Wednesday Wow: CHEAP Family Summer Fun List

Let’s jump right in here. This is a collection of things to do this summer that is not only cheap but educational too! It’s a string of conversations between myself and my online friends everywhere!  The great thing about their collection is that you can find most of the ideas in your town under a different name. Just search, ask and go. The summer you want is available. You do not have to sit in the house this summer.   Get out with your children and have fun! 
tcwff

K-Moments Photo from the Total Children’s Wellness Fair

Hikes through a wooded area, camping in the backyard/ living room turn all electronics off for the day. We just did this over the weekend and everyone had a great time. We set up games like a water balloon throwing contest, bean bag toss, kick ball, sack races and other fun things. Made a fake fire, and had a simple dinner of hot dogs and chips, lunch we had a picnic lunch at the local park and did some exploring of the trails

 Library programs. Swimming, fishing, and picnics at the lake. Free concerts at the park. Slumber parties or tenting in the back yard. Hot dogs on the grill.
Get active in your mom group. If you don’t have one find one like Queen City Stay At Home Moms. We do a lot of co operative adventures together! 
It doesn’t cost anything just being with friends and family is enough for me. Sitting visiting laughing playing board games card games or sitting around a fire in my back yard

This slideshow requires JavaScript.

Both of my daughters (now in their 30’s and 40’s) remember the fun times we had loading up stuff from the pantry – crackers, tuna, peanut butter, jug of water and beach towels – and heading to the beach for the day. Most favorite memories =o)  

Free science museum Thursday afternoons, zoo passes, park, pool, and drop off at grandmas!

Oh, water SPRAY PADS!!!! Everywhere has at least one spray PAD!
Get a foam swim tube @ dollar store poke holes in it attach it to hose. Viola a sprinkler you can make it go upward or down like a shower!

VISIT a friend that live in an apartment with a pool- Grab some towels and go swimming! 

Make koolaid popsicles in ice cube tray. Make a tent in the backyard with old sheet or blanket or tarp. Catch fireflies at night. Look at the stars. Have a block party with neighbors. Potluck and play the radio. Teach kids how to tell ghost stories or read out loud to them from library books.

 0200
welcome to my life right now. That is ok, some of the most fun things are free.

I set up obstacle courses for my kids then we take turns setting it up we use stuff we already have

Thank god there’s a site for free stuff to do in Chicago lol I’d be struck too often.
 Help your favorite holistic vendor get ready for a local community  fair like the Total Children’s Wellness Fair.in Charlotte NC
Dollar tree, five and below, sisters pool, beach and free library passes to Beardsley zoo. Woo hoo!

Did anyone mention the BEACH????  ( my sons below! #proud mom)boyss
My girls love it too. 1 missing-my girls
 Fishing, box of worms at wal-mart $3.50-4.00 ! Pack picnic lunch, sit on bank !
Definitely, we are using our $3 to go see the dollar movie 🙂

3912.jpg

NC by Train and Amtrak are offering a Summer 2016 Deal for kids ages 2-12! Up to two children can ride for $5 (per each full-fare paying adult) to any destination in NC Tuesday-Thursday, and Saturday (some blackout dates apply). Entry promo code V765 for the discount!

 Details below-
Seasonal: Summer
 Day: Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Saturday
 Through 8.31.2016
 Grades: Preschool, Elementary, Middle School
 Age: 2-12
 $5
Cont…….
Pack a picnic lunch and go to the park.

  Or better yet, grab a recipe from Kelle Cooking With Kids and create a healthy treat together!
That why we go to the dollar store!

Yes. Think we’ll go somewhere. Go set in pickup in are driveway for awhile. And not even move. Get out go back into house. Wow that was cool
Yup… well, there is always the imagination and that’s free! You can even run away with it. 3 bucks will get you some lemons, you probably some sugar just add water. lol Make the best of your day.
thhhh

Summer Bonus Perks:

You can even earn free coffee/ make an extra $200-$300 a month with no investment. by hosting Organo Gold House Parties with friends. (You can get more info on that —–right here!
RIGHT NOW I’m hooking up a family in need! I am giving away a week of media camp with Charlotte Youth Broadcasting Camp.
Haven’t heard about it yet?….I’ll update you.
At CYBC [Charlotte Youth Broadcasting Camp]. We have campers from various states, cities, and regions who come for the CYBC experience. Radio (June 20-24) & Sports Broadcasting (June 27th-July 1st) is still available register now atwww.Charlotteybc.com. Age groups 9-12 and 13-17.
All you have to do tell how you would spend the extra $300 you’ll save.
Post it below. I’ll notify the winner RIGHT here on next Friday!

