How I Got So Many Babies with So Many Contraceptives available?

My Affirmation: Children are the reward of life. ~ African proverb

The short answer is because, it was Gods will. I only planned for two children; a boy and a girl. And I did. My first two were just that. But the great divine had other plans. And it’s a good thing. Because I lost that daughter in 2005. I ended up with nine. Sometimes I attempt figure it out, as if one could truly read Gods mind. I imagine that woman are physical gods. We are so powerful. Some of us have a specific mission to fulfill during our time here on Earth as leaders, nurturers, creators and intentional first teachers.

The old woman looks after the child to grow its teeth and the young one in turn looks after the old woman when she loses her teeth. ~ Akan (Ghana, Ivory Coast) proverb

And then there are women that don’t want any, Team No Kid , Mrs Michal. (the wife of David in the bible, barrenness, etc.)

Professionally, as a birth doula, I really shouldn’t be sharing this list. Since I am a full spectrum doula and trainer, I would be dismissive to omit this information.


Two ants do not fail to pull one grasshopper. ~ Tanzanian proverb
I’ve tried just about every type of birth control on the market. Methods range from non-hormonal and hormonal to single use and long-lasting use. I have noted which ones I have tried. For some, I’ve given my opinion on how it worked for me.

Here’s what you need to know about several of the birth control methods out there to make the best decision for your body and lifestyle:
  1. Permanent Birth Control (This is what finally worked for me)

A surgical procedure that makes a person who can produce sperm unable to cause a pregnancy or a person who can ovulate unable to become pregnant. Permanent birth control is not reversible and prevents pregnancy 99% of the time. While women can choose from bilateral tubal ligation in the hospital (aka “having your tubes tied”) or a tubal block done in a health center, men may choose a vasectomy. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of a tubal ligation, tubal block or vasectomy.

2. IUD (Non-hormonal/Hormonal) (Tried it.)

A small t-shaped device that is placed inside of the uterus by a health care provider to prevent pregnancy 99% of the time. Less than 1 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they use an IUD. Available in non-hormonal (copper) and hormonal (plastic) options, the IUD is one of the most effective forms of birth control and can last anywhere between 3 to 10 years depending on which type you choose. Non-hormonal and hormonal IUDs work to prevent sperm from fertilizing an egg. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the IUD

3. Implant (Hormonal) (Tried it.)

A small rod placed under the skin in the upper arm by a health care provider to prevent pregnancy 99% of the time. Less than 1 out of 100 women a year will become pregnant using the implant. The implant, which lasts for 3 years, releases the hormone progestin to stop the ovaries from releasing eggs, and it thickens cervical mucus, so it is difficult for sperm to enter the uterus. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the implant

4. The Shot (Hormonal) (Yup, tried it too!) It was the worst for me. My mood swings were awful

An injection given by a medical professional of the hormone progestin in the arm or hip that lasts three months and prevents pregnancy 99% of the time. Less than 1 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they always use the shot as directed. The shot, also known as Depo-Provera, stops the ovaries from releasing eggs and thickens the cervical mucus, so it is difficult for sperm to enter the uterus. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the shot

5. The Vaginal Ring (Hormonal) (used it for 3 weeks. )

A flexible ring that is inserted into the vagina each month for three weeks at a time that prevents pregnancy 99% of the time. Less than 1 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they always use the ring as directed. The vaginal ring releases hormones that stop the ovaries from releasing eggs and thickens cervical mucus, so it is difficult for sperm to enter the uterus. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the ring

6. Patch (Hormonal) My daughter father LOVED this one. But after I got pregnant, I stopped using it too.

The patch is applied (like a sticker) weekly anywhere on the skin (except for the breasts) and prevents pregnancy 99% of the time. Less than 1 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they always use the patch as directed. The patch releases hormones that stop the ovaries from releasing eggs, and it thickens cervical mucus, so it is difficult for sperm to enter the uterus. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the patch.

7. The Pill (Hormonal) (I consider the pill to be the gateway into birth control. I was on it at 16. I wasn’t consistent. I failed the pill. )

A pill that should be taken at the same time every day for maximum effectiveness, which is often used to reduce cramping and bleeding during periods and that prevents pregnancy 99% of the time. Less than 1 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they take the pill each day as directed. The pill releases hormones (progestin-only or a combination of hormones) to stop the ovaries from releasing eggs and thickens cervical mucus, so it is difficult for sperm to enter the uterus. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the pill.

8. Condoms (Non-hormonal) ( Condoms … just isn’t the same. My body would snatch it off. I never considered using the female condom.)

