Wednesday Wow: Mama’s, Let’s Make Some Bread At Home

If you recall, last week, I began telling you about opportunities to really make money while being a stay at home and work from home mom. This week I’m actually giving you links and other resources to help you stress less, bring something to the table and build your self esteem. These suggestions do not work for everyone. They all require real work and are free to begin.I am personally knowledgeable of each point below. So please click on the links. Also note that because I do, it doesn’t mean I’m a member of each of them. ( Personally I would never sign up for a program that charge me anyway)

Check out Cassie Sweetz

Check out Cassie Sweetz

 You may as well have fun with your lil one now. Why wait? Pick a design and let’s have some fun. Our artist can paint…

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Private, CPR certified, mobile sitter and small event planner in Charlotte, NC.

Private, CPR certified, mobile sitter and small event planner in Charlotte, NC.

Now a wave of smartphone apps, including Checkout 51, Ibotta and Snap by Groupon, allow you to take a photo of your receipt from the grocery store to earn cash back on certain items without clipping coupons. Another app, ReceiptHog, rewards users for uploading their receipts rather than rewarding them for purchasing specific products.

More GREAT RESOURCES

This list is loaded with leads and in-depth instructions! 

7 INSPIRING HOME BUSINESS IDEAS FOR STAY-AT-HOME MOMS

Work-from-home ideas for stay-at-home moms

10 Best Jobs You Can Do From Home

This list can be used by anyone- like consignment shop, diaper cake maker…… you know normal easy stuff!

15 Surprising Work-from-Home Jobs

This site shows you HOW to get these jobs! 

This list is the realist! Good Money making ideas!

She’s has a nice list too! 

Okay, this should get you off to a great start, Thank me by sharing,liking or even better adding your tips! There are so many moms looking for real- legal money answers!  Now let’s make some MONEY!!!

J, QC Supermom

Friday Four: Hosting a Summer Sit in Movie!

Nothing says “summer” like outdoor entertaining.There’s just something about a classic movie and a warm, summer evening that go together so darn well. With summer breezing in, now’s the perfect time to start planning a movie night party for a few friends. Throwing an outdoor movie night doesn’t have to require a lot of stuff or be expensive, but it does need a little planning ahead to make sure everyone enjoys themselves.
Blog_Movie_Night_HeaderWe’ve got the ideas and tips to make yours go off without a hitch:

1) Pick the right spot You’ll want to find a spot—could be a backyard, patio, porch, garage—where you can control the amount of light at night (in other words, don’t plan one in your backyard if there’s a bright streetlight that could ruin the fun). Not everyone has a backyard, so get creative with your space!

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2) Provide the right equipment Your basic essentials are a movie player (like a DVD player or computer), a screen, side of a house, a projector, and a sound system. Don’t let that sound too complicated; it’s easier to set up than you think. And don’t let the price or technology scare you away; you can easily have an intimate movie night with a television set or computer brought outside, too. Once the projector is secured, make sure to do a dry run to ensure you’ve got all the right cables and connective equipment. There’s nothing more embarrassing or frustrating than an equipment malfunction, am I right? Don’t forget the speakers!

3) Make sure you’ve got a good movie Consider the crowd that will be coming and choose accordingly. It could be a classic, a family-friendly one or a great comedy.  We are showing Cafeteria Man.  It’s based on ———————————————————————cafe

4) Accommodate with comfortable seating You don’t have to go out and buy fancy outdoor seating,blankets on the ground can be the perfect thing for a movie night, but plenty of affordable outdoor seating options can be found.

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5) De-bug the area Consider spraying before guests arrive and have plenty of bug spray for guests. You don’t have to douse yourself in harsh chemicals; they have lots of more natural options to repel bugs.

6) Utilize soft lights like candles You want it dark enough to see the movie, but you also want a little light for function and ambiance.

