive condoms.
10 . Emergency Contraception (Hormonal & Non-hormonal) By the time this one came out, I was done breeding.
Emergency contraception can be used up to five days after unprotected sex. It can come in the form of a pill or copper IUD, which have varying degrees of effectiveness. Emergency contraception prevents pregnancy from occurring by preventing ovulation and thickening cervical mucus, but it does NOT cause an abortion. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of emergency contraception.
11. Spermicide(Now, the right one of these, and you’re all set. )
Made with sperm-killing chemicals, spermicides such as foams, suppositories or film (used separately, not in combination) prevent pregnancy 82% of the time. 18 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they always use the spermicide as directed. Placed inside the vagina shortly before sex, spermicides block the cervix and keep sperm from joining with an egg. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of spermicides.
12. Fertility Awareness/ Natural Family Planning (Non-hormonal)(Great for a very well organized women. I’m still looking for my spermicide tube I opened last month.)
Natural family planning involves a woman tracking her monthly cycle from her period through ovulation to determine when she is most and least likely to get pregnant. When used correctly, this method prevents pregnancy 76% of the time. 24 out of 100 women who use natural family planning will have a pregnancy if they use the method correctly. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of natural family planning.
13. Withdrawal/Pull-out Method (Non-hormonal)(I plead the 5th. Try it if you choose to.)
Withdrawal prevents pregnancy 73% of the time by pulling the penis out of the vagina before ejaculation. 27 out of 100 women whose partners use withdrawal will become pregnant each year, even if used correctly. Remember, there is always a chance of pregnancy if sperm is introduced to the vagina. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the withdrawal method.
14. Abstinence. Just say no thank you. No penis inserted into the vagina. This one works every time.
Sterility Promoters – It is suggested that the following are considered by some people to promote sterility:
Stoneseed root was used by women in the Dakota tribe. The root was steeped in cold water for hours and then ingested daily for six months at a time.
Jack-in-the-pulpit root, though not as potent, was similarly taken by women in the Hopi tribe after being mixed with cold water.
Thistles supposedly promote temporary sterility. They were boiled in water to create tea and consumed by women in the Quinault tribe.
Implantation Preventers – It is suggested that the following are considered by some people to prevent implantation:
Queen Anne’s lace is also known as wild carrot seed is used as birth control, and traces its roots back to India. The seeds are taken for seven days after unprotected intercourse during the fertile period to help prevent fertilized eggs from implanting in the uterus.
Smartweed leaves grow all over the world and supposedly contain substances that prevent implantation, such as rutin, quercetin, and gallic acid.
Rutin can also be purchased on its own for a similar purpose. It may be taken after unprotected sex until the start of menstruation.
Menstruation Starters – It is suggested that he following herbs are considered by some people to promote menstruation:
Ginger root is considered to be the most powerful herb you can take to promote menstruation. It’s taken via power mixed into boiling water several times a day for around five days.
Vitamin C may have a similar effect, but it needs to be taken in higher doses. Taking high doses of vitamin C in synthetic form may make your bowels loose.
Of all these herbs, Queen Anne’s Lace is one of the more broadly discussed birth control options on this list. Its influence spans back to antiquity. Even today, researchers at the University of Illinois at Chicago share that some women in rural North Carolina are known to consume the seeds mixed into water to prevent pregnancy. Apparently, chewing the seeds produces the most effective results.
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DISCLOSURE: Do NOT Use Hand sanitizer on your woman parts (vagina! ) True it’s an insecticide. Many types of chemicals can kill sperm. Hand sanitizer contains ingredients such as isopropyl alcohol, glycerin, and other harsh compounds. In a similar way that hand sanitizer kills germs, it kills sperm as well. Hand sanitizer may reduce the movement of the sperm cells or kill them on contact.
If you have a vagina, you should never use common household chemicals in or around your vagina. The vulva and vagina are very sensitive areas and harsh chemicals may cause burning and irritation.
If you have a penis, the skin of your penis is also sensitive and just as easily damaged. Never use household chemicals, such as hand sanitizer, as a topical alternative to conventional spermicide.
Oooh, neem is good too. I think I’ll do another post on more natural birth control next week. Ya’ll come back now you here!
