Friday Four: What NOT To Do To A Teen Mom

The memories! The moment I learned that I was pregnant, I wanted to find the largest container of orange juice and just die under a rock. From the time my little guy was born, I always felt that I had something to prove to him, our supporters,our small town, other teen moms, and myself.

100 Things You Should Never Say to a Teen Mom

Just In Case you cross this bridge, here’s 4 Things You Should Really NOT Do To a Teen Mom:

  1. Shame or Degrade her- This is number one for a reason. OMG! You have no clue how much damage this causes. When your own flesh and blood teases you, make you the family calamity, and under dog. Even worse when the fathers family and her community dishonors her. You are asking for a mess. A broken, lonely, lost mess. It’s like saying “You’ve passed the point of no return.” She may believe it. Speak blessings into her life.
  2. Discourage her- This birth has effected her life as well. Work with her. If you discover an opportunity for her, tell her about it. Babysit while she goes to school, work or appointments. Offer to do the child’s hair, help with a birthday party. Mentor and support her into a mom the baby can be proud of.
  3. Disown the unborn- Most times it’s the fathers family that snarls at a unplanned teenage pregnancy. For some reason, his family thinks the girl wants the family treasures. Well, guess what, sometimes it’s true. At this point. So what? You have the opportunity to  groom another family member to be a part of your family goals. That baby maybe the missing piece of your family vision toward greatness. Don’t kill your blessing. That’s what DNA testing is for.
  4. Expect her to forgive you after you’ve done ALL of the above.-  Something can’t be healed once destroyed. Words do hurt. Somethings you should just keep to yourself if it’s not going to help the situation. That mom may not bring it up, but she will remember. You can not get out what you don’t put in. This includes love, respect, and acknowledgement.

 

 

“Teen parents want to be acknowledged as contributing members of society, not as society’s ailment. Not only are we leaders, activists, business owners, educators and so much more, but we are also raising intelligent and curious children who go on to do great things!”
– Mariely Moronta-Santos, 27, a mom of three who lives in Brooklyn, New York, and became a mother at 16

“I wish society would look at us as mothers.”
– Caitlin Shay, 26, mother of two who lives in Apopka, Florida, and became a mother at 17

I have five more to go before I can claim a total win,but so far so good. It has not been easy. But Oh My, it’s been worth every one of the obstacles and setbacks.

Success IS Indeed the greatest revenge. It is true. I would put my neck on a chopping block to swear by it. As I sit back and think of the upcoming month, I can’t help but smile and try to contain my extreme excitement.  I know it’s nothing but grace and mercy, but My God, the favor that is upon me right now is what I’ve been waiting on. I have FOUR graduates busting caps and gowns this year!  Two of my daughters, my oldest son and my husband.  Can you believe that?

This teen mom, single mom, mother of nine, once displaced*, gal from South Carolina, has 8 remaining- healthy children and every last one of them are thriving! Being a teen mom is not the worst thing to happen. When it happens encourage her to accept the call of motherhood and be the best she can possibly be. That way everyone wins.

I’m so grateful for my parents. I KNOW that I disappointed them. I KNOW that they too were catching slack because of their baby girl getting pregnant as a teen. I know my sisters were tried after the town knew that I was giving up ‘my cookies’. I am sorry everyone. I hope my recent accomplishments say thank, I’m proud of. You’ve done a great job by the children, So glad you didn’t let us down. Because of you I am a doula, wedding officiant, homeschooler, brander ambassador, mom coach, Queen City Stay At Home Moms organizer, social activist, and wife.

Happy Friday,

Kelle

Benefits for Teen Mothers

The best way to help teen moms: treating pregnancy as more than a medical event

At Times Loves means Saying No and Meaning It!

