Wednesday Wow-Common Law Sorta Marriage

If you have been living with your boyfriend for at least 7 ears, you just maybe married. Yes. Girl-Married. My boyfriend swore up and down we were married. And no matter how much I insisted that we weren’t he refused to believe me. Which makes me wonder if his parents are actually married, and at ease at the fact that I I was present at the courthouse when we went to apply for our marriage license. Seems as thought the common Law route is a family norm for them, but that’s a conversation for another day.

Are you shacking, co habitating and wondering if you are considered married?  This post will help!

The jurisdictions which still permit common-law marriages are the states of Alabama,Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, New Hampshire, Rhode Island, South Carolina,Texas, and Utah, and the District of Columbia.  does go a little further by saying that if you live in one of the above states and you “hold yourself out to be married” (by telling the community you are married, calling each other husband and wife, using the same last name, filing joint income tax returns, etc.), you are  the Mrs.! I think I’ll keep my officiating service right here in the beautiful state of NC.

  • Alabama. In this state, the parties must agree to be husband and wife, they must have the mental capacity to enter into and understand such an agreement, and they must consummate the marital relationship.
  • Colorado. In order for a common law marriage to exist in Colorado, the relationship must be proven by the cohabitation of the common law spouses and their reputation for being married.
  • District of Columbia. In the District, a common law marriage is established by the parties’ explicit intent to be married and by their cohabitation.
  • Georgia- (if created before 1/1/97)
  • Idaho (if created before 1/1/96)
  • Iowa. A common law marriage is established in Iowa by the parties’ intent and agreement to be married, their continuous cohabitation, and their public declarations that they are husband and wife.
  • Kansas. In Kansas, the man and woman must have the mental capacity to marry, they must agree to be married at the present time, and they must represent to the public that they are married in order for a common law marriage to exist.
  • New Hampshire. This state recognizes common law marriages only upon the death of one of the spouses. In other words, common law marriages are recognized in New Hampshire for inheritance purposes only.
  • Montana. In Montana, the parties must have the capacity to consent to marriage, they must agree to be married, they must cohabitate, and they must have a reputation of being married.
  • Oklahoma. The parties must be competent, agree to enter into a marriage relationship, and cohabitate in order to be considered as having a common law marriage.(for inheritance purposes only)
  • Pennsylvania. A common law marriage is established in Pennsylvania by the exchanging of words between a man and a woman indicating an intent to be married at the present time. (if created before 1/1/05)
  • Rhode Island. In Rhode Island, a common law marriage exists if a man and woman have a serious intent to be married and engage in conduct that leads to a reasonable belief by others in the community that they are married.
  • South Carolina. In this state, if a man and woman intend for others to believe they are married, a common law marriage may be established.
  • Texas. If a man and woman in Texas sign a form provided by the county clerk, agree to be married, cohabitate, and represent to others that they are married, a common law marriage exists.
  • Utah. Utah does not recognize common law marriage, however courts can retroactively approve the marriage of couples without ceremony if the couple is of age and legally able to consent to marriage, have lived together, treated each other as spouses and hold themselves out as married.

If You Live in a State that Does Not Recognize Common Law Marriage

There is no way to form a common law marriage, no matter how long you live with your partner. There is one catch: if you spend time in a state that does recognize common law marriage, “hold yourself out as married,” and then return or move to a state that doesn’t recognize it, you are still married (since states all recognize marriages that occurred in other states). However, this is murky legal territory and I don’t recommend experimenting with it!

 

Now, If you desire a wedding officiant ,  I know this girl…… she is excellent and is registered in the state of North Carolina to perform really cool weddings for the non denominational, unchurch-ed yet spiritual couple. Check out Jabela, the life celebrant !

The common Law divorce- CLICK HERE !

NOTE:Much of the information on this fact sheet comes from an excellent do-it-yourself legal guide called Living Together: A Legal Guide for Unmarried Couples, by attorneys Toni Ihara, Ralph Warner, and Frederick Hertz (2008).