From time to time, there are Black and minority business grants available to help African American and other minority entrepreneurs. Sometimes, the grants are offered by major companies, non-profit organizations, and even government agencies. Admittedly, such opportunities can be very difficult to find as many have been discontinued. Others in the past were offered as one or two year programs and did not renew. Despite this, such opportunities are real and are more often offered through local programs compared to national.
This competition allows 4 semi-finalists to pitch their idea to a panel of judges and a live audience, for a chance to win a $10,000 business grant! Entrants can be one person or a team. There is no limit to the number of team members allowed; however, those who pitch must have an equity stake in the business.
Fedex allows business owners and entrepreneurs to register and submit their business story and photos. Once the application is approved and the voting period begins, they can vote for their own business once a day – and get their friends, customers, and associates to also vote every day. The number of votes received will boost your visibility in the contest and is one factor that FedEx will consider when selecting the top 100 finalists and the winners. Grant awards range from $1,000 to $25,000.
The Grants.gov program management office provides a centralized online location for grant seekers to find and apply for federal funding opportunities. The web site was established in 2002 as a part of the President’s Management Agenda. It is managed by the Department of Health and Human Services and houses information regarding more than 1,000 grant programs from 26 federal grant-making government agencies. Occasionally, they do have information about minority business grants.
Miller Lite Tap the Future® Business Plan Competition
Miller Lite Tap the Future (formally known as the MillerCoors Urban Entrepreneur Series) is an annual competition that allows urban entrepreneurs to compete for Black business grants of up to $20,000. In addition to winning prize money, finalists have the opportunity to pitch their best ideas at exciting LIVE Pitch events in front of Daymond John from ABC’s Shark Tank and other business moguls. The competition also provides business partners more exposure through our “Fan Favorite” consumer voting contest.
Minority Business Development Agency (MBDA) Business Grants
On an annual basis, usually during the spring and summer, the MBDA organizes various angel investors with the primary objective of supporting small businesses with minority business grants. The selection process involves mezzanine and second-round financing. This is done via local minority business grant competitions held in nearly every major city throughout the country.
National Association for the Self Employed (NASE) Growth Grants
NASE helps small businesses by providing day-to-day support, including direct access to experts, benefits, and consolidated buying power that traditionally had been available only to large corporations. They also offer $5,000 business grants that can be used to finance buy computers, farm equipment, hire part-time help, and more. The grants are available to black and minority businesses, as well as to the general public.
National Black MBA Association (NBMBAA) Scale-Up Pitch Challenge
This annual pitch competition designed to “Make Big Ideas Bigger” by encouraging Black MBA members to create startups that are scalable. They provide startups the unique opportunity to connect with early-stage investors and venture capitalists who are ready to invest. The competition is hosted by the National Black MBA Association (NBMBAA), a non-profit, 501(c)(3) professional member-based organization that leads in the creation of educational and career opportunities for black professionals.
National Institute of Small Business Grants (NISMB)
The National Institute of Small Business Grants produces BusinessGrants.org – a useful web site that supplies information empowering prospective and existing small business owners, enabling them to know what their financial options are. Their mission is to help as many business owners as possible to understand what business grants are, how to obtain them, and whether or not they should be used for their companies.
The SBIR Grants program is a congressionally-mandated set-aside program that aims to help small businesses stimulate technological innovation. It also fosters and encourages participation in government contracting by socially and economically disadvantaged small businesses. They issue Black business grants, minority business grants, and women business grants.
25 Companies That Are Determined to Help Women Succeed
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The conversations are shifting and the products are looking more alive. Never in my wildest dream did I ever imagine that “we” would get it. But It is happening! More parents are getting their children in gardens. More food pantries are offering raw, fresh and organic food! This is AMAZING! I remember thinking to myself as a receiver how awful the food options were. And feeling like a child abuser having to feed it to my children, knowing good and well, that their health would be better if they did a fast, and skipped the next meal altogether.
So I never said anything. Instead, I answered surveys, advocated for others to receive food gifts and even volunteered my older children as needed to work such food pantries. At some point I guess, I melted into thinking… a little something is better than nothing at all. My next trips I would be more selective in what I wold select for my family even if that meant less food being brought home. In my mind, if I don’t bring lackluster food in, my family will not be tempted to eat it. I did that a few times and every-once in a while, I would luck up and find a pantry that distributed garden fresh, raw, and sometimes ugly produce!