Wednesday Wow: I Do’ Too! Solemization

It’s Summer and officially wedding season! If you’re in North or South Carolina, I’m ya girl!

Okay, so what began as a way to bring more money into the home, has grown to something so much more. Yes, I’m creating marriages, but I’m also creating more  ways to be a part of my children life. That really excites me!

It cost me less than $200 and I can use this new asset in all 50 states for the rest of my life. To all my mama friends, readers- you gotta do it!

I’m still getting used to being called Minister Kelle, because I am a southerner, and grew up thinking of ministers sorta differently. But then I thought about it and said to myself, “Girl, you’re more real than a lot of them out there. -Girl You Good!”

So with my ordination, I can do many things.besides solemnize a wedding  I could also:

  1. Perform A Baptism/ Welcome To The World Ceremony

  2.  Preside Over A Funeral

  3. Be A Chaplain

    We can touch the lives of others in a prison or hospital. Sick and dying patients in hospitals around the country have been comforted by our church’s members, and prison officials actively encourage those who are eager to bring religion to others to come to their institutions and rehabilitate their inmates.

  4. Start A Church ( I know right? Wow!)

  5.  Ordain others

    The perfect couple for me would be laid back, spiritual but not too religious, fun loving , don’t have a church home and most times open minded.

For me, it’s important to know the couple and meet them way before they get to the altar.I want to know if couple has any religious or cultural rituals that they want to include. Do they want to break a glass? Jump a broom? Do they want to include any Buddhist poetry? Will there be any readings or songs in the ceremony? Of course I offer counseling, but it’s not required. But I will pray with the couple before the wedding and commit to pray for them all the way to the wedding day.

 And I was thinking, for now, I’ll offer my services to the moms of Queen City Stay At Home Moms at a discount as a member perk. Everyone else $220 for a basic service and rehearsal rate. I really don’t think   I would marry anyone out of the Carolina’s.
Which works out fine based on the research I’ve done already. It is said, that in

North Carolina:   Marriage Officiants:/ordained minister of any faith who is authorized to perform marriages by his church may do so.

In North Carolina, I must return the license in SC….. the couple can once completed,return the license to its office of issuance (usually by mail) within 30 days of the wedding. The license is then recorded by the state and the marriage becomes a legal binding contract.

Marriage in South Carolina is governed by Chapter 1 of Title 20 of South Carolina’s Code of Laws.

SECTION 20-1-20. Persons who may perform marriage ceremony.

Only ministers of the Gospel, Jewish rabbis, officers authorized to administer oaths in this State, and the chief or spiritual leader of a Native American Indian entity recognized by the South Carolina Commission for Minority Affairs pursuant to Section 1-31-40 are authorized to administer a marriage ceremony in this State

This slideshow requires JavaScript.

HERE! Cute wedding Script- < HERE> Beautiful Wedding script.   More Wedding Info —-here

Need wedding ceremony scripts? Click here.  Here’s some fair trade companies…..
What to Ask Your Wedding Officiant Here & Here !  My last reading on the industry-here

 

Mama’s Cinco De Mayo Deals & Details

Cinco de Mayo Is Not Mexican Independence Day! That’s ok, you can still celebrate!

We choose to celebrate because we love spicy tacos, fun music and bright colors!

http://ti.me/21oalEd

“It (Cinco de Mayo) started out as a cultural celebration, then became bigger and bigger,” said Sánchez. “And at some point it became very commercial; with people taking advantage of the day to drink all the Coronas they can drink.”

Today marks the 154th anniversary of Cinco de Mayo, a bicultural celebration. For us, it’s a great way to teach the children about the Latino cultural and have a little fun at the same time.