If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings. – Brian Tracy

My name is Kelle and I have created 9 people. I hug them, kiss them, let them sit on my lap, talk with them, and even share their pictures any chance I get.  But I’m NOT raising punk! I know people only change when they have to. If I don’t teach my children  how to love, fix their own mess and be responsible, they will have a hard time functioning as responsible independent adults. ps3

After I lost my 11yr old daughter to AIH in 2005, my motherhood goals awakened. I wanted to be the best mom I could be. If I could drive, bus, somewhere, my tribe is there. No Mother Wounds OR CockPit Parenting, just passionate motherhood. For example,let’s take the CEO of a fortune 500 company.That person spend hours learning the skills, they get up  each morning thinking of ways to improve the company. Every decision must be passed by and approved by this person.This person knows and cares for this business many times more than themselves. Well, I do all of that, but for my children AND my vested interest are humans.

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We may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future. – President Franklin D. Roosevelt

The wisdom and morals parents can pass on to their offspring is priceless.To be responsible adults when they get older, they can’t be responsible if we are still doing everything for them and won’t let them out of our sight. If you need guidance, see QCSUPERMOM. I would love to assist you with personlized parenting strategies!

 

To great parents, may we know them, Be them, Encourage them and Support them. ~   Kelle

AVOID CRIPPLING YOUR KIDS WITH KINDNESS

Read More On Mother Wounds

Great Parenting Quotes

Toxic Parenting  (Pleas eread this)

Children shouldn’t raise children. A BPD/NPD is often described as a child in an adult’s body. Emotionally and psychologically speaking, this is often true. These individuals can be incredibly immature and seem to be stuck at an early age of emotional development. Many of my clients who share a child with a BPD/NPD mother watch in amazement (and relief) as their children surpass their wives in emotional maturity, empathy and problem-solving skills.

Most things are good, and they are the strongest things; but there are evil things too, and you are not doing a child a favor by trying to shield him from reality. The important thing is to teach a child that good can always triumph over evil. – Walt Disney

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Do NOT Touch My Child! Child Abuse Prevention Month

The month of April is devoted to celebrating everything we can do to transform our community into a place that cares about – and actively supports — families and children. By ensuring that all parents in our community have access to quality childcare, affordable health services, parenting education resources, and substance abuse and mental health programs, we make progress toward what the month stands for: April is Child Abuse Prevention Month.

Here is a list of simple tips that can have a positive effect on the well-being and healthy development of children, families and communities. Print it out! . !

For your family:

  • As a parent, block out 15 minutes a day to play one-on-one with your child — doing anything he or she wants. We know from studies that the more parents engage in positive activities with their children, the less they use negative physical and psychological discipline.
  • Tell the children or youth in your life how much you care for them and appreciate them.All children deserve to have someone who is “crazy about them” and loves them unconditionally.
  • Work with the kids in your life to explore their heritage and learn their family’s story.Every family has a rich story to tell and our connections to our past help us carry forward our values and traditions.

chFor friends and neighbors:

  • Compliment a father — someone you know or even someone in public — on something positive you see him do with his children. Dads contribute uniquely to children’s development.
  • Offer your time to baby-sit for the child of a friend, neighbor or family member. All parents need help sometimes — even if it is just to rest or “recharge” for an hour or two.
  • Mentor a young dad you know in growing his relationship with his kids. Some young dads may need help with transportation or in identifying helpful resources for their children.Dads provide qualities and benefits for their children no one else can.
  • Support parents looking for a job by offering your professional knowledge and experience in resume writing or preparing for a job interview. Financial stability links directly with family stability and can have a big effect on the emotional well-being of caregivers and their children.
  • Encourage single mothers you know, whenever possible, to support the involvement of children’s fathers in their lives. When non-custodial dads work to be involved in the lives of their children, they need the positive support of the child’s other parent or caretaker to encourage the development of that relationship.
  • Build community trust and togetherness by inviting friends to participate in a meaningful cultural event in your life. Helping people learn about your culture may help them understand that despite some differences, we have a lot in common — especially the need for support now and then. See Queen City Stay At Home Moms
  • Arrange a potluck event in your neighborhood to get to know other parents and their kids. Friends and neighbors can give outstanding support to families in times of need or stress.