Eventually it came to me, “Girlfriend, why aren’t you growing any food. Why are you 100% dependent on someone else to feed you and your large family?” I answered, ‘Ion-no’. (That’s slang for I don’t know.) Then I asked myself, Sis, there’s so much information out there, why are you choosing to put your children health at risk by feeding them food you know that doesn’t support a healthy immune system?” My response to that was, ‘dang, I gotta do better!’ And I did.
Here’s how I did it. I started in community gardens. Most times, they a ran by the local government who employees master gardeners like Nadine Ford (Mecklenburg County) to upkeep, lead and nurture novice gardeners. I got the kids involved with me. When I go they go. Then I became an advocate with the local Health Department. They hosted meetings monthly about food justice and accessibility. As outreach opportunities arose, I threw my hands up to be a part of them. That way, the children and I could learn together – for free! What came next was a revised advocacy. I created a mom support group that empowered other moms like myself to dare figure out what was best for her self and children. We learned a lot there too. Because businesses wanted to know what we preferred for our families. They began to listen. So I shared more of what I learned. Eventually I gained a tiny platform. There I am able to connect with larger brands, organizations, and communities on food justice, and what it really could look like. Which is more families growing real food in their own spaces. And more food disbursement operations caring enough to partner with local farmers, as well as grocery stores but increase the donated food donations to pantry recipients.
Right now, I’m so grateful to say that everything is coming together nicely. My children are healthy, I recently became a board member of The Bulb Gallery (a mobile farmers market) and I actually teach urban horticulture at the McCrorey YMCA as well as within my community. Momsrising.org has been an essential part of helping me get my voice heard in this foggy space.
I want to share with you my activity with in the last thirty days alone and challenge you to connect with me if you need my family to deliver our message to community, tribe, business, or family.
OCTOBER – NOVEMBER 2020
Sow Seeds Of Justice: Voices Of Hunger In NC- Click here to listen in. It’s a fun, informative, and creative podcast about how I produce culturally aware, educated, well rounded children in urban gardens. You’ll love it!
In closing, here’s a popular tea that I make and sell. It’s a sweet red tea called Sorrel. I make and drink it at least twice a month. I’m not sure where it originated from, but it has many names: “Caribbean sorrel, Hibiscus drink, mulled wine, and Jamaican Sorrel ” I just call it sorrel. Some people make up to three batches from one pot. One without rum, one with rum , and the last ,by default is less bitter. Most people drink it during holidays, but I have been enjoying it for medicinal reasons. Here’s how to make it……
INSTRUCTIONS (ingredients included)
In a pot, bring 10 cups of water to a boil then add the sorrel, sugar, cinnamon stick, whole cloves and orange peel and stir continuously while the mixture boils for one minute.
Cool and cover with wrap and set aside at room temperature to steep for 2 hours or overnight.
Taste for strength and sweetness. If it is too potent, add water or if too tart add more cane sugar. Strain the liquid through a fine sieve into a jar and refrigerate. (Discard the spices left in the cheese cloth). The sorrel will stain so be careful.
For the adult version:
Add the rum (I use whatever is on sale. ) allow to cool then strain as previously instructed.
“I love babies. I love serving, I love working for myself, and I’m grateful to be in a career that honors my ancestors.” – Kelle L. Pressley, Queen Mother- mother of nine (9)
What is your why for being here? Whether it is to be trained or to sponsor a student. WELCOME!
The Pink Grasshopper Holistic Birth Doula program is comprehensive in its scope. We teach a practical and well-rounded body of information about childbirth… all the basics…yet the material is presented holistically and with a balance of the intuitive and the clinical.
The Curriculum * Reproductive Anatomy * Pregnancy Physiology * Labor and Birth Medical Terminology * History and Duties of the Labor and Postpartum Doula * Compassion, Care, and Cultural Awareness Skills * 6 Holistic Therapies for Pregnancy and Birthing * Maternal Social Services * Signs and Symptoms of Pregnancy * Prenatal Care Assistance * Labor and Birth Assistance
* Birthing Ball and Rebozo Techniques * Birthing Options * The Role of the Father * The Birth Plan * Breastfeeding Support * Infant Care including Baby Bonding Techniques * The Doula Business 101
You will learn –
• Feminine anatomy and hormones of the reproductive system and the female cycles.