7) Don’t forget to get your neighbors involved An outdoor movie event could potentially be disturbing to the homes around yours, so let your neighbors know ahead of time your plans and maybe even invite them to the fun!

What will you eat? May I suggest this—> MovieNight_15

Besides the traditional buttered and salted popcorn, try these:

  • Curry popcorn: 1/2 cup popcorn kernels popped in vegetable oil tossed with 1 tablespoon curry powder (4 servings)

  • Bacon popcorn: 1/2 cup popcorn kernels popped in 1 tablespoon bacon fat; drizzle with 1/4 stick of melted butter and 1 tablespoon of maple syrup; toss. Sprinkle two strips of crispy turkey bacon, crumbled, on top of popcorn. (4 servings) –Sheknows

Do all of that, or just drop in to one in your area. If near Charlotte, NC, click —–>HERE! <—–

Eat this*at the movie night!

Healthier snacks and screens info*!

Yay! Pinterest Board* for Movie Night!

Movie Nights for EVERYONE!!!!! EVERY where*!

3 Lies Outdoor Movie Equipment Providers Will Tell You

DON’T FORGET TO CLICK ALL THE PICTURE LINKS!!!!! :)

See you at the movies!

Kelle,  QC Supermom

Get Paid to Test Products

Before you buy it…. try it! Get PAID to be a Product Tester. I clare you’ll love it AND the people you share your opinions with will appreciate the heads up!

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Dove has been one of my favorite companies ever to review for.

 Did you know that you can become a product tester for Top Brand Companies and get paid to review their products and try their services?  Yep, you can and all for free!

I’ve been testing products and attending events for the past 7 years and love doing it!  I get the first exclusive look at up and coming products and services! With 6 of my 9 children in the house, I get to enjoy products and services that not only save us money, but also solves our many need.  Then we get to talk about it!!!!

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The reason for testing is that Top Brands would like to know what consumers think about new products they’re developing to be sent to stores and communities Or to get a boost in last minutes sales in a particular community. It saves them time, and money.

Wonder How Product Testing Works and How You Can Become a Product Tester?


First, you’ll need to sign up with a company that offers product testing at home.  Once you do this the company will send you emails to fill out screeners to see if you’ll qualify for their up and coming product testing.  Once you fill out their screener survey, they’ll let you know at the end if you qualify or not.  For example, let say the company is looking for people to test out their beauty product, if you don’t use a certain beauty product they want you to test then you won’t qualify.

Once you get the approval to test, the company will ask for your address to send you the product to test for a week or two.  Then they’ll follow up with you with an email asking questions about the product you’ve tested.  Once you’re done, you get paid!


How Much Can You Make Being a Product Tester? 

Some reviews require a blog post. This is how I complete most of  them as a breast feeding mom.

Some reviews require a blog post. This is how I complete most of them as a breast feeding mom.

About 98% of the times you get to keep the product you’ve tested which is great!!!  How much you get paid varies.  I’ve been paid anywhere from $5-$100. No it’s not vacation pay, but if you do enough, you should be able to cover gas, a utility payment or even sports classes for your kids!

Because I am a bit cautious about what I use in our bodies, finding food & personal care items can be nerve wrecking but once I find those brands I really get excited about my profession! Lately the boys have been getting a ton of compliments so I maybe looking for more kids brands to add to my service.

Next Monday, I’ll give you a list of companies to sign up  with for product reviews!

Bert Bees hooked me onto some amazing clean products.

Bert Bees hooked me onto some amazing clean products.

Take Care!

Kelle, QC Supermom

Here’s the vegan hip-hop playlist you never knew you needed

QC SuperMom:

Think veganism is just for weirdos? Honey you betta think again!

Originally posted on Grist:

What do members of the Wu-Tang Clan, Jay Z, Beyonce, Jermaine Dupri, and André 3000 have in common? They’ve all dabbled in veganism. It’s all about the brassicas, baby. 