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  • Sponsor, volunteer at or participate in a cultural event in your community. Families come from different cultural backgrounds that all bring value in creating caring and compassionate communities.
  • Do volunteer work for a youth- or family-serving organization in your community. Some families just need a little help from time to time, and community organizations are designed to do just that.
  • Take action on legislative issues that affect children and families. Call your elected representatives, join demonstrations and be sure always to vote to show that you support services to help families raise healthy children. (See Momsrising)
  • Introduce yourself to your neighbors. Caring and connected neighborhoods can be powerful in reducing neighborhood violence and supporting struggling parents.
  • Create a “Safe Children Zone” in your neighborhood. Host a community meeting with your neighbors to talk about what each of you can do to help create a sense of safety for the children in your neighborhood.
  • Volunteer at or donate resources to a local preschool or daycare center. Early education builds the foundation for a lifetime of healthy brain development.
  • Ask yours or another faith-based organization in your community about donations — even small ones — that can be made to support families in need. Some families need help providing for their children’s basic needs.
  • If you have reason to believe a child may be at risk of harm in their home, call your local child abuse hotline. Anyone who is worried about the well-being of a child can call to report their concerns.Individuals who report concerns have the right to receive a letter later to know what happened with the case.

To report concerns of child abuse or neglect, visit or call your county’s DSSChild Protective Services agency.

Call 911 in emergencies. (I’ve done it before. It’s okay and the child will thank you for it – later.)

Facts about Child Abuse

Tip Sheets for Parents and Caregivers

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Friday Four: Baby Sitter Money Tips

 

One of my  daughters is a private baby sitter.  She is CPR certified and has taken many continued education classes so she may remain in high demand. She’s a natural! As a big sister to five younger siblings, she’s able to baby sit for moms groups, business meetings, private parties, and now she now assistant other doulas while at the hospital serving laboring mothers.

tbsHaving a quality, trusted, babysitter is very rare. The process of finding one is a headache alone. But when you find one, many wonder, how will they pay for her.

And guess what? It’s only getting higher! While I don’t agree with that, I do believe that a great baby sitter is worth a good penny.

It costs to learn new skills,training, certifications, transportation to and from service locations and it’s also a symbol of  proper expectation.

My daughter charges up to  $12.00.per hour.  Her clients LOVE her. She brings toys, books, loads of energy , experience in autistic, multiples, and newborns. She also hires other teens like her to help as needed. Most people like her prices, everyone don’t. It’s usually the ones that want her, but can’t afford the rate. The comfort and well being of your child will always be your number one priority, but quality childcare doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg. Follow these tips and find an option that works for your family.

  1. Share Your Sitter- If you are planing on hanging out with your friends, why not share the baby sitting cost. It does a couple of things. It gives the kids an instant play date, and saves each parent money.
  2. Barter- My daughter loves getting her nails done, nice shoes, and great food. If you have any of these things, ask to trade instead of using money. Teens like my daughter will accept. Just ask  first to verify it’s acceptable. With both the teen sitter  and her parents.

According to UrbanSitter’s 2014 Childcare Rate Survey of nine large metro areas, the average babysitter wage paid in New York City is$15.34 per hour while in Denver it’s $10.84 per hour

3. Join a progressive mom group. – Queen City Stay At Home Moms offers discount child

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care rates to their premium members.

4.Take The Credit.     If you use registered child care or pay a babysitter to care for your children, you can deduct at least a portion of your expenses for income tax purposes.

    • Expenses are deductible for the care of dependent children, under the age of 16.
    • Babysitters may be related to you (but not a parent to your child) and must be over 17 years of age.
    • The child care deduction is limited to two-thirds of earned income, or $4,000 a year per child aged seven to 16; $7,000 a year per child under seven years; and up to $10,000 a year for each disabled child.
    • For details of child care options in your area, contact your province’s child care licensing agency.