• How to understand birth as an organic process and how to support a mother’s choices in various places…home, hospital, birthing center.
• How to articulate and navigate through the cultural perspectives concerning birth.
• How to nurture a pregnant woman.
• How the baby navigates the pelvis during the process of labor
• How labor unfolds without interference and how to facilitate women in that process.
• Options in childbirth…choosing caregivers, waterbirth, positions for delivery
• Understanding the cervix…dilation and effacement, cervical lips, ruffling the membranes, Bishop’s score for induction.
• How to understand some of the controversial topics in childbirth…ultrasound, induction of labor, rupture of membranes, Group Beta strep, cord clamping, neonatal jaundice…
• How to employ healing modalities that facilitate self-direction in mothers and families.
• How to tend placentas and offer Placenta encapsulation.
• How to create win/win and collaborative solutions when things do not go as planned.
• How to present yourself as a doula in the community and how to integrate your practice of woman care with the knowledge of birth.
Certification requirements are easy and simple. The reading of
About the trainer: Kelle Pressley Perkins aka “Jabela Ledsi”
Encouraged to support women between the birth of her own nine children, Kelle has been helping families with childbirth education, labor & birth, and lactation support since 2010. Moving to Charlotte in 1998, she met and so many implants with no support like her, infused to serve. It became very important to help educate others who felt the same way. Her initial mom group, Queen City Stay At Home Moms began partnering with both local & national nonprofits, and businesses. The goal was to create a safe and resourceful community through blogging, job sharing, and product reviews. That grew quickly to free training and long term educational opportunities.
Kelle used her education from Johnson and Wales University as a springboard to increase her brand as a solid lifestyle brand ambassador for moms. Going back to workshops to learn more about fertility, childbirth education, and postpartum was a natural choice. Teaching parenting classes, to expectant families, birth moms, and adopting parents came next, In 2012, she was able to take the leap away from parenting classes, and focus full-time attention on caring for women. Bridging the gap between Childbirth Education and many other cultural challenges that face mothers of color. She has served in many capacities, along the side of numerous state and federal policy changes. While learning more about the wisdom of women’s bodies, Kelle realized there is yet so much more to learn. In that quest to learn more, and more work needs to be done to save more moms and babies of color. She is very honored to learn from many granny midwives and elders on how birth used to be and why we must remember the mom after delivery. This is what she wants to share with YOU. Register today.
This Birth Doula workshop includes all of these steps required for TPG Certification: Hours for workshop—9 am – 2pm EACH DAY
Tuition includes a childbirth education workbook, breastfeeding course workbooks, business forms, online mentoring, continental breakfast, nutritious snacks and beverages.
For More Information, Contact Jabela (980) 247-2072
LOCATION for Training – PRIVATE LOCATION in Charlotte and Mooresville NC. Will be given upon registration.
Your place in this Doula Workshop is not held without your ‘paid’ tuition.
– Refund Policy: A refund, less $30 processing fee, is given if a participant cancels two weeks or more before the workshop date.
If cancellation is less than two weeks prior to the workshop date, no refunds are given .
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Before COVID, our boys had a pretty good schedule. They were well engaged. Appropriately exposed to technology and pretty balanced with homeschool work and foolery. COVID has caused havoc among homeschoolers of color too! Adding the trauma of being black …….this is a conversation that should have been on the table.
First, let’s clear up some stereotypes. Yes, all five of my sons play basketball. Yes, we love watermelon. Yes, we travel as a family, which includes their dad (some of the time). Yes, we read books. And yes, we are very black. Oh. we also homeschool and grow food in our back yard. There, that was easy.
Now here’s the problem, anti-black bigotry in America can take many forms, some overt, and some harder to measure. Today, I’m talking about microaggressions. Little to mid-size insidious moments that build up to bigger issues when not checked. When half of their world has been shut down, and the other half is trying to figure out how to COVID homeschool, so much is freshly illuminated with social media and our kids see it all! As many times as they choose to. And that adds to the problem.
When our children see and hear us adults experiencing racial discrimination not only do they have that mental anguish. Reports are coming through daily speaking on the secondhand exposure to racism, such as harassment of black men, killings of unarmed black men by police, can harm the mental health of black Americans.