Available in latex or polyurethane, condoms, which prevent pregnancy 98% of the time, are placed over an erect penis to stop sperm from entering the vagina during ejaculation. 2 out of 100 women whose partners use condoms will get pregnant if they always use condoms correctly.

9. Insertive/female condoms are inserted into the vagina and prevent pregnancy 95% of the time. This means that 5 out of 100 women will become pregnant if the inserted condom is always used correctly.

Not only are condoms arguably one of the most affordable, accessible forms of birth control, they also protect against STDs. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of condoms and insertive condoms.

10 . Emergency Contraception (Hormonal & Non-hormonal) By the time this one came out, I was done breeding.

Emergency contraception can be used up to five days after unprotected sex. It can come in the form of a pill or copper IUD, which have varying degrees of effectiveness. Emergency contraception prevents pregnancy from occurring by preventing ovulation and thickening cervical mucus, but it does NOT cause an abortion. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of emergency contraception.

11. Spermicide (Now, the right one of these, and you’re all set. )

Made with sperm-killing chemicals, spermicides such as foams, suppositories or film (used separately, not in combination) prevent pregnancy 82% of the time. 18 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they always use the spermicide as directed. Placed inside the vagina shortly before sex, spermicides block the cervix and keep sperm from joining with an egg. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of spermicides.

12. Fertility Awareness/ Natural Family Planning (Non-hormonal) (Great for a very well organized women. I’m still looking for my spermicide tube I opened last month.)

Natural family planning involves a woman tracking her monthly cycle from her period through ovulation to determine when she is most and least likely to get pregnant. When used correctly, this method prevents pregnancy 76% of the time. 24 out of 100 women who use natural family planning will have a pregnancy if they use the method correctly. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of natural family planning.

13. Withdrawal/Pull-out Method (Non-hormonal) (I plead the 5th. Try it if you choose to.)

Withdrawal prevents pregnancy 73% of the time by pulling the penis out of the vagina before ejaculation. 27 out of 100 women whose partners use withdrawal will become pregnant each year, even if used correctly. Remember, there is always a chance of pregnancy if sperm is introduced to the vagina. Learn more about the pros, cons and side effects of the withdrawal method.

14. Abstinence. Just say no thank you. No penis inserted into the vagina. This one works every time.

The fertility awareness method (FAM) is a natural family planning strategy that women can use to help prevent pregnancy. It involves tracking your natural cycle of fertility and your menstrual cycle, developing a better awareness of your body, and using a variety of non-pharmaceutical methods to detect ovulation.


Sterility Promoters – It is suggested that the following are considered by some people to promote sterility:

  • Stoneseed root was used by women in the Dakota tribe. The root was steeped in cold water for hours and then ingested daily for six months at a time.
  • Jack-in-the-pulpit root, though not as potent, was similarly taken by women in the Hopi tribe after being mixed with cold water.
  • Thistles supposedly promote temporary sterility. They were boiled in water to create tea and consumed by women in the Quinault tribe.

Implantation Preventers – It is suggested that the following are considered by some people to prevent implantation:

  • Queen Anne’s lace is also known as wild carrot seed is used as birth control, and traces its roots back to India. The seeds are taken for seven days after unprotected intercourse during the fertile period to help prevent fertilized eggs from implanting in the uterus.
  • Smartweed leaves grow all over the world and supposedly contain substances that prevent implantation, such as rutin, quercetin, and gallic acid.
  • Rutin can also be purchased on its own for a similar purpose. It may be taken after unprotected sex until the start of menstruation.

Menstruation Starters – It is suggested that he following herbs are considered by some people to promote menstruation:

  • Ginger root is considered to be the most powerful herb you can take to promote menstruation. It’s taken via power mixed into boiling water several times a day for around five days.
  • Vitamin C may have a similar effect, but it needs to be taken in higher doses. Taking high doses of vitamin C in synthetic form may make your bowels loose.

Of all these herbs, Queen Anne’s Lace is one of the more broadly discussed birth control options on this list. Its influence spans back to antiquity. Even today, researchers at the University of Illinois at Chicago share that some women in rural North Carolina are known to consume the seeds mixed into water to prevent pregnancy. Apparently, chewing the seeds produces the most effective results.

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DISCLOSURE: Do NOT Use Hand sanitizer on your woman parts (vagina! ) True it’s an insecticide. Many types of chemicals can kill sperm. Hand sanitizer contains ingredients such as isopropyl alcohol, glycerin, and other harsh compounds. In a similar way that hand sanitizer kills germs, it kills sperm as well. Hand sanitizer may reduce the movement of the sperm cells or kill them on contact.