Cinco de Mayo is the celebration of the courage of the Mexican people during the battle (La Batalla de Puebla) on May 5th, 1862 where 4,500 Mexican soldiers defeated the Mexican traitors (exiled Mexican Convervatives) and French army of 6,500 at Puebla, Mexico . The reasons why Cinco de Mayo is celebrated on a much larger scale in the United States is maybe because :

  • If it had not been for the victory, France would have aided the South in the American Civil War and this would have an impact on the war.
  • Chicanos celebrates this day in appreciation of its cultural and historical significance.
  • General Ignacio Zaragosa was born in Texas when it was still part of Mexico and is considered to be a Chicano hero.
 So in honor of all our Latino friends everywhere…… this collection is for you!
Crafts for today! – A pinata!!!
 
QC SuperMomJamba Juice
With a coupon available on Jamba Juices website starting May 4, guests nationwide can celebrate the holiday with a Chili Mango or Mango-A-Go-Go Smoothie for $2.99. (The smoothies normally cost $5 and up.) The coupon is valid May 4-8.
Like · Reply · Commented on by JabeLa Ledsi · 2 mins
QC SuperMom
QC SuperMom(3rd Party info) Cinco de Mayo Margarita Deals, Taco Specials and More
An estimated 87.3 million pounds of avocados are consumed per year on May 5, according to the California Avocado Commission and tequila sales at U.S. bars and restaurants more than double. This year, save money on your Cinco de Mayo drink and food purchases with these special offers.
Bahama Breeze: Get $5 margaritas all day on May 5.
Chili’s: Celebrate Drinko de Mayo at Chili’s with $3 Dos Equis and $5 Presidente marLettuce Leaf Tacos | "This was soo good my kids (ages 6 and 10) asked me to make it next week! This is a first." -Michellepv: garitas.
Chipotle: Take $50 off any catering order for 20 or more people on Cinco de Mayo.
DoorDash: Sign up for DoorDash to get $5 off your first delivery and in certain cities, you can have Taco Bell delivered to your doorstep on Cinco de Mayo and every day.
Eat24: Use coupon code RELAX to get $2 off your order until Dec. 31, allowing you to get a Cinco de Mayo discount without leaving your couch.
Green Burrito: Buy one Burrito El Diablo and get a second free with this printable coupon through May 31.
Jamba Juice: Get a small Mango A-Go-Go or Chili Mango smoothie for $2.99 with this coupon until May 8.
Mad Mex: Enjoy breakfast burritos, eggchiladas and cornbread starting at 9 a.m. as part of the Mad Mex Cinco de Mayo party. All day drink specials include 22-ounce Dos Equis drafts for $5 and a $1 off all Mexican bottles and cans. Regular happy hour and late nght specials will be honored, in addition to some special games and giveaways.
Moe’s Southwest Grill: As part of its annual Cinco de Moe’s event, the first 100 customers in line will receive a free t-shirt while supplies last and participating locations will offer $5 burritos.
On the Border: Enjoy 14-ounce Cinco Cup House Margaritas for $4, 14-ounce Cinco Cup Dos Equis Lager, Dos Equis Amber and Corona Light Drafts for $3, a variety of Cinco Shots for $2 to $4, Dos Equis Lager, Corona and Corona Light bottles for $3 and commemorative t-shirts for $10 at participating locations.
Papa Murphy’s: The Steak Fajita and Taco Grande pizzas are both back until May 30.
Rubio’s: Get a free Taquitos Platter with any catering purchase of $125 or more.
Sonic Drive-In: Get 6- or 12-piece boneless wings for half price on May 5.
Taco Bueno: Party Tacos will be half price — $0.59 — all day.
Taco Cabana: Enjoy happy hour on Cinco de Mayo from 4 p.m. to 7 p.m., featuring $1.50 margaritas and a $3 small nacho and margarita combo. Additionally, Taco Cabana will celebrate Seis de Mayo by receiving one free breakfast taco when you dine-in during breakfast hours from May 6 to May 8.
Taco Del Mar: Take part in the annual Cinco de Mayo 5 pound burrito eating challenge at participating locations.
Taco Mayo: A new mystery item will be added to the menu on Cinco de Mayo 2016.
TacoTime: Get $0.69 crisp tacos all day on May 5.
TGI Friday’s: Get $5 margaritas and $3 appetizers on May 5.
Tijuana Flats: Enjoy 48 hours of Cinco de Mayo specials, including a Tijuana Burrito, chips and a drink for $5, with the option to add a draft beer for $1 on May 5 and $2 tacos on May 6.
Tumbleweed Tex Mex Grill & Margarita Bar: Start the weekend early with $0.99 domestic drafts — premium drafts not included — and Twisted Teas. Additionally, domestic longnecks will be $1.99.