If you reading this post is like me, raising black sons, know that they need to be confident in whom they are. There is a definite need to build them up now so they aren’t easily torn down by outside influences. I have my sons repeat affirmations in the morning. Nothing long and elaborate. Sometimes it’s as simple as, – “I affirm that I have been wired to move forward.” With all of the voices in the world that have the ability to affect our children’s perspectives and thoughts of themselves, it is important that we are intentional with this daily. Our new normal may not look anything like pre-COVID. That goes for protesting too.
I’m one of those parents that have marched, protested, wrote letters, and even delivered messages directly to our representative on Capital Hill. Annnnnnnnnd I’m still not sure if it’s the most successful thing to do. Now that I have these boys and can’t place them all in one carrier, i have to figure out a way to allow them to protest safely. Meaning No Rioting in the streets. It’s just too dangerous!!
A Riot Is The Language Of The Unheard. – Dr. MLK Jr.
Riot- a violent disturbance of the peace by a crowd:/an impressively large or varied display of something.
Because I don’t want my children to participate in riots. I was pushed to help them discover other healthy ways to express themselves. So I helped them create their own t-shirt line. They did just about everything themselves. From selecting quotes from famous black men to finding the best platforms to sell them on. I figured if the external messages of hate, inferiority, and even no ambition can be widespread, why not share my babies shirts? They are sharing hope, empowerment, affirmations, and constant reminders of how great they are! ( Below is their slideshow. I have changed nothing. To order one go to Facebook- Click Here! )
Black Lives Matter is about the lack of consequences when black lives are taken by the hands of the police. Here are four more nuggets of fact for your Friday Muse:
84% of white murder victims are white
Because of systematic racism, blacks have a higher poverty rate, suffer from poorly funded schools, and are more targeted by police.
Black Americans are 2.5 times as likely as white Americans to be shot and killed by the police.
Black men make up just 6% of the nation’s population.
So now. COVID is here. Everything is heightened across the board. Including our children need to be supported and constantly encouraged.
This is a quick post. I wanted to share something that everything the everyone can do to help a new mom get off to a great start. It doesn’t matter if you are a man, kid elder, or broke college kid. You can jump on this meal train!
When considering postpartum recovery and optimal nutrition, it’s important to keep a few things in mind. The first is that you’ve just spent nine months growing a human, and you’re physically recovering from labor. It’s also important to remember that lactation also places high demands on the body, and decreased micronutrient stores can heighten postpartum depression risk.
Spicy foods are also emphasized. In South Africa, high-protein foods are encouraged, while cold foods are avoided as they are believed to reduce milk production. Foods such as eggs and seafood would provide additional protein along with iodine, B-vitamins, zinc, choline, DHA and a variety of other nutrients that help speed healing and also enrich breast milk.
Which kind of foods should you go for?
• Soups, porridge, kitchari, congees
• Fresh, organic vegetables such as sweet potatoes, carrots, leafy greens, etc (for the first few months, keep the cruciferous vegetables at a minimum)
• Fresh, organic fruit (if available, otherwise frozen berries are great)
• High-quality protein and iron-rich foods such as eggs, hummus, and bone broth
• Wild caught fish like sardines and salmon (avoid tuna)
Healthy fats like avocado, EVOO, ghee and coconut oil.
• Nutrient-rich grains such as buckwheat, amaranth, quinoa, millet and
• Calcium and probiotic-rich foods such as yogurt and fermented vegetables to assist the gut microbiome.
• Herbal teas and spices such as fennel, and ginger.
So let me jump right in it;
These no bake lactation bites are seriously one of the easiest recipes you will ever make in your entire life. You just need six total ingredients for this super easy lactation bites recipe. The ingredients that you need to make this recipe are:
old fashioned oats
creamy peanut butter
Those are the only ingredients you need to make this delicious lactation energy bites recipe!
SOUP- Brothy Chicken Soup – with onions, garlic, and cilantro is a common postpartum recovery meal.
Bone broth is full of incredible healing nutrients and especially collagen, which is key for connective tissue healing, skin health and even the health of your digestive tract. The collagen in bone broth is especially bioavailable and rich in different types of collagen giving you the best of the best. Collagen can also be found in whole fish soup and organ meats, and you can also choose to buy a collagen supplement (usually in powder form) to add to your smoothies, oatmeal, soups, stews etc.