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The Muslim-African Wedding

If you are ever invited to and African wedding and it says the ceremony will begin at 3pm, show up at 5pm and you may beat the bride and groom there.

Over the weekend I attended a African-Muslim wedding and was honored for the experience. I didn’t know what to expect from an Muslim-African infused ceremony, so I did a little research before attending.

Although many Muslims stage a multiday celebration to mark a wedding, the traditional marriage ritual itself, called a nikah in Arabic, is simple and brief. It generally follows these steps:

At the wedding, which can take place pretty much anywhere, the bride and groom are separated in different rooms. They may or may not be able to see each other, depending on how conservative the families are.

An officiant, who can be any man familiar with Islamic law, heads to each room separately. There he asks the spouses-to-be if they consent to the marriage and if they are marrying of their own free will (a representative called a wali answers the officiant’s questions on the bride’s behalf).

The couple signs the marriage contract or license, with witnesses observing.

The officiant brings the pair together and pronounces them husband and wife.

The first thing I noticed  at the mosque was that the women and men sat separate from each other. Even the engage couple.  There was no wedding party and everything was pleasantly different than anything else I’ve ever seen before.  There was no solos, flowers girls, no bridal party walking in. As a matter of fact the engaged couple was seated for the entire ceremony until the dowry part. They did kiss at the end.

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I took my daughter with me. 

Now can we talk about the reception. More importantly the food! It was everything I ever hope for in a African reception. Joloff, spicy meats, crisp salads…..even the drinks were amazing. I loved the African Ginger beer. (Click here for the recipe1448154690709

Ok, ok, ok, I won’t show my love of African food before I give you more details. –The reception included a very lively African dance by a all female group. I didn’t know  one word that was said, but their movement was very much so lovely and graceful!  Now when the families got on the floor, it was a wrap! I took off my shoes and got down with them! They know how to parrrrr-ty!  Line dances, couple dances, man dances…… it was amazing! Little did I know, Mrs Bride is a Delta. One of her sisters gave her the sweetest token of love in song (lip syncing)1448232600830

As the night progressed I seen first hand why this marriage will work. The families are loving.PURELY LOVING. The husband LOVES his new daughters. The husbands family LOVES their new daughter.AND THE NEW COUPLE adores each other.  I’m so glad I brought my daughter with me.

What I was most impressed with is how they spent their money. Nothing was over the top except for those dresses the bride wore. They were incredibly beautiful. Nothing was lacking. I think they did a great job  on the ceremony. I am so elated to have been a part of it ,and wish them nothing but the very best. Sorry, I haven’t shared any videos or closer photos. I haven’t received permission to release wedding details as of posting date. Once received, I’ll share them on our Facebook page (click here to go there now.)1448154689495

Here’s more on

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Islamic weddings

African Weddings

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Wednesday Wow: Disbursing the wedding receipt

Here is the breakdown of the “traditional” way to divide up the budget – use this as a starting point,but don’t get our feelings hurt by expecting others to pay up.

Bride’s Family wedding cake by Lisa from Satry Morning Cakes in Charlotte
Engagement Party
The Wedding Ceremony – venue, décor, and music
The Wedding Reception
Catering
Music
The bride’s attire
Wedding planner
Flowers (except, in some cases, for bride’s bouquet, men’s boutonnieres, and corsages for mothers and grandmothers)
Stationery – invitations, ceremony programs, etc.
Favors
Photography
Videography
Transportation
Cake
Day-After Brunch (if desired)

Groom’s Family
Rehearsal Dinner
Honeymoon (if desired, often the couple themselves pay)
In some parts of the country, it’s tradition for the groom’s family to pay for the alcohol at the reception

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Bride
Bridesmaid Gifts
Groom’s Wedding Band
Hair and Makeup for Herself and Attendants
Wedding-Day Gift for the Groom
Gift for Her Parents