First We Feast has the story:

In light of the music industry’s pitfalls, this emerging trend should come as no surprise. Years spent toggling between stints on the road and late-night studio sessions fueled by a diet of greasy foods, processed snacks, and boatloads of fine spirits take a toll on the body. Stic Man, from the group Dead Prez, describes his transition in grisly terms: “I was surviving on smoke, bourbon, and hot dogs and then I was diagnosed with gout,” he says. His wife, a vegan chef, encouraged him to realign his diet — a move he says has paid dividends and set him on a course of spiritual enlightenment. Now Stic tends to his community garden and lights up…

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Smash Cakes: Because your Baby is the King/Queen Of All Babies!

Nine babies and I only had 2 smash cakes! What was I thinking of? They are so cute, fun, and just plain smart!

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I know a great vegan baker in Charlotte NC. See Cassie Sweetz

Who wants a cake a lil hand all over their cake? REALLY??? Lil Mikey can be the cutest thing since Kermit the Frog, but uuugh, I’ll pass on the booger laced slime delight.

A smash cake is typically given to the birthday child at the first birthday celebration and is to be smashed, smeared, enjoyed and eaten by the birthday boy or birthday girl (remember to take lots of photos for the album!). Increasingly, people are making two cakes for the 1st birthday party: a smash cake and the main decorated birthday cake. The birthday guest of honor gets to have fun with the smash cake while the main birthday cake can be enjoyed by the guests, untouched by little hands.

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There are several ways to create a first birthday smash cake. A smash cake is usually a mini cake that matches the party theme, however any cake will do. The smash cake can be as simple as a vanilla cupcake (a giant cupcake is perfect) or as complex as a smaller version of the main cake. The possibilities are endless!

Remember to remove any cookie sticks, decorative pix or candles before you serve the smash cake and be sure to spread newspapers under your child’s chair to catch the mess!

Order it from Cassie’s Sweetz or make it your self! Or you can click on the links of each picture for more details.

PRETTY IN PINK CAKE

Rose Levy Beranbaum’s white velvet cake is my go-to cake for birthdays. You can pair it with almost any frosting or filling. Although Beranbaum prefers a non-chocolate frosting on this cake like this one, I think a silky chocolate buttercream frosting works just fine here if it’s not overly chocolate-y.

If you have only two 9-inch pans like I do, follow this recipe to make the first two layers. After they have cooled and you have another pan available, halve the recipe to make a third layer. This will give you three 1 1/8-inch cake layers.

INGREDIENTS:

For The Cake:4 1/2 large egg whites
1 cup milk
2 1/4 teaspoons vanilla
1 1/2 cups sugar
3 cups sifted cake flour
1 tablespoon + 1 teaspoon baking powder
1/4 teaspoon salt
12 tablespoons unsalted butter, room temperature

DIRECTIONS:

STEP 1: MAKE THE CAKE

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease two 9-inch cake pans with butter and line the bottoms with parchment paper. Grease tops of parchment paper and dust lightly with flour.

Combine ¼ cup milk, the egg whites and the vanilla in a bowl and set aside.

Add the dry ingredients to a large bowl or the bowl of an electric mixer and mix on low for 30 seconds. Add the butter and remaining ¾ cup milk, and mix on low speed until the dry ingredients are moistened. Increase to medium speed (or high if you’re using a hand mixer) and beat for 1 ½ minutes. Scrape down the sides, and add the egg mixture in 3 batches, beating for 20 seconds after each addition.

Scrape the batter into the pans and smooth the tops with a spatula. The pans should be about ½ full. Bake 25-35 minutes or until a tester inserted into the center comes out clean. You will want the cake to spring back when pressed lightly.

Cool the cakes for 10 minutes, then loosen the sides with a knife or spatula. Remove from pans.

STEP 2: MAKE THE FROSTING

Make your favorite frosting. I am partial to an Italian meringue buttercream.

STEP 3: ASSEMBLE AND FROST THE CAKE

Using a cake leveler, evenly cut the tops off the cake so the layers are equal height.