I had to throw in one lasagna recipe because it is one of the “classic” meals for new moms. But this recipe contains a superstar: LIVER. Yes, liver is one of the most nutrient dense foods on the planet. Some call it “Nature’s Multivitamin.” It’s an excellent source of protein, with an easily absorbed form of iron. It includes significant amounts of B vitamins as well as vitamin A, D, E, C, and many trace elements and minerals.
12 lasagna noodles
2 medium zucchini, quartered and diced
2 medium carrots, quartered and diced
1/2 yellow onion, diced
1 cup baby spinach, roughly chopped
3 garlic cloves, minced
2 tablespoons fresh basil, roughly chopped + extra for garnish
Parents, I feel your pain. It’s rough right now. And I don’t even have children in public school. Opportunity hoarding is alive and present. Your child (ren) should not be a collateral residuals of COVID-19. Start your own POD or Cottage School! We did it and you can too!
The concept of “pandemic pods, learning pods, micro schools, Cottage schools” has garnered a lot of interest over the last several weeks, the idea essentially being that groups of 10 or fewer students will learn together in a home environment. Either a parent, or rotation of parents, will teach the students — or the parents of those students will pool together funding to hire an instructor. Our school has space for 25 students. Which is fine because we have the space and honestly, there isn’t a established authority to govern how many students we can have.(per say). We’re all winging it, in efforts to ensure our children have a decent education that will overcome the deficiencies of solitary online learning a way to mitigate the health risks associated with sending students back to a physical full time classroom.
Homeschooling since 2005, we have taught our nine children and countless others in various settings from homeschool to private 1-1 tutoring sessions. We are fortunate to still have many of our referrals as close friends today.
I don’t think it’s a great idea to send your kids to school in the middle of the pandemic,” says Mulligan, 40. “A lot of us started freaking out. At the same time, she adds, she and her husband found it difficult this spring to juggle working from home while managing their 6-year-old daughter’s virtual schooling. “
Some- privileged parents have a back up plans and resources that other COVID -19 homeschooled students lack. I have created a cottage school because I think all students deserve a solid education. Not just my children.
I want my sons and our community to thrive holistically, in a safe environment. Many of my colleagues, feel the same. Some of them are low income and find it challenging to to do both work and provide high quality education. Our micro school provides the opportunity to close the massive gap in education that is widening day by day. As a parent, this is just not acceptable. So I’m inviting families into my space to grow together. I have over 15 years of experience. We are currently homeschooling our last for fellas and my a teaching teach is holistically amazing!
Our desire is to partner with other homeschooling parents to offer the best possible experience for our children both academically and socially. As parents, we all want the best possible education for our kids. Therefore, many parents choose to seek out experienced educators to teach subjects they feel less comfortable or unequipped to teach. Our team of educators provide that extra support in particular areas of study to give your homeschooler the best chance for success!
If you want to secure one of our remaining spots, click here!
Our Organized Microschool School Focus:
Cross-curricular, project-based, hands-on learning in a safe, clean, nature loving space
Character education & social skills development
Building community & lasting friendships
Fostering a life-long love of learning- holistically
We offer flexible education and payment programs for grades K–12 that help each student achieve the unique goals. Course offered range from STEAM to Sports Boot camp, We will not suspend any child, all students* wear uniforms, and children on the spectrum are welcomed.
Right now, we 15 spaces available for enrollment. at our private home. And I am willing to help other parents start one up similar to ours. Feel free to contact me directly at 980 335 6036 or email me at QCSupermomInfo@gmail.com. Let us help you do school at home, affordably and diversity appropriate. Don’t let your child get behind!
Due To COVID-19 many doula’s will be coaching from the sideline and dads will be walking into the active labor and birthing coach position. (which I think is how it should be) So how does that look for the new dads with absolutely no birthing experience? Well, That’s nothing to fear with a little training.
Congratulations Pops! You Did It! LITERALLY. Now is not the time to panic. And just so you know that i’m not being impartial, I asked my husband of 9 (nine) babies to help me out with this post. It’s my goal to equip you not traumatize you. So get comfy and keep that same energy you had at conception. okay?. 🙂 Let’s get prepared now shall we?!
First things first- Attend Youtube University. Signup for QC Supermom’s “Daddy Doula Crash Collection” It’s a comprehensive stash of videos of birth! After watching you will be much more comfortable with birth. You be able to identify what is normal and what isn’t. You’ll need this information just in case your doula isn’t around and she needs your confidence to push through random situations, ask intentional questions, as they may arise and to help make better decisions.