Groom
Marriage license
Officiant
Bride’s Rings (Engagement Ring and Wedding Band)
Groomsmen’s Gifts
Groom’s Attire
Wedding-Day Gift for the Bride
The Bride’s Bouquet, Men’s Boutonnieres, and Mothers’ and Grandmother’s Corsages (this is a very traditional way of doing things – usually the bride’s bouquet and the boutonnieres are paid for by whoever’s handling the total flower budget)
Gift for His Parents
Wedding Night Accommodations

Wedding Party
Their Attire
Their Travel and Accommodations
Wedding Gifts for the Couple
Other Parties – Bachelor/Bachelorette, Bridal Shower, etc.

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Parents of Flower Girl/Ring Bearers
Children’s Attire

Again, this list is based on traditional roles, and nowadays, it’s rare for anyone to follow it exactly. I advise all couples to have an open and honest discussion with family members about their roles in the wedding budget. Ready to start planning your wedding budget? Head to The Knot Interactive toolkit to get organized and stay on track!

Wednesday WoW: Disney On Ice Presents Princess and Heroes

Mark Your Calendar RIGHT NOW. Disney On Ice Returns to the Queen City (Charlotte, NC) October 1-5th, 2014 and we are so excited because that means contest time!

By now you should know that I don’t do anything without a sizzle! Over the last few years, I have had the honor of having the best participants for my biggest contest. This year will be no different. But first, here’s more information on Disney On Ice presents Princesses & Heroes. 

Enter a world where heroes and hearts prevail. Join Ariel as she explores life above the waves and Prince Eric as he breaks Ursula’s spell to reclaim his true love. See Prince Phillip, in a race against time to rescue Aurora, defeat evil Maleficent.  Discover a whole new world with Jasmine and Aladdin.  And watch in awe as the dreams of Cinderella, Belle, Snow White, Rapunzel and Tiana all come true. High-flying jumps, breathtaking skating, and lovable Disney friends are a wish away at Disney On Ice presents Princesses & Heroes. 

Now, here’s how to win a Family Four pack…. for free. THE CONTEST IS VOID WHERE PROHIBITED BY LAW.

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Sometimes you just know.

Ready to be a part of the QC Supermom Pre show?

Grab your camera and get your alter ego ready!

1.    How to Enter the Contest:

(a)    The “Disney on Ice” contest will begin on September 1st and end on September 20, 2014.

(b)    To participate in the contest, “Disney on Ice” contestants must make a 3 minute video of their self or their child acting out ” If I was a Disney princess, I would be _____.” WHILE using at least one of the most romantic Disney lines ever and send it to me, on Facebook!  The deadline for entry is 11:59 pm on September 20, 2014.

(c)    One entry per person.

(d) All entries become the sole property of QC Supermom.  By entering, entrants agree to abide by these rules, and warrant and represent that their entry is their original work.

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2.    Prizes: One family will win 4 complimentary passes to Disney On Ice presents Princesses & Heroes. 

(a)    Contest prizes are not transferable.  Prizes may not be substituted for or redeemed for cash.  Station reserves the right to substitute prize of comparable value.

3.    Selection of Winners:

(a)    The Creative Services department, i,e. , my children (aged 2-16) will chose the best videos and use a majority rule voting process to determine the winners.

(b)    Decisions of contest sponsors, with respect to the contest, are final.

(c)    Winners will be notified by email.

4.    Contest sponsors reserve the right to make changes in the rules of the contest, which will become effective upon announcement.

Easy right? Okay here’s a peek of what I’m looking for.

Time For a little fun ya’ll! Now if you want to just purchase them – go here!

QC Supermom

Friday Four: Friday the 13th

Today is the only Friday the 13th we’ll have this year and it’s paired with a full moon to boot. Some call it spooky, I say hogwash. We had a great day in the QC. Along with this Father’s Day weekend, we are celebrating June-teenth.