Spread an even layer of frosting on top of the first cake layer and stick the cake in the freezer for 10 minutes or until the frosting is set. Add the second cake layer and repeat with frosting and freezer time. Add the third layer and spread a thin layer of frosting on top of the cake and around the sides of the cake – this is your crumb coat. Put cake in the freezer for 5 minutes or until frosting is set. Add a final thin layer of frosting to the top and sides of the cake, making sure it has a smooth finish. Place the cake in the freezer, covered, until you’re ready to decorate.

STEP 4: DECORATE THE CAKE

For the final fondant decoration, please see Not Without Salt’s instructions. I used 2 lbs of red buttercream fondant (with some leftover) and 4 lbs of white buttercream fondant (with some leftover). I used “antique white” to cover the cake and “wedding white” to make the strips.

If you’re making a 9-inch cake, you will need another set of hands to help you wrap the fondant around the cake, that is, unless you come up with a better system or technique than I did. If so, please share!

It’s your baby’s first birthday! Let him dig into his first birthday cake toddler-style with an adorable smash cake that’s almost too cute to eat. Almost.

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Everything Else to Know about Smash Cakes

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(Be sure to click all of the links in this post for more details)

Friday Four: Age Appropriate Tragic Conversations with Children

“Stop burning these churches and killing each other over race! This crap is scaring my children.”

I am the wife and mother to NINE children. We have a 4 boys under 9, 3 living teen girls under 17 and one college son in his early 20’s ….. and one 11yr old in heaven. When my daughter transitioned, I questioned God. Then my “Salt OF The Earth” mom left shortly after her and I really had questions for my heavenly father. I’ve always been told that there would be questions made clearer as time proceeded. That has to be true.  I wouldn’t want my mom to see this mess of a world we often see today.

When tragedy happen, there are always at least two different discussions to be had with the children. AFTER we have understood the facts our-self, we try to be as timely and transparent as possible with the children.

http://www.twcnews.com/nc/charlotte/news/2015/06/26/addressing-the-tragedy-in-charleston-to-kids.html

Parents play a valuable role in reducing violence by raising children in safe and loving homes. Here are suggestions that can help. You may not be able to follow each one exactly, but doing what you can will make a difference in your children’s lives. Here’s four strategies to help you guarantee a strong foundation.

1. Make sure your family have a strong sense of self and self defense skills. A mom love your familyasked me in a private message, ”  How can I keep my kids on the straight and narrow when everything around us in living crazy? They see sexuality at school, fighting down the street, their friends are shoplifting…….etc, etc., etc.,”

I suggest Ed, from the Preparedness Consulting Group They specialize in Victim Mitigation, Emergency Preparedness Planning, Providing Personal Protection Devices,Pepper Spray, Mace, Stun Guns, Personal Alarms, Security Cameras, Hidden Cameras and Medical Eqpt.

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2. Understand when to play poker or walk away. Last year, we had Thea from Gracie Barra Charlotte, to join us a the 5th Total Children’s Wellness Fair to demonstrate various self defense strategies to the children. From Thea and her family based company, the children gained confidence in themselves. While no child should go looking for a fight, I think all children should know some type of self defense.

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3. Know what to say to your children and when. You are their first teacher. They are gonna automatically follow your lead. Show them ways to solve problems without violence. In our home, when my  husband and I get frustrated with each other, we will either go to our room away from them or wait until everyone is asleep to continue if it can’t be resolved in front of them.

4. Keep your children aware and secure. In your home, you are the boss. Restrict violence from the tv ( make sure you know what TV shows your children watch) and if necessary outside; may that be neighborhood friends, family (Accompany your children to supervised play activities and watch how they get along with others. Teach your children how to respond appropriately when others use insults or threats or deal with anger by hitting. Explain to your children that these are not appropriate behaviors, and encourage them to avoid other children who behave that way)- and  even the  internet, where any and everything goes. Be sure that they know that they don’t always have to agree to get along.