Things You Can Do During Her Pregnancy:
Massage here , Listen to her, learn birthing affirmations and pregnancy / labor keywords Historically more moms are cooking, cleaning, homeschooling, and doing everything in between. For brownie points , especially if she’s showing signs of stress, pick up a extra task in the home. Stress is never good for a pregnant mom or baby and it shows that you are truly supporting her.
During labor. Make her feel save. As her man, birth partner, baby daddy, etc., make your presence known. Ensure that shes comfortable and that you care. Regardless of what she says. Be in the moment. PERIOD! Turn on your protector zone. We know a lot about what encourages oxycontin to be present in a woman’s body in abundance just as we understand what can inhibit its flow. She needs you to know these things as well.
A list of oxy-pro factors:
Being warm Being intimate Not talking Feeling safe and loved Dark environments Familiar places Deep relaxation
List of oxy-antagonist:
Unfamiliar places and vibes tense body postures Being inhibited regarding movement Bright lights Cold Fear Answering extra questions Chit chat
Knowing these basic things about how our bodies have worked for thousands of years should inform our behavior right? Yassssss, I knew you would get it!
Continue to check in mentally with her. Your role is so much profound than mine ( a doula) But don’t forget to take care of yourself. Self care allows you to be a better care taker for your pregnant wife. So stay fit. Which ever way you prefer to do so. Your testosterone can come in handy during this entire process. From exciting her and providing her with sexual pleasure. You Will Not Hurt The Baby’s Head to holding her heavy belly to offer her a break from carrying your baby. But listen, now is not the time to go on a diet. She is gaining weight for your baby….. you get what I’m saying?
Note: Your testosterone may be too low if you have no ambition, no middle of the night erection, or/ and if you don’t smell manly after a 30 minute workout. (seriously) Drinking or smoking too much? That maybe thee problem too. And definitely get enough rest. If any of this sounds too challenging, call a trusted family member of friend. I’m sure they’ll be happy to help keep you in line.
I want you to be focused on your job in the labor and delivery room. Your goal, your mission, your task is to offer your baby mama effective, creative, thoughtful support As we have said, when she truly feels this, her oxytocin levels will rise.
You need to know how to time her contractions, exactly where you’re going, and the quickest route to get there. Ensure your batteries are charged and back stocked. You should also know how to read her blood pressure and baby’s heart rate vitals as well. Even though the wonderful nurses at your hospital are already checking on this.
Oh, please make sure all the important phone numbers are in your phone (Midwife, babysitter, Birth Center, other family etc), She’ll love you for being so reliant and well prepared. Trust Me!
If birthing at home, discuss with your Midwife how to prepare the birth space and get down to your local hardware store. You’ll be surprised at what you will need – hoses, hose fittings, tarp, towels – lots and lots of towels. It sounds like alot, but deep breath, you got this!
Also make sure your bag is packed. It should look like your doulas.
If you are local, come hang out with me and some other really cool dads. Once a month I put ya;ll together and I answer all of your questions. It doesn’t matter what you ask. I’ll answer it. Or I’ll have my husband there to do it for me. I’ll post those dates as they arise. Sign up for the newsletter by sending me a message and requesting to be notified. That’s it. Simple right?
Seriously, you should come . It’s recommended by other childbirth educators, midwives and obstetricians all over the U.S., here’s some of what we cover when we’re together:
What should you never say to a woman in labor?
How can you actively help with pain relief in childbirth?
How protect your pregnant woman if things get ugly with your birth team?
What can you do to make childbirth faster and easier for your woman?
What should you be doing during each stage of labor and birth?
Why are the first hours after the birth so important to your baby’s health
and more based on current group needs.
In the end pops, you will do just fine if you actively find ways to treat your woman like the life-giving Queen she is. She [more than] deserves it after her body grew twice it’s size. Did this overwhelm you? I shared a lot but let Love lead you. If anything makes you feel uneasy, I’m here. And I’m available online if you aren’t in the Charlotte, NC area. Don’t Be Fearful! She needs you daddy doula!
P.S. Don’t forget to rub her nipples! (you know if she likes it to help with labor and milk production.)
(NOTE: the picture above came from Huggies. Dope right? )