Bonus- Sign up for a Flexible Spending Account
If your employer offers this option, use your Flexible Spending Account (FSA) to set aside money for child care. You can include up to $5,000 before taxes

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In closing , be strategic! At The Big Sister, most families look for care during the summer. The more affordable and experienced caregivers get grabbed early and day care slots fill up quickly. Start your search soon and don’t wait until the last minute.Well, there you have it! You have no reason to avoid date night away from the house, a business meeting at home ,or a fun Moms Night Out! You can afford it!

PLEASE READ- From Care.Com- Great Area- Fee based Information! 

Wednesday Wow: 2016 NC Sheroes~”Moving Forward” Award Ceremony

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NC Sheroes Empower Other Women! 

“If I want to see change in this world, then I must be the change myself. If I want to empower and inspire women then I must be transparent and authentic in my own life.”

 

North Carolina have some amazing women. Behind them are equally amazing supporters like Momsrising, QueenCity Stay At Home Moms and the Charlotte Mecklenburg Public Library, offering support along the way.

On Saturday, April, 02, 2016, I had the honor of hosting the 2nd

#NCSHeroes Award Ceremony!

If I was stuck on a island, I would be happy for any of them to be there with me. It’s because of that impression, that I was thrilled to be the host of this positive day of celebration. I’m about to tell you about each of them, but first Momsrising has a message to share—–

Doula, Melody Gross, of Nefer Mut Birthing, -Birth On; You ROCK! She reminds me of my favorite doula quote-  “The way a woman gives birth can affect the whole of the rest of her life. How can that not matter? Unless the woman herself does not matter”” B. Beech and B. Phipps

Daniele A. PapaGeogiou, of W.I.N.G.S. HOMESCHOOL Group. It’s great to have such a resource among us to lead and guide us toward a rewarding stress free homeschooling life. ROCKSTAR!

Miss Cassandra Prressley of Cassie’s Sweetz. I only wish that I was that focused at 15 years old, -Little lady,you Rock!  Yummy! Look at her menu! It’s crazy! Cassie’s Sweetz

Award winning musical artist, Tawana Ross, of BedRock Gospel. Thank you for helping other find their Rock! If you want to really be inspired by her just enter #BedRockGospel She is AMAZING!

Race Car Driver, LeeAnn “CarChick” Shattuck of The Car Chick . When most women just want to put IN gas, this fierce woman is hitting the petal to the metal. AND  then telling us ladies how to get in the car of our dreams! Yes, Yes, She ROCKS!

Yogi, Asha Sims, of Ashakti Wellness, I took away many things from her. The most important one was  – well two- were 1.  You can work out from your seat and 2. Your mind must be protected.

Last but most least, the informative, Jennifer Tremblay of Empowering Health . She had the room smelling like a spa as everyone entered. She works with her daughter. Both are  graduates of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and certified through the American Association of Drugless Practitioners.  Find out more about  them at http://www.BeReallyHealthy.com/

 

 

Our panel was so diverse and knowledgeable. Representing women from many walks of life including the automotive industry.and new this year, the teen Entrepreneur. Respectively, LeeAnn “CarChick” Shattuck , a race car driver as well as an automotive expert and Cassie Pressley of Cassie’s Sweetz. She’s a vegan baker that specializes in smash cakes, lactation cookies, raw cakes, and other clean treats.

We also received a nice chair yoga exercise from Asha Sims, of Ashakti Wellness.

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It was not your typical award ceremony, but what would you expect from a team of women planning it from the beginning to the very end. Thank you all to those who supported this celebration of Sheroes! Can’t wait to see you next year.

Here are more pictures from last Saturday.

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Next year, they will receive actual crowns! Which one of these do you like?crown Want to nominate your shero for next year? Be our guest? ( CLICK HERE For Entry Form)

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When Food,Clothing, and Shelter Isn’t Enough

Big ups for the parents that provide clothes, food, and shelter for their child (ren)!

It’s not always easy, yet you have shown commitment, honor and determination to your family. THANK YOU! But are you preparing them for life after high school? Do you know what your child may be interested in?  What might she/he study as an profession?

As a parent, you have the ability to help your children develop critical, advantageous skills for a lifetime!