Be safe & Behave

QC Supermom

Wednesday WoW: BEST DIY Chick Fil A Cow Costumes

Are you ready for Cow Appreciation Day by Chick Fil A? I clare I am.

I  have already began the DIY thrills !

It’s simple, easy and loads of family fun. The more you dress up, the more free food you will receive!  Dress head to hoof in costume and you’ll get a FREE MEAL! Dress in a partial costume and you’ll get a FREE ENTREE! So dress your herd and get to your nearest Chick Fil A !

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With four little boys and two teen girls in tow, there’s gonna be a lot of cutting, pasting and measuring. I can’t wait!

Here are some fun ideas to get your creative minds flowing:

  1. Start with items that you already have at home — cow-printed accessories stashed in your closet will work perfectly. Hats, vests, scarves, neckties, pants, shoes and pajamas — just about any cow-spotted item will work. Just make sure you’re covered head to toe.
  2. Wear white, and then just add spots. Throw on a white T-shirt with white pants (even sweatpants) and stick on your spots using black paper. You can cut spots out of construction paper and tape them to your shirt and pants. If nothing else, you can grab an old white T-shirt and color black spots all over it with a marker – and you’ll still get a FREE entrée.

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                                         He insisted on being a red cow!

I LOVE dressing my babies up. I do it every chance I get because I know soon and very soon, they will not want to have this type of fun with me.

The only thing is I always  wait until the last day to make our costumes for EVERYONE, We then end up with the pdf print outs from the official Chick Fil A page, complete with black sweat pants and shirt with white construction sheet dots sporadically placed. Not exactly picturesque, but I’m going for broke this year!  I gotta have something for the children to look back at a feel embarrassed by.

This year I want to get fancy! So I’m putting together my “Cow Ideas” early! If you find yourself lost as I often do, you may want to save this link for your own family prepping needs. Ok, now, be sure to click the highlighted links. You’ll go directly to the sources I placed here on my page. (I’m not reinventing the wheel- there are so many great ideas out there already) Like this one, it includes a cow’s udder!!! So Yes, the sky is the limit! Enjoy & have FUN!!!!

Heads Up friends…what counts as a full costume and a partial costume is up to your manager, so do your best. Watch more here from previous years! Mooooo!  <—–Click to see an online album. Here’s the Tumbler page too!

P.S. I’ll share our pictures on Facebook when we are done so follow me over there! I maybe able to get my daughters to recreate this into a cow costume- complete with more printable templates from Chick Fil A.—— this would be too sweet—>

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Capsaicin Cream Recipe

Did I tell you about my “40 by 40″ mission? Okay, so here it is. This October, I will be 40. Clothes I loved from years back, I can’t get in them any more. It’s beginning to show in my face and I can’t suck it in anymore. Because of those reasons, I’ve been hitting the gym 5 days a week for a total of 13.5 hours a week. Well, it caught up with me last weekend. I was a mess. I couldn’t move my pelvic area from the front to buttocks. The pain was crippling to say the least.

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As the organizer for Queens Fitness, I couldn’t miss a workout!  Sunday Night it came to an end. I was bedridden,broken, and bored! First thing I did was fast. The plan was to minimize trips to the bathroom.  I didn’t want to break anyone’s back either.. Needless to say, I loved the fact that had so many shoulders and hands to take care of me. Yet loathe being dependent.  I pulled out my phone and began to look for low toxic remedies. ( well, I actually call my local herbalist, but it took her too long to respond & I had already taken 2 store brand pain pills ) Here’s what I found:

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 Capsaicin Relief  Recipe  –

 Capsaicin the substance that makes chile peppers hot, has been found to reduce pain in arthritis patients when topically applied repeatedly over several is weeks.  Researchers have found that it reduces substance P which is found at nerve endings and is involved in transmitting pain signals to the brain.