“Cinco de Mayo is part of the Latino experience of the American Civil War,”

Like · Reply · Commented on by JabeLa Ledsi · 3 mins

 

QC SuperMom
QC SuperMomCaribou Coffee
Caribou Coffee is renaming May 5 “Drink-O de Mayo” as the day when it introduces its new Caribou Coolers, an ice-blended drink perfect for summer. To celebrate the launch, consumers can try all three of the new Cooler flavors—Salted Caramel, Mint Chocolate and Raspberry.
 https://youtu.be/0xbyz5nbwnQ
Click these links for more details–

Friday Four: What NOT To Do To A Teen Mom

The memories! The moment I learned that I was pregnant, I wanted to find the largest container of orange juice and just die under a rock. From the time my little guy was born, I always felt that I had something to prove to him, our supporters,our small town, other teen moms, and myself.

100 Things You Should Never Say to a Teen Mom

Just In Case you cross this bridge, here’s 4 Things You Should Really NOT Do To a Teen Mom:

  1. Shame or Degrade her- This is number one for a reason. OMG! You have no clue how much damage this causes. When your own flesh and blood teases you, make you the family calamity, and under dog. Even worse when the fathers family and her community dishonors her. You are asking for a mess. A broken, lonely, lost mess. It’s like saying “You’ve passed the point of no return.” She may believe it. Speak blessings into her life.
  2. Discourage her- This birth has effected her life as well. Work with her. If you discover an opportunity for her, tell her about it. Babysit while she goes to school, work or appointments. Offer to do the child’s hair, help with a birthday party. Mentor and support her into a mom the baby can be proud of.
  3. Disown the unborn- Most times it’s the fathers family that snarls at a unplanned teenage pregnancy. For some reason, his family thinks the girl wants the family treasures. Well, guess what, sometimes it’s true. At this point. So what? You have the opportunity to  groom another family member to be a part of your family goals. That baby maybe the missing piece of your family vision toward greatness. Don’t kill your blessing. That’s what DNA testing is for.
  4. Expect her to forgive you after you’ve done ALL of the above.-  Something can’t be healed once destroyed. Words do hurt. Somethings you should just keep to yourself if it’s not going to help the situation. That mom may not bring it up, but she will remember. You can not get out what you don’t put in. This includes love, respect, and acknowledgement.

 

 

“Teen parents want to be acknowledged as contributing members of society, not as society’s ailment. Not only are we leaders, activists, business owners, educators and so much more, but we are also raising intelligent and curious children who go on to do great things!”
– Mariely Moronta-Santos, 27, a mom of three who lives in Brooklyn, New York, and became a mother at 16

“I wish society would look at us as mothers.”
– Caitlin Shay, 26, mother of two who lives in Apopka, Florida, and became a mother at 17

I have five more to go before I can claim a total win,but so far so good. It has not been easy. But Oh My, it’s been worth every one of the obstacles and setbacks.

Success IS Indeed the greatest revenge. It is true. I would put my neck on a chopping block to swear by it. As I sit back and think of the upcoming month, I can’t help but smile and try to contain my extreme excitement.  I know it’s nothing but grace and mercy, but My God, the favor that is upon me right now is what I’ve been waiting on. I have FOUR graduates busting caps and gowns this year!  Two of my daughters, my oldest son and my husband.  Can you believe that?

This teen mom, single mom, mother of nine, once displaced*, gal from South Carolina, has 8 remaining- healthy children and every last one of them are thriving! Being a teen mom is not the worst thing to happen. When it happens encourage her to accept the call of motherhood and be the best she can possibly be. That way everyone wins.

I’m so grateful for my parents. I KNOW that I disappointed them. I KNOW that they too were catching slack because of their baby girl getting pregnant as a teen. I know my sisters were tried after the town knew that I was giving up ‘my cookies’. I am sorry everyone. I hope my recent accomplishments say thank, I’m proud of. You’ve done a great job by the children, So glad you didn’t let us down. Because of you I am a doula, wedding officiant, homeschooler, brander ambassador, mom coach, Queen City Stay At Home Moms organizer, social activist, and wife.