Here’s the scene~ The family is sitting around the house. Dinner has been served and laundry is done. The children are playing outside. This happens day in and day out for many days. Nothing more nothing less. Child eventually graduates from high school.The family tell child to leave and be happy.

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What Else Do YOU Need?

Parent: Sweetie, I’m so proud of you. Graduation is coming  up really soon. What will you do?

Child: I know. I haven’t given it much thought. I don’t know what I want to do. What do you think I should do? I haven’t seen anything I ever wanted to do.Maybe I could model,  rap, or something?  I do get lots of hits online.

Parent: Hmm, nope! I’m so sorry. I guess I haven’t  exposed you to many options and opportunities.

So what do kids need outside of the basic, food , clothing and shelter? Opportunities! Like this one….. Charlotte Youth Broadcasting  If you don’t  expose your child to different professions, skills, -positive experiences,  there is no way they will know what they like and dislike. Resulting in them taking longer to satisfy  their need for self sufficiency/self-actualization.

I’m gonna do you a favor and share with you what other families are saying about Charlotte Youth Broadcasting:

My  son Jordan has been to many camps and after a day or two, that was just another camp. Not the case after attending CYBC!! The CYB Camp allowed him to have a hands on experience at WBTV and WCCB. The video clips, photographs and the techniques that were used to enable him to be confident in front of a camera are priceless!

                    Watch This Video From Charlotte Youth Broadcasting Click Here!

Jordan was able to go behind the scenes with the real folks, sit through a live taping of a 12 noon news at WBTV and walk their own RED CARPET, yes I said RED CARPET!!! Ms. Antriece made all of this and much more possible at this week long camp. Please sign up your kids to attend the Charlotte Youth Broadcasting Camp, it will change and spark a new fire in your child’s life!!! It did for my Jordan!”

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 Our Camp encourages campers ages 10-12 and ages 13-17 how to work with each other combining diversity, using broadcast media, technology, and engaging them with others in an increasingly broadcasting world. They will learn the basic media tools in a fun collaborative environment which provides our youth with the skills to utilize the media technologies in a positive and productive way. This camp is a great way to break the fear of public speaking and will teach campers how to articulate.

 Camp Cost: $300.00 per week w/Lunch & 2 snacks 

Deposit $60.00 (non-refundable) to hold camper(s) weekly space. Remaining balance paid prior to or on the 1st day of camp, or pay the amount in full to hold camper(s) space.

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5 Crucial Life Skills to Teach Your Children for Success

Life skills for little ones.

How to be a successful parent: 59 most important life skills we teach our children

Friday Four: NCSheroes 2016-Why It’s Awesome!

It’s back! NCSheroes! NC Sheroes is a yearly celebration of amazing women from the state of North Carolina! These women are trailblazers in their own rights ranging from the music industry to homeschooling with out fear. It will be held at Beatties Ford Road Library, in Charlotte NC on 04.02.2016 at 11;30am -1:30pm I have four reasons why you should not miss it!

  1. Our awardees:

trTawanna Ross is not only a Property Manager at Charlotte Housing Authority, and CEO of Make Jesus Famous, she is also  a full time mom!

Tawana Ross is a voice to the nations. Born and raised in Brooklyn, New York, her anointed voice is as “one crying in the wilderness” while giving God the Glory always. She is humble, yet her determination to fulfill her calling from God has captured the attention of the nations. Tawana’s character, integrity, agape love, and scriptural honesty provide her the ability to touch the hearts of individuals and the Church.