Happy Father's Day hunny!

Happy Father’s Day hunny!

First, a Father’s Day note: Children who live absent their biological fathers are, on average, at least two to three times more likely to be poor, to use drugs, to experience educational, health, emotional and behavioral problems, to be victims of child abuse, and to engage in criminal behavior than their peers who live with their married, biological (or adoptive) parents. (Hmmm. That came from these folks ) I didn’t say it, I don’t even agree with it, but let’s sat it true. For those who aren’t in your child life- start today. They need you.

What type of dad will you be?

What’s your New-Father IQ?

15 Dad Facts you didn’t know.

He did a grand job Friday night & will be there for the rest of the weekend.

He did a grand job Friday night & will be there for the rest of the weekend.

Now Juneteenth-

General Order Number 3

One of General Granger’s first orders of business was to read to the people of Texas, General Order Number 3 which began most significantly with:

“The people of Texas are informed that in accordance with a Proclamation from the Executive of the United States, all slaves are free. This involves an absolute equality of rights and rights of property between former masters and slaves, and the connection heretofore existing between them becomes that between employer and free laborer.”

17th ANNUAL JUNETEENTH FESTIVAL OF THE CAROLINAS

17th ANNUAL JUNETEENTH FESTIVAL OF THE CAROLINAS

Look what I found online. I love this celebration. It’s on point and is the epitome of Juneteenth.

Juneteeth- On June 19, 1865, the Union General Gordon Granger rode into Galveston, Tex., to inform inhabitants of the Civil War’s end two months earlier. Two and a half years after Abraham Lincoln signed the Emancipation Proclamation, Granger’s General Order Number 3 finally freed the last 250,000 slaves whose bondage, due to the minimal Union presence in the region, had been essentially unaffected by Lincoln’s efforts. June 19th—which was quickly shortened to “Juneteenth” among celebrants—has become the African-American addendum to national Independence Day, for, as Juneteenth jubilees remind us, the Emancipation Proclamation did not bring about emancipation, and the prevailing portrayal of Independence Day ignores the ignominious incidence of slavery entirely.

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Friday The 13th- is considered an unlucky day in Western superstition. … There is also a superstition, thought by some to derive from the Last Supper or a Norsemyth, that having thirteen people seated at a table …. Western Folklore: 62–63.

Here’s just two of the many gatherings this weekend. Feel free to share your towns news.

Saturday, June 14, 2014, 12 noon–5 pm

Watkins Regional Park
301 Watkins Park Drive,
Upper Marlboro, Maryland 20774

17th ANNUAL JUNETEENTH FESTIVAL OF THE CAROLINAS. Contact the HOUSE OF AFRICA at 704-376-6160 or 980-613-5304. This year is going to be SPECTACULAR !!!!! Don’t miss the chance to be a part of an important piece of American history !! Come witness the SPECTACULAR ENACTMENT of QUEEN CHARLOTTE OF MECKLENBURG (the live telling of the history of Charlotte).

More controversy about June 19th 1865

Here’s 4 things to do this weekend:

1. Hug your dad

2. Call your dad

3. Learn more about Juneteenth.

4. Take the family to a Juneteenth gathering

 

Date Night with the Vet: The Best Man Holiday

Christmas Eve Edition:

I finally got to see it! The Best Man Holiday. It was absolutely beautiful. Every single moment of it. I was able to talk my husband into going with me. Man did he kick the first 2 weeks I asked him to come along. “It’s a chic flick” he says. “I’m gonna go see a different movie.” I wore him down.

The Trailer: The Best Man Holiday     tbm

In the movie one of the wives was dying of cancer. Even with all of that money, a loving – faithful husband, humongous house, incredible friends, perfect children, and the best treatments, there was no earthly healing. 