Happy Friday,

Kelle

Benefits for Teen Mothers

The best way to help teen moms: treating pregnancy as more than a medical event

Wednesday WOW: NC Sheroes; “Moving Forward”

Sometimes Sheroes are right in our back yard!  They are the ones that get up everyday, no matter what’s going on at home, in their mind, or in their account and make it happen. No excuses , no delays- they are unselfishly walking in their calling and impressing the world one day, move, and thought at a time.

You may or may not  know their names, or ever spoken to them, but you’ve seen them or results of their incredible work. They are “Sheroes; Moving Forward!”

 

 

 

On April 2nd, at 11″30 am, We will honor our sheroes by resting their capes and revealing why they are so bold, brave and unstoppable!

 

In honor of Women’s History Month, the Charlotte Mecklenburg Public Library presents NC SHEROES  “Moving Forward!”

 

THIS IS OUR 2nd year celebrating with MomsRising NC  and my moms group Queen City Stay At Home Moms.

 

We will honor 6 amazing women, who have made significant contributions to the Women’s movement right here in North Carolina.

After an introduction, we will award each Shero. Then go into a Round-table. Come prepared to find out why women matter and should be empowered to have a voice! Bring a child with you. It’s lessons like these that stick with them!

 

Here is our impressive line up!

Tawanna Ross- Award wining Gospel Hip Hop artist

Asha Sims- Gentle Yoga instructor

Melody Gross- Doula

 Nadine Ford – Farmer/gardener

Cassie Pressley- Teen Vegan Baker

Tina B. – Social activist

Special Guest TBA later.

Sweet Right?!  We’ll see you there! This ceremony is complete with  refreshments! So don’t worry about stopping for breakfast. And …Yes bring the kids, we’ll have a station for them to entertain themselves need be.

April 2,2016

11:30 Am

Beatties Ford Public Library, Charlotte NC

All are welcomed and encourage to attend. Free Parking, Refreshments and Admission

RSVP Here or Here! 

 

This is from last year. More videos are on YouTube. (go on and click it, it’ll show)

Sweet Minions: A Magical Moment in February

The room was filled with blue and yellow. These”Sweet Minions” didn’t have a clue of the night of treats they were in for. It was the 3rd annual Family Valentine’s Day Party in the QC! There was a live DJ, a vegan dessert bar, vendors selling goods for no more then $5 an items and a real magician!

minion fammLast Saturday was cold but a few of the families from Queen City Stay At Home Moms ventured out to celebrated the sweetest week end with their tin-inset heart.

Houdini must have performed 6 or more magic tricks. All Of Them Were Amazing! I shared one here,but you can swing over to my YouTube channel to see more.

 

To see more from the celebration, click here.

Queen City Stay At Home Moms is the leading mom group in Charlotte. They attract a certain type of mom. Those that want to be celebrated ans not degraded for choosing to put their family first. They host weekly gatherings that meets a few goals.

Moms can make mom friends like them that understand the challenges that come with being a mom, wife, work from home mom, new mom, older mom, homeschooling mom and everything in between. Because moms come from all types of background, they are encouraged to bring their skills to a group that will help her prepare for when* she returns to the corporate world, should she choose too.

The group provides resources for moms to grow from where they are by offering product review opportunities,  group discounts, women only workshops, job placement, member only discounts on perks like doula, wedding officiants, child care, lactation support and priority opportunities to vend at the yearly Total children’s Wellness Fair. (You can join here)

 

QueenCity Stay At Home Moms

Charlotte, NC
19 Super Moms

Meet nearby Queen City Stay at Home Moms! Come to a local Stay at Home Moms Meetup for friendship, reassurance, and parenting advice, excerising with baby and lots of great in…

Next Meetup

Discovery Place Kids

Wednesday, Feb 17, 2016, 12:00 PM
2 Attending

Check out this Meetup Group →

 

One last gift from that night! If you have a vegan high school senior looking for college money, you may want to check this one out.

Vegetarian Resource Group Scholarship
Sponsor: Vegetarian Resource Group
Amount: Up to $10,000
Deadline: Feb. 20, 2016
Description: Applicant must be a U.S. high school senior graduating in the spring of 2016. Applicant must be a vegetarian and have promoted vegetarianism in their school and/or community.

 

See you next time!