She does yearly toy drives, concerts and mission trips through out the year and you can find out more about Tawana  HERE, on Facebook-and by phone -704-763-9353
Bedrock Gospel http://www.bedrockgospel.com/

 

Danielle Appleman Papageorgiou has been homeschooling, or “lifeschooling,” for 14 yearsd
and has run the WINGS Homeschool Group for the past eight. She has a passion for helping other homeschoolers learn how to homeschool in a way that does not compete with family life, but actually enhances it…homeschooling done in a spirit of freedom, not legalism. Danielle has been married to her amazing husband, Jon, for 16 years and they have three talented and fun children on earth, Konur (14), Elleina (12), and Korban (4), as well as a baby girl, Myla Grace (born at 14 weeks) in heaven. Konur recently released a computer game online (KhanAcademy.com)

 

 

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Cassie Pressley is a 15 year old vegan baker from Charlotte NC. She is a Jr. at Providence High School and she creates clean treats. Her signature line includes smash cakes, raw cakes and lactation treats. As an amateur baker and home-school to public school student, she  began following the lineage of great chefs in her family and  days of Spring break under  Ms. Renora, a family friend. After watching documentaries on documentaries on animal cruelty  Cassie was inspired to combine her passion for vegan-ism and anything sweet to establish Cassie’s Sweetz. She delivers locally and ships anywhere. http://cassiessweetz.webs.com/

 

kLeeAnn Shattuck is the co-owner and Chief Car Chick of Women’s Automotive Solutions as well as an automotive expert, speaker, author, radio & television host, and champion race car driver. LeeAnn is passionate about educating women about cars and about empowering them to make informed decisions when purchasing, selling and servicing automobiles. Known around the world as “The Car ChickTM”, LeeAnn has been featured on national radio and television programs and regularly co-hosts the internationally syndicated radio show, “America’s Garage”. She also stared in the Speed Channel’s new reality show, “R U Faster Than a Redneck”, along side comedian Jon Reep, NASCAR legend Kenny Wallace, and Dukes of Hazard star John Schneider.
LeeAnn’s Dream Car: That’s a tough one. So may cars, so little time… but, I’m a Porsche girl at heart, so a 911 Turbo convertible. (No offense, Maggie.) Click here to find out more about LeeAnn   Shattuck    Office: 704-248-8706

 

Melody Gross is the owner of NeferMut (beautiful mother) Birthing in Charlotte, Northdr
Carolina. NeferMut provides labor/doula support  for mothers and their partners including physical and emotional support, advocacy and evidence based information. Melody received her training with Ubuntu Birth Workers Collective. She holds a professional membership with Evidence Based Birth. She is also the co-founder of Charlotte Doulas of Color. As a passionate advocate for pregnancy choice for women of color; Melody will also include Childbirth Educator and Breastfeeding Consultant to her list of capabilities.

 

 

 

 

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Jennifer Tremblay is a Charlotte-based Certified Holistic Health Coach, specializing in natural health solutions, including Essential Oils… plant-based medicine. She has a passion for sharing healthy tips and recipes, and helping others to get and stay well. And, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree… her daughter, Samantha, is also a Certified Health Coach. Jennifer earned her MBA in Entrepreneurial Thinking and Innovative Practices in 2008 and graduated from the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in 2013. She coaches and teaches both in-person and online, and has authored several books and safe Cleanse programs. While she primarily works with women between 40 and 65, she also has a special place in her heart for those struggling with disease, and the people who love them. She has seen first-hand with her husband (of 31 years), Paul, who has Parkinson’s disease, how switching to better food and lifestyle choices has dramatically improved his quality of life and slowed the progression of the Parkinson’s symptoms. She enjoys playing tennis, rollerblading and organic gardening.

 

2.  It’s on a Saturday! Everyone has something important to share, and if that beautiful energy is wasted, then the world never gets to see it, and a girl misses out on what it feels like to be strong, free, worthy and capable. What better day to gain knowledge, self improvement and be entertained? These women have such incredible stories to tell. They will inspire to you reach your dreams regardless of your today. It’s worth  two hours of your time. Especially if you have a young child(ren).  This is where you should be with them!

 

3.It’s designed to support, strengthen and empower women to grow into the best versions of themselves.It is very easy to tell girls, ‘Be strong, you are beautiful, you are capable, don’t do this, do that, don’t worry about that, who cares what others think, etc. What is missing is 
the idea of instilling worth. That’s what this ceremony does!