If you have a vagina, you should never use common household chemicals in or around your vagina. The vulva and vagina are very sensitive areas and harsh chemicals may cause burning and irritation.

If you have a penis, the skin of your penis is also sensitive and just as easily damaged. Never use household chemicals, such as hand sanitizer, as a topical alternative to conventional spermicide.

Oooh, neem is good too. I think I’ll do another post on more natural birth control next week. Ya’ll come back now you here!

Happy Kwanzaa!


I’m working on a NEW Venture. Money will help push it from being a idea to becoming a reality. If these can help you too, thank Black Enterprise. I got all of these from them. If you know anymore especially for Woman ran horticulture/ education nonprofits PLEASE share!

From time to time, there are Black and minority business grants available to help African American and other minority entrepreneurs. Sometimes, the grants are offered by major companies, non-profit organizations, and even government agencies. Admittedly, such opportunities can be very difficult to find as many have been discontinued. Others in the past were offered as one or two year programs and did not renew. Despite this, such opportunities are real and are more often offered through local programs compared to national.

This competition allows 4 semi-finalists to pitch their idea to a panel of judges and a live audience, for a chance to win a $10,000 business grant! Entrants can be one person or a team. There is no limit to the number of team members allowed; however, those who pitch must have an equity stake in the business.

Fedex Small Business Grant Contest

Fedex allows business owners and entrepreneurs to register and submit their business story and photos. Once the application is approved and the voting period begins, they can vote for their own business once a day – and get their friends, customers, and associates to also vote every day. The number of votes received will boost your visibility in the contest and is one factor that FedEx will consider when selecting the top 100 finalists and the winners. Grant awards range from $1,000 to $25,000. Program Management Office

The program management office provides a centralized online location for grant seekers to find and apply for federal funding opportunities. The web site was established in 2002 as a part of the President’s Management Agenda. It is managed by the Department of Health and Human Services and houses information regarding more than 1,000 grant programs from 26 federal grant-making government agencies. Occasionally, they do have information about minority business grants.

Miller Lite Tap the Future® Business Plan Competition

Miller Lite Tap the Future (formally known as the MillerCoors Urban Entrepreneur Series) is an annual competition that allows urban entrepreneurs to compete for Black business grants of up to $20,000. In addition to winning prize money, finalists have the opportunity to pitch their best ideas at exciting LIVE Pitch events in front of Daymond John from ABC’s Shark Tank and other business moguls. The competition also provides business partners more exposure through our “Fan Favorite” consumer voting contest.

Minority Business Development Agency (MBDA) Business Grants

On an annual basis, usually during the spring and summer, the MBDA organizes various angel investors with the primary objective of supporting small businesses with minority business grants. The selection process involves mezzanine and second-round financing. This is done via local minority business grant competitions held in nearly every major city throughout the country. (grant competitions) (minority business centers)

National Association for the Self Employed (NASE) Growth Grants

NASE helps small businesses by providing day-to-day support, including direct access to experts, benefits, and consolidated buying power that traditionally had been available only to large corporations. They also offer $5,000 business grants that can be used to finance buy computers, farm equipment, hire part-time help, and more. The grants are available to black and minority businesses, as well as to the general public.

National Black MBA Association (NBMBAA) Scale-Up Pitch Challenge

This annual pitch competition designed to “Make Big Ideas Bigger” by encouraging Black MBA members to create startups that are scalable. They provide startups the unique opportunity to connect with early-stage investors and venture capitalists who are ready to invest. The competition is hosted by the National Black MBA Association (NBMBAA), a non-profit, 501(c)(3) professional member-based organization that leads in the creation of educational and career opportunities for black professionals.

National Institute of Small Business Grants (NISMB)

The National Institute of Small Business Grants produces – a useful web site that supplies information empowering prospective and existing small business owners, enabling them to know what their financial options are. Their mission is to help as many business owners as possible to understand what business grants are, how to obtain them, and whether or not they should be used for their companies.

Small Business Innovation Research (SBIR) Grants

The SBIR Grants program is a congressionally-mandated set-aside program that aims to help small businesses stimulate technological innovation. It also fosters and encourages participation in government contracting by socially and economically disadvantaged small businesses. They issue Black business grants, minority business grants, and women business grants.

Last but not least, if you are like me and looking for funding for a nonprofit business, I think this link may help. Don’t forget to add your lead below.

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10 Business Grants That Women Of Color Should Apply For

This one maybe for Colorado women only. See for yourself. I’m just sharing.