Jabela

Wednesday Wow: Family Valentine’s Day Party GiveAway

Want to win tickets to the 3rd annual Family Valentines Day Party this Saturday in the QC? I hope so because this contest is too easy!  The perks of being a small time blogger is paying off for you.

minion 700

We are having a “Sweet Minion” Family Valentine’s Day Party! As a mom, finding affordable opportunities for my family to enjoy together is a priority. It’s rare that we go out ALL together, but when we do, it has to make sense, and it has to be safe!  This is it! We’re having:

  • A live DJ (Julie Brim)
  • A Real Magician (Houdini’s World)
  • A Vegan based Dessert bar (Cassie’s Sweetz)
  • A $5.Gift Shop  (various vendors selling brand new items for $5. or less!)
  •  Fun  games, photo opportunities 
  • A SAFE family event with Free parking! 

dj minionHere’s how to get some of these 32 tickets. If you belong to any of the following categories- read up!

Note: Theminion bakerse offers excludes goodie bags and reserved tables. We want to make sure we are serving the ones that need this the most. And because our entertainment is so amazing, we want to have a good crowd for them to absorb the loving energy!

So be sure to tag your favorite business, organization, club, and group. This is gonna be huge!

If you have a non profit, like our page and we will give you a family four pack.

If you own a daycare, like our page and we will give you a family four pack.

If you own a support group for families, like our page and we will give you a family four pack.

If you are a organizer for a mom group, like our page and we will give you a family four pack.

Give the passes to whomever you choose! This offer is for the 1st 4 industries to enter. That’s 16 people. Now for the public sector. We need more traffic. We’re new’ish.

 Don’t expect to be offered a chair when you are visiting a place where the chief sits on the floor. (Ghana)

So I have 4 family packs to give you!  And yes, for up to $80 per family in value, there’s a few things I’ll need from you. (trust me, it’s easier than you think)

  1. Like and follow–> my blog, FB, Twitter, Instagram and then comment on this post BELOW or here on the event page. The more you like, the better your chances! Fair right?
  2. That’s IT. Winners will be announced on Facebook,called & or emailed! Hurry the party is THIS SATURDAY!

See you Saturday at the hottest mom powered family event of the year!

Wednesday Wow: Sister SoulJah in the QC

Happy Black History Month people! My month of reflection began last week when Sister SoulJah visited the Beatties Ford Rd. library in Charlotte NC. It was like a dream come true. I now have one less thing to accomplish on my Bucket List!

I believe in divine interventions. I believe that you are where you are, sent elsewhere, drawn toward something or some one beyond your conscious efforts. It’s like the minute you intentional strive to be a certain way, your path opens up! The I decided that I would be the best mom I could be. So I sought support. I know I wanted  to connect with people who have taken various paths in life to become the incredible leaders they are today.  (In this video, it’s another great woman, Cheryl LittleJohn of Gastonnia)

During a recent visit to my local library, I seen a flyer saying Sister Souljah was coming to Charlotte for a book signing of her book The Coldest Winter Ever  (you can buy it on Amazon via the high light link)

This was perfect because I had just received her first book from my daughters. They found it in a bin at a local book store for free!

It’s called, No DISRESPECT.  It took me 3 weeks to read it. Not that it’s a hard read or anything, it’s just that I wanted to break it up in sections to use as a conversation piece while taking my girls to school across town in the mornings. It proved to be an asset. Our conversations were deeper. They opened up about the peers and day environment more easily. It’s because she is so relative, approachable, and in sync, I know her books will always  have a place within my family’s book shelf.

ss1

It was a honor to be in her presence with my teen daughters.  Sometimes when we tell our children things, they don’t always “get it!” Even if you experience it and crying your eyes out to warn them. But when it comes from another person. that speaks to them on their level. Spitting out a”  MF*”  here and there….. they tend to get it!

Here’s my short handed-cliff notes. I wrote them on the back of the paper I had signed for two mama friends. I wrote what she said. Do not let your child read it before you.

Sister SoulJahsister Soulajah.jpg

 

It’s been a long time. I haven’t wasted even a second. Been writing, editing, learning, teaching, and traveling the globe. This year, from 11/11 onward, is for the readers and book buyers. We will meet face to face. Share thoughts and converse meaningfully, and become better than we were before, each and all of us, InshaAllah.