 

4. There will be free parking, free admission and free refreshments! What more can you ask for? See you Saturday!

 

Thank You and Love to all of our Community of Sponsors, Partners and Supporters, QC Supermom

 

Wednesday WOW: NC Sheroes; “Moving Forward”

Sometimes Sheroes are right in our back yard!  They are the ones that get up everyday, no matter what’s going on at home, in their mind, or in their account and make it happen. No excuses , no delays- they are unselfishly walking in their calling and impressing the world one day, move, and thought at a time.

You may or may not  know their names, or ever spoken to them, but you’ve seen them or results of their incredible work. They are “Sheroes; Moving Forward!”

 

 

 

On April 2nd, at 11″30 am, We will honor our sheroes by resting their capes and revealing why they are so bold, brave and unstoppable!

 

In honor of Women’s History Month, the Charlotte Mecklenburg Public Library presents NC SHEROES  “Moving Forward!”

 

THIS IS OUR 2nd year celebrating with MomsRising NC  and my moms group Queen City Stay At Home Moms.

 

We will honor 6 amazing women, who have made significant contributions to the Women’s movement right here in North Carolina.

After an introduction, we will award each Shero. Then go into a Round-table. Come prepared to find out why women matter and should be empowered to have a voice! Bring a child with you. It’s lessons like these that stick with them!

 

Here is our impressive line up!

Tawanna Ross- Award wining Gospel Hip Hop artist

Asha Sims- Gentle Yoga instructor

Melody Gross- Doula

 Nadine Ford – Farmer/gardener

Cassie Pressley- Teen Vegan Baker

Tina B. – Social activist

Special Guest TBA later.

Sweet Right?!  We’ll see you there! This ceremony is complete with  refreshments! So don’t worry about stopping for breakfast. And …Yes bring the kids, we’ll have a station for them to entertain themselves need be.

April 2,2016

11:30 Am

Beatties Ford Public Library, Charlotte NC

All are welcomed and encourage to attend. Free Parking, Refreshments and Admission

RSVP Here or Here! 

 

This is from last year. More videos are on YouTube. (go on and click it, it’ll show)

College Weekend In The QC With My Teens!

I graduated from Johnson and Wales University with two degrees. It was a fun wild and time to put it mildly. Some 20 years later, if  I knew then, what I know now, I may have attended a Vocation/Trade school. For some reason, I grew up thinking it was an automatic decision.

It would have saved me time and loads of money. BUT then I wouldn’t be QC Supermom right? No looking back! But what I CAN do is ensure I prepare a spread of options before my children, and encourage them to find their own path.  With that in mind, we are now prepping 3 daughters for life after high school .

Over the weekend, I took two of my daughters to two separate fairs this weekend. Both were extremely informative!

So much so that it got me thinking about going back to school to enhance what I’m doing now in my birthing services. But that’s another story for another day.

The Fast Track hosted Saturday ‘s Trade School Fair.  We met LaTanya Gray from Brightwood College. (I LOVE HER!)  It was reassuring to have the kids hear what I’ve always tell them. Listen in…..

 

I was really impressed with the quality of schools there. Who knew that AVEDA  offered such a holistic menu of services. Did You Know that with their program you can become a licensed cosmetologist and Esthiology at the same time?

 

I also learned that Job Corp isn’t what I thought it was. It has changed A LOT since the 90’s. No more do they pay students when they go home for the Christmas holiday.  I also found out that they do not go after “trouble youth” anymore. But they can refer you to an agency that does. Note: They are still FREE!

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The other companies in attendance was:

  • The Charlotte Star Room
  • ITT Technical Institute
  • Central Piedmont Community College -Kawan Bilal told us about the 3D printers making salads and ears! No joke! (STEM Programs)
  • ECPI University
  • Paul Mitchel
  • The Iron Yard
  • The Arts Institute
  • and Carolina School Of Broad Casting

On Saturday, the International College Fair was like entering a new world. I NEVER considered attending college aboard! Spain, Brazil, Switzerland, China, the U.K, Paris; Oh my! I was impressed. Many of the schools that were inside the U.S. offered internships aboard to help broaden their horizons.