You will need…
-3 cups of grapeseed oil, or any other oil like almond, jojoba, or olive
-3 tablespoons of ground cayenne                                   -1/2 cup of beeswax
-3 tablespoons of turmeric                                                 -2 tablespoons of ground ginger
-A double boiler

Directions:
Mix together 3 tablespoons of ground cayenne, 3 tablespoons of turmeric, and 2 tablespoons of ground ginger. Add this to 3 cups of grapeseed oil in a double boiler and stir until mixed thoroughly. Warm over medium heat for 5-10 minutes and then add in 1/2 cup of beeswax. Stir until the beeswax has melted completely and everything is blended together, and then remove from heat and chill in the refrigerator for 10 minutes. After 10 minutes take it out and whisk it together and then refrigerate for another 10, blending it once more at the end. Put in a glass jar with a tightly fitting lid in the refrigerator, where it will keep for 1 ½ weeks. Apply as needed for pain, but with this cream, rub in as much as you can and then let it dry before rinsing off. The turmeric will really stain. Important note on use!

INGREDIENTS

  • about 1/2 cup coconut oil 
  • 1 1/4 cups finely grated, packed cocoa butter (I used a cheese grater)*
  • 2 tablespoons cayenne powder
  • 2 teaspoons ginger powder
  • 15 drops peppermint oil**
  • 15 drops eucalyptus oil
  • 8 drops clove oil***
  • 1 teaspoon arrowroot powder or non-GMO cornstarch (optional – reduces oily finish)

* If you prefer to skip grating and use weight to measure the total should be about 2 oz. THIS recipe came from ‘Massage By Denise’ -go there for the directions…

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NOTE:
If you don’t want the little bits of spices in there, follow the steps below to get a smooth infused oil to use in the cream (this makes it easier to get absorbed.)
Mix together your oil and spices for whichever recipe you choose to do. Heat over medium heat in a double boiler for 15 minutes, and then remove it to cool and infuse for 30 minutes. After 30 minutes, strain through a cheesecloth and reserve the infused oil. After it is strained melt the beeswax in a double boiler, and pour in the infused oil. Stir until blended thoroughly, and then follow the same steps for chilling, whipping, and storing as above.

Warning: These spices stain. Wear an apron or clothes you don’t mind putting at risk when making these.

And the classes will be fun again after I’m back on my feet! QueensFitness

The links is loaded with resources too-

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Capsaicin

Capsaicin Cream

Chemo Pops

Hope this proves to be a blessing for you as well. If so tell me about it!

QC Supermom

The Father’s Day Hunt

Every mom has been there before. It’s hours before Father’s Day and you have NOTHING to give as a gift. No time to panic! Pull it together and get those juices flowing is the mission for today!

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I haven’t asked the children what they want yet because they have been so busy helping me get better from this muscle spasm in my back and ovaries. But It just so happens that they are all away and that gives me time to brain storm via Pinterest, Google, and magazine for ideas!

So I’m looking for something

  • Reusabledads gifts in jars
  • Yummy
  • Funny
  • Simple

and most of all affordable!

I liked this key chain

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He would wear this. it’s not to dressy or flashy. Just like my husband. Just as this T-shirt. Simple, Strong and really eye candy!  Now the children will also want to gift him. I have put together an entiredad_the_man_great_gift_for_fathers_day_tshirt-r8315cc44627e4c7bae74bb1529391fe5_vj7bu_324

Pinteret board for that. Starting with this cute idea here!

I think you have the idea!.Hopefully this will be another great celebration of our guy! He does so much for us and to not celebrate him on such a  thoughtful day is just selfish. Love is an action and we have an overabundance of it to share!

My Earthly Dad

With these three words,
“Dear Heavenly Father,”
I begin my every prayer,
But the man I see
While on bended knee
Is always my earthly dad.