There is no way anyone can “prepare” for the death of a loved one. I know this first hand. I couldn’t prepare for 11 year old daughter that cold morning in Chapel Hill no matter how hard I prayed for a different outcome or for my mom. Even when she mentioned how unfair it was for everyone to leave her in the hospital. I remember her trying leave but couldn’t make it to the room’s door. This movie demonstrated the denial, anger, faith, pain, surrender, and hope that  one goes through during times like this. I couldn’t grab a napkin/ or sleeve because I was to busy regulating my own emotional roller coaster. As it was all too familiar.

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When ever secondary education colleagues reunite subsequent to 15 numerous years during the Party excursions, they are willing to explore in what way convenient it happens to be for the purpose of long-forgotten rivalries not to mention romances to always be ignited.

Another part of the movie that I thought was a perfect reflection of real life was the timing of pregnancy. I remember hiding my last few pregnancies. Can you believe that I once considered being a “Fertile Myrtle” was less than a blessing?

Now about that cat fight, raunchy house party, back stabbing among brothas,the interracial dating, and talent show…….. I won’t ruin the movie experience for you by sharing. Let’s just say, there is NOTHING like unconditional love of a crazy bunch of friends and family. The entire cast was incredible.

Go see or download it today!

My husband, not Anthony Hamilton, but my real life one now thinks he can delivers babies…… Go figure!

You can watch a bit of it here. In closing, yes you can turn a  $%#^# into a housewife. (I’m just joking on that one folks!)

Have a fantastic holiday week.

~QC Supermom

(Thank You Fandango for the tickets in order to review this movie.)

Friday Four: So why did I get married?

Today is my wedding anniversary! Whoot Whoot! Time for our our yearly review. Sounds weird to you? Hmm, if so think of it this way, today is for validating why we got married and it’s still worth it staying that way.

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09.20.13 Perkins-Pressley Wedding Anniversary

Last week I asked myself do I really want to do a post called “Why did I get Married?” Then it hit me why not? My husband and I fight like siblings, make up like lovers and push each other like competitors and inspire each other as only true frienamies could do. We’re far from normal but we are so good together.

Rog “Mr Fix it”: 10 years my senior. Engineering student. 20 year Jack Of All Trades. (carpenter, mechanic & musician) Very neat and organized.”Universally Spiritual”. Super fit; athletic. Oldest of his 5 other siblings. Major Crap talker.

I SAY: (He wants me barefoot & pregnant in the kitchen)  

Hubby & FIL

Hubby & FIL

 

Me feeling bright and shiney

Me feeling bright and shiny

Kelle “Mama Of All Mamis”: Johnson & Wales graduate. Never lived on my own. Not Laura Ingles. Love being different. Used to be a gym rat.NEEDS ANOTHER MINI VAN!!!! 🙂

HE SAYS (She’s so spoiled. She thinks money grows on trees! )

We:   Were told to get a reality show FAST!  9 kids (8 living) busy household, enjoys open family discussions. Homeschooling, & the funniest thing ever is when we moved our entire household,washing machine, dressers, yard tools and all with one minivan.

First Attraction

We met in a night club!  Yup! I know what “they” say, but it’s true. He was skipping from the bar to dance floor. He wasn’t what I was used to,so I didn’t pay him much mind. But that Halley Berry Catsuit I had on some 15 years, 70 lbs ago hooked him.He wouldn’t let up for anything. Of course he didn’t get my number. I took his and played the waiting game for a few weeks.

I KNEW that I was committed to him when

Our savings got so low that he took a job that required him to leave out at 4 am and paid minimum wage. One day out on the town, with the kids, I seen an ex and he was doing well. Living Large Legally at that!!!! Sure I was tempted but it hit me “Girl, your man is out there working like a slave to provide, gone bout your business and cut “your own grass”! That was the smarted move I ever made. There has been countless times that he came through in action, proving that I married the right person for me – for life.

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Family.....Love.....the end.

Family…..Love…..the end.