If you want to sing your book and listen to her in person, meet her at her next book signing: click below!

http://www.sistersouljah.com/tour/

spacer.gif

Friday Four: Finding Chastity

Ok, yes, I know it may be strange for a teen mom like myself to bring up chastity, but YES…. I am. I mean, think about it. Who better? I think I scared my husband so much that when he found out we were having daughters, the first thing came out of his mouth was”I want to get my girls to wear chastity belts!” True story.    It was the first time I have ever heard about chastity belts, but as time past, it was shout out time after time at very interesting times ranging from self preservation to political statements.

 

Believe it or not, there was an Italian woman forced to ask firefighters to liberate her from a chastity belt because she lost the key to the contraption. The woman, who has not been named due to privacy reasons, reportedly wore the belt of her own volition to stop herself from having sexual relations. Chastity belts were long thought to have been inflicted on medieval wives in order to prevent them from having affairs, but historians now believe that they are the stuff of myth; most references to chastity belts in medieval literature are satirical. Our anonymous Italian friend, it seems, did not get the memo. If only she had guarded the key to her iron panties with the same sort of fervor that she dedicated to protecting her loins. NY TIMES

“I tried to push her away, but she wouldn’t stop until she was finished. When she was, she said, “You better not say shit to no one or else you gonna get a terrible whupping.” R. Kelly via The Black Voices

4 Ways to ENCOURAGE chastity to teens:

  1. Protect what your child is exposed.  Give the talk, but walk the walk. Our children can more easily recognize the distinction between right and wrong when we are consistent models of right behavior in all matters. So know that there are some magazines, t.v. shows. and conversations you may need to keep out their reach.

“I tried to push her away, but she wouldn’t stop until she was finished. When she was, she said, “You better not say shit to no one or else you gonna get a terrible whupping.” R. Kelly via The Black Voices

2. Be mindful of who your child is exposed to. Having the right influence around your children is detrimental. My husband and I never let our children out of our sight until they were old enough to articulate what went on around them and understood that their body was private. Our ideal influence are positive, loving (but not too loving*) respectful and non over sexually seductive -dressed person, media, t.v. programs and music..

When my niece was young, like 12,  she made it very clear that not only did she know her daughter had a boyfriend she also said that she did care.  She though because her daughter minion family partydidn’t go anywhere with the boy, that meant there was no concern for that relationship. Well guess what happened less than 3 years later? Yes, she got pregnant. While I didn’t rub it in her face or reminded  her that girls don’t go from pumps to flops. Sex was bound to happen. I thanked God that I never questioned my rules toward my daughters on having boyfriends at a young age.

3. If you haven’t already, build trust. That leads to many opportunities for discussion  and  influence on the subject. We parents have so much more power than we give our-self credit for.

4.Last but not least. Get your child involved in worthwhile activities, like music, sports, drama, and hobbies that develop talents.

ring

I never share pictures of gifts, but I had to share this one. Kaylah’s Sweet 16 gift arrived. Kudos to my Dad, the first man to place a ring on his granddaughter’s hand, he has definitely set the bar. Love him infinity. He said “who’s her Grandpa”!!

More great tips on teen chastity

eHere – yes, just click that 🙂

Alright ladies, keep it locked down.

Jabela!

Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Circus Contest

I know 6 little ones that are super excited to see the circus next week! If last year, is anything like this year…… they are in for a treat! SEE blog post from last yearclown

The excitement starts an hour before show time with the All Access Pre-show where your family can meet the amazing cast members and get up close and purr-sonal with their tigers and other animals. Performers include high-wire wizards, strong men, BMX trick riders, daredevils on the trampoline bungee aerial skydiving and more.
Show Schedule 
Wednesday January 27 at 7 p.m.
Thursday January 28 at 7 p.m.
Friday January 29 at 10:30 a.m.
Friday January 29 at 7 p.m.
Saturday January 30 at 11 a.m.
Saturday January 30 at 3 p.m.
Saturday January 30 at 7 p.m.
Sunday January 31 at 11 a.m.
Sunday January 31 at 3 p.m.

{Contest Info} Win a family four pack to the show on Thursday, January 28th at 7pm. I won’t even make you pile into a clown car – nope – just do any of the following – 1 entry per completion.

1. Comment on our Facebook post with your favorite circus act.
2. Comment on THIS blog with your favorite circus act.
3. Share the Facebook post publicly (you have to change the post privacy to public so I can see it)

I’ll draw a winner on January 25th. Good luck!