He is the image
Of the Father divine
Reflecting the nature of God,
For his love and care
And the faith he shared
Pointed me to my Father above.

daddy and QC Supermom

Adios friends

QC Supermom

A letter to my mamas, from your doula

Dear Mama –

Thank for allowing me to server you and your family. I was your doula and I’ve always thought that, if I did my job well, then you would only remember how amazing YOU were when it was time to birth your baby.

Birth is hard work and I hate how our culture presents it as a nice, tidy little inconvenience.

But you went against that cultural norm and chose to birth your baby with the help of a midwife, with all of the pain, bodily fluids, doubt, and triumph that come along with choosing that path.

You were beautiful. I know, I know … you hadn’t showered for two days and you threw up six times … but when you got to 8cm, there was a beautiful glow in your cheeks. … and beads of sweat on your lip.  I put a cool washcloth on your forehead, knowing that you were near holding your baby, knowing that there might still be a ton of work to do, and knowing that every moment would be worth it for you.

You frantically looked around and gasped “I can’t do this anymore.”

And I looked you in the eye and said, “You can do this. You are doing this. Don’t be afraid!”

And you believed me, as well you should have, because I was telling you the truth.

I knew the baby would be moving down with these powerful contractions as your cervix melted away.  And I told you “You’ll feel a lot of pressure, like you have to poop a bowling ball.”  And then, when that happened (the pressure, not the bowling ball!), you had a brief moment when the recognition of “Oh! This is what she was talking about!” passed over your face as the contraction faded away.

I didn’t tell you to push because your body knew damn good and well when it was time to move your baby from your womb to the outside world. And a few contractions (or maybe a few hours) after you’d been pushing, you said, “I think I’m pushing.”  “I know,” I said, “Just keep doing what you’re doing. It’s perfect.” If you were a mama who I did actually tell to push, know that there was a good reason for that.

You may have been in the water, or you may have been on the toilet, you may have been on your hands and knees, or the birth stool, or on your side, or standing up, or flat on your back.  If I look in my birth log at the day of your birth, I’ll remember which of these positions you were in and I’ll remember if it was because I asked you to get in that position or because that is where you instinctively went.

It matters to me where you were when your baby was born.

I remember that moment when we could clearly see the head. I love that your baby’s daddy thought that the top of the baby’s head, when we could see about three inches of it in diameter, was the whole head … and that as the rest of the head emerged his eyes were filled with tears and big as saucers. I remember after your baby’s head was born whether or not your baby turned to the left or to the right. I remember if your baby didn’t turn and I helped straighten the shoulders. I remember your baby coming fully into the world and the look on your face … I remember that in that moment, you became a mama – whether it was for the first time or the ninth time – relief and joy and sweat and sometimes tears intermingled.

I remember if I missed your birth, I remember if I was there three minutes or three days. I remember if we went to the hospital. Believe me when I tell you that I remember all of it.

I handed your baby up to you and just stepped back, always keeping an eye on the two of you. I tried to keep my mouth shut and let you discover your new little person on your own. I’m sorry if I chatted too much.  I sometimes am just so proud of mamas that I can’t contain myself. But I try hard to honor your space and the sacred-ness of new life.

I remember what your immediate postpartum was like, too. Really, I do. I talked to you about how babies process things about six times slower than we do and urged you to keep that in mind as you loved on your baby. And after a few hours, I tucked you into bed and went on my way.

You were beautiful and strong and tired and, I hope, proud.

I got to see you many times over the next six weeks. And after that last appointment, I got in my car and cried. I was so proud of you and so honored to have gotten to be a part of your life that I cried tears of joy, knowing that I may never see you or your precious baby again … but, for these brief months, I hope that I was all that you needed and dreamed of because YOU were all that I dreamed.

And my prayer for you as I drove away that day, “Oh Lord, please help her to remember that she CAN do it, that she IS doing it. Please help her to always remember that her doula said, “I was made for this”

Because I’m a doula, I revised it from the original version from Carrie Blake, CPM, LM