One day he will realize that I, his Scorpio, baby girl, wife, mother of all his children, is always right, and that he should drool after every word that I speak. — sike—- I actually love that he has a strong mind. Him being a oldest child, veteran and leo has it’s perks. He’s a leader for sure. I admire that about him. BUT GOODNESS!!! We go at it! Sometimes it IS in front of the kids. Yes, that’s not good at all. When it happens we make up in front of them as well. (Did I just admit that you my 40 readers lol?)

The Best Song I think of dealing with him would be Jill Scott’s “I AM Not Afraid”

Ssssh!

There are parts of our life no one will ever know. Everything isn’t everyone business. Even as a blogger, there are just some things the public,including family and friend don’t need to know. HOWEVER, I gotta tell you about this awful storm back in 2004 or so. The power went out. We had no heat, or lights. The girls were 3 and 4. We knew that we had to do something quick to keep them warm and safe. We decided to take them to my aunt and uncles house in South Charlotte. When we got there neither of us want to leave the other in the cold house. So we left the girls, happy, warm, well cared for and left to face the cold house together. He hated that I was about to freeze with him. I hated the idea of him freezing alone.When we got back home we barricaded ourselfs in our bedroom with steam from our bathroom shower.

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More “us” time. At times I wonder if we could be as content if the kids were not around. Our strong personalities clash like a brass cymbal at times but going to the car auction, grocery store and hospital for childbirth does not count. I guess we enjoy our own craziness.We get us, and that’s enough!  Lately we’ve tried to do better a couple of plays here and there. For them  and the hope of more to come is enough for now.

This Dr Lee says that he can help couples.

Till the next shopping trip with the hubby, I’m off to enjoy the day with my husband. ~The Queen City Supermom

Wednesday Wow! Being a SAHM

pinn teachus-001I am a proud mother of 9. Yes, I said NINE. Three short of a nice round dozen. I have been a stay/work at home mom for over ten years now, and have learn to enjoy every minute of it! I love, love, love being with my children and watching them grow every step of the way and I am constantly amazed at the things they do and say-and how quickly they learn. They are like sponges -and constantly absorb the world around them. Yet,

being a stay at home mom is anything but easy. I don’t try to have a perfectly clean house, ironed shirts, or gourmet meals. Walk into my house between 8-noon,you will see my 2 year old writing(on walls) or in front of the TV watching PBS or Nick Jr. You’ll see my 4 year old on his laptop or study book, the 5 year old inside his study book or other manipulatives, the teen girls engaged in their self guided assignments or at the library doing research. By 3, it’s free time till 5:30 dinner and bedtime by 9pm.

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 I have been told you have your hands full more times than I would like to have been. Well I do. I go to the market daily. Twice a week we go to story time,Kid Yoga & UNC Charlotte Early Educator learning stations at the library. The 1st Saturday of each month, we go to the Kids Workshop at Home Depot, on Thursdays we eat dinner at Earth Fare (kids eat free*)  and on Mondays, we are at Monkey Joes. Since I also home school, we do a science project every 3 weeks and the remainder off the week are intensive study days. Sundays I’m day off. My husband take over.

Motherhood is a full- time job.  I think the key is making sure you get some grownup talk and support routinely. I am a founding member of Queen City Stay At Home Moms, and it’s wonderful if I do say so myself. Since everyone there was on single income, most of the activities are affordable. Try to find something that you can do that’s just for you, and do it with out the kids. And last but not least, don’t forget to squeeze in a date night with the hubby every once in a while! 😉

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Hopefully, I’ve alleviated some fears of  becoming a productive Stay At Home Mom.  At the end of the day, if given the choice, stay at home!  The financial aspects of it have never been easy, but so far it’s worth all the conservative spending, home made veggie pizza, and the millions of educated play dates we’ve attended. Ultimately, it’s up to each family to decide what is right for them. Just make sure you have a good support group of friends, and try to enjoy every minute with your little ones. They grow up way too fast!