25 Companies That Are Determined to Help Women Succeed

To overcome systemic social and financial challenges while starting a business, women must approach entrepreneurship differently. Here are 25 companies dedicated to helping women succeed.  Click here to read more………

Wednesday WOW: Empowering Faces Of Hunger

The conversations are shifting and the products are looking more alive. Never in my wildest dream did I ever imagine that “we” would get it. But It is happening! More parents are getting their children in gardens. More food pantries are offering raw, fresh and organic food! This is AMAZING! I remember thinking to myself as a receiver how awful the food options were. And feeling like a child abuser having to feed it to my children, knowing good and well, that their health would be better if they did a fast, and skipped the next meal altogether.

Food Justice youth `advocate at work.

You Are What You Eat.
Representing MomsRising’s Good Food Force. I spoke at a forum in Charlotte, NC about creating and nurturing Food Justice for children.

So I never said anything. Instead, I answered surveys, advocated for others to receive food gifts and even volunteered my older children as needed to work such food pantries. At some point I guess, I melted into thinking… a little something is better than nothing at all. My next trips I would be more selective in what I wold select for my family even if that meant less food being brought home. In my mind, if I don’t bring lackluster food in, my family will not be tempted to eat it. I did that a few times and every-once in a while, I would luck up and find a pantry that distributed garden fresh, raw, and sometimes ugly produce!

Eventually it came to me, “Girlfriend, why aren’t you growing any food. Why are you 100% dependent on someone else to feed you and your large family?” I answered, ‘Ion-no’. (That’s slang for I don’t know.) Then I asked myself, Sis, there’s so much information out there, why are you choosing to put your children health at risk by feeding them food you know that doesn’t support a healthy immune system?” My response to that was, ‘dang, I gotta do better!’ And I did.

Here’s how I did it. I started in community gardens. Most times, they a ran by the local government who employees master gardeners like Nadine Ford (Mecklenburg County) to upkeep, lead and nurture novice gardeners. I got the kids involved with me. When I go they go. Then I became an advocate with the local Health Department. They hosted meetings monthly about food justice and accessibility. As outreach opportunities arose, I threw my hands up to be a part of them. That way, the children and I could learn together – for free! What came next was a revised advocacy. I created a mom support group that empowered other moms like myself to dare figure out what was best for her self and children. We learned a lot there too. Because businesses wanted to know what we preferred for our families. They began to listen. So I shared more of what I learned. Eventually I gained a tiny platform. There I am able to connect with larger brands, organizations, and communities on food justice, and what it really could look like. Which is more families growing real food in their own spaces. And more food disbursement operations caring enough to partner with local farmers, as well as grocery stores but increase the donated food donations to pantry recipients.

Right now, I’m so grateful to say that everything is coming together nicely. My children are healthy, I recently became a board member of The Bulb Gallery (a mobile farmers market) and I actually teach urban horticulture at the McCrorey YMCA as well as within my community. has been an essential part of helping me get my voice heard in this foggy space.

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I want to share with you my activity with in the last thirty days alone and challenge you to connect with me if you need my family to deliver our message to community, tribe, business, or family.


Sow Seeds Of Justice: Voices Of Hunger In NC- Click here to listen in. It’s a fun, informative, and creative podcast about how I produce culturally aware, educated, well rounded children in urban gardens. You’ll love it!

Oh, and if you miss my cooking demo with my kids, and Dr; Lindsey, You can watch it here. Momsrising hosted it. CLICK here –>

In closing, here’s a popular tea that I make and sell. It’s a sweet red tea called Sorrel. I make and drink it at least twice a month. I’m not sure where it originated from, but it has many names: “Caribbean sorrel, Hibiscus drink, mulled wine, and Jamaican Sorrel ” I just call it sorrel. Some people make up to three batches from one pot. One without rum, one with rum , and the last ,by default is less bitter. Most people drink it during holidays, but I have been enjoying it for medicinal reasons. Here’s how to make it……

INSTRUCTIONS (ingredients included)

  • In a pot, bring 10 cups of water to a boil then add the sorrel, sugar, cinnamon stick, whole cloves and orange peel and stir continuously while the mixture boils for one minute.
  • Cool and cover with wrap and set aside at room temperature to steep for 2 hours or overnight.
  • Taste for strength and sweetness. If it is too potent, add water or if too tart add more cane sugar. Strain the liquid through a fine sieve into a jar and refrigerate. (Discard the spices left in the cheese cloth). The sorrel will stain so be careful.
  • For the adult version:
  • Add the rum (I use whatever is on sale. ) allow to cool then strain as previously instructed.