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Sweet Briar College is an All- Female college

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What I figured out is that Trade School are for those that knows EXACTLY what they want to do. for a career. They teach you a trade. The focus is on preparing students to enter the workforce  upon completion of the course. A good trade school would balance conceptual and practical knowledge. One of the obvious advantages of vocational education is that it’s relatively quick: usually students complete their studies in just one or two years instead of four.

The average trade school in the U.S costs $33,000,

Traditional colleges are for those who are aren’t quite sure yet. If you have an academic bent of mind, you’re better off in a traditional college.  By design you get more classes that tends to funnel your interests into one  or maybe two concentrations.Oh and the Greek Life! Sororities and fraternities are great places to meet like-minded people and forge life-long friendships.(Something else that I didn’t do)

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TorShonda Howard from Warner University. She is ONE Resourceful Woman! 

The average bachelor’s degree in the United States costs $127,000.

Get More Technical here with hybrid-education

Trade School Maybe Better For You If…….

 RoseDale reported that the trade school scholar salary isn’t that much of a drop-off compared to a four year degree.(that statement is very vague if you ask me)  In short, explore all options and make it’s the best fit for you! The worst feeling is to question your decisions years later and be buried in student education loans.Is trade school the best or traditional college way to go is  in part, on the student’s ultimate educational and career goals.

Happy college trails my friends,

QC Supermom

Friday Four: Lessons From a Student Athlete’s Mom

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I think everyone has a story, but If I may, let me tell you why I am sitting here smiling from ear to ear.  It’s a classic story. Teen girl from a small town get pregnant and quits school to raise her child and never leaves the small town.BUT this isn’t my story!

I had a son at 16 years old. I finished college. Got married. Now I work from home . Today, that child graduates from college  with a college degree in May!

Be Happy For Where You Are.

  Be the Best At What You Are.

But Never Stay Where You Are- KLP

I will never claim to know everything. But these are four tips I want to share with you to help get through those college years with your student athlete!

  1. Provide Birth Control– Since my son was not a virgin upon entering college, stopping at the big box store to purchase supplies including a large box of condoms was on list of “Must Do!” I didn’t want to play stupid. My son is a 6’8  basketball player. Grown women ,non African american women, and everything in between was hitting on him before he left for school and I knew that attending college and left to his own desires……. it would not end. So as always, it’s better safe than sorry parents.
  2. Stay Connected like AT&T– Now there’s FaceTime, Texting, Instagram, SnapChat,  and even cheap gas (yes, I said it) While there is nothing like a care package or phone call, don’t limit yourself to those two things. Be your child’s biggest fan! You should always be his/her biggest support system. College is stressful and can be over whelming.Continue to guide your child.                           Those pressley Boys 7-6-2015 12-21-33 PM
  3. Be supportive like banker– Give them money but be very discriminate. If you were giving them allowance when they were home, continue sending them money. Unless they are at a D1 school*, where money is slipped to them (athletes) here and there, your child is gonna need money for his/ her basic needs. Yet, be smart about it. There’s nothing more regretful than paying for your child to party their way out of school. Now some kids will get little jobs while taking classes. That’s a great thing.You may still have to help with upkeep of the car and other misc things.
  4. Accept help with a crystal ball.- giWhen my son first started playing basketball, everyone wanted to “help.” Then when he felt like being a goof ball and messing up, they fled. Nothing hurts more than that, for him or myself. From that experience, I’ve learned to evaluate everyone on a individual basis. I know that everyone that smiles in our face isn’t always the best one to trust with your child. It’s true,Not everyone wants something. Finding sincerely good people can be hard at times. But when you do find someone to look out for your son – you keep them. And you make sure they know that they are appreciated. I sleep so good at night knowing that almost every game my son has ever went to, there were warm hugs and familiar smiles waiting for him in that city. Even on campus, he has a circle of people that love him for who he his. That’s a blessing!                                                             https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KiGoh1BUJk4

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