If you know a SAHM or dad, forward them this blog post and consider it a round of 

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applause for all they do. You deserve it!  Well, till the next “boo-boo”, take care,  QC Supermom

Friday Four! A Father-Son Pep Talk

he talksRemember LUCY AND RICKY RICARDO (“I LOVE LUCY”) ? How about MORTICIA AND GOMEZ ADDAMS (“THE ADDAMS FAMILY”)? I see my family somewhere between them all with a bit of CLIFF AND CLAIRE HUXTABLE (“THE COSBY SHOW”)mixed in.

There is never a dull moment in our home. I feel like I’m always the one  giving the chit chats. “Sit down, Do your work, Stop that!”  Yesterday I walked in on my husband having a pow wow with our six and four year old son in the bathroom. I didn’t hear everything, but the tiny bits that I did hear, I’ll share them with you. 

I heard him share these life gems with our future gentlemen:ic

  1. Peer pressure is all about insecurity. Be confident in who you are and you won’t have to “fit in.” People will come to you.
  2. Hold open the door, pull out the chair and give her your coat. Chivalry is not sexism. Hold open the door for anyone. Respect is not sexism.
  3. Know your way around power tools. (And my favorite…….)
  4. When picking a wife, you can never do better than your mother.

Of course there was more, but those are the goodies that I caught before having my nose filled with his “fatherly advice.”

 

Till Next time, QC Supermommomlee

 

I found this page it had some awesome tips to share with your male partner-

 

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Going Pink and hanging w/Shirley Jones

It’s very rare that you will find a blogger so humbled that she would have nothing to say. But that was what I was this weekend. I can not believe how God has blessed me over the years to be in the company of such overwhelmingly awesome group people. .

Here’s one of my b’days wishes:

Not everyone in this world is blessed with an understanding, trustworthy, caring and loving friend. That is exactly why I consider myself so incredibly lucky. A very Happy Birthday to you. Have an amazing day.

While Saturday was my birthday, Thursday was the 7year stamp of my 11 year old daughter’s transition from this life.   Over the years I’ve managed to accept her not with us, but this year was different….it hit me rather HARD.

It seemd like everything was just bursting at the seams.  Because I didn’t want my other kids to see me so vulnerable, I kept them busy all day long till my husband got home. After I sneaked away to my quite place…the bath tub. I got in a good 25 minutes in, till reality mashed “unpause”. It was all I needed though. We went out to dinner and everything was back on track.

Never the less,I knew that I had to find something special to do this year for my birthday to balance out “funk spell!”

Most birthdays are the same for me. I use it as a day of reflection and self check like a yearly job review…Boy was last year a dooozie!  NO regrets though. After all. everything that I am,is a direct reflection of my past, and I it’s all good.

So fast forwarding to Saturday. I attended  NDemand’s  The Love Is So Funny tour. It was totally awesome! Charlene Henderson and her team really know how to put on a safe/secure,classy,shindig for real grown folks. I wore heels -can you believe that?

(My 12 & 13 year old daughters took me shopping with their dads/my husbands money & even dressed me- I had to give them a small plug)

There was live music, live entertainment, food,drinks,cozy atmosphere, great hosts,and did I say Soul singing Shirley Jones from the JOnes Girls was there? She was amazing! Her legs, skin, eyes,smile, and dress- wow! What a beautiful and talented woman! She even brought her teenage daughter with her. How cool was that? She was lip singing her moms songs as she sung….well most of them anyway*.

Also there was comedians Doo Doo Brown and Sean Larkin.  The band and singing duo Epic 92 was amazing I wanted to jump up there and burst a note, but I digressed. Anywhoots it was a great break for me and I got the value of “emotional wellness” back in perspective. I got 4 fours alone. No baby, no husband, no social media, not anything. Just me, myself & I! Nice…… Now I’m heading to bed. We gotta be at Monkey Joes early in the morning. I’m wearing my pink wig to support the dissolution of CANCER. Yes, I’ll post pics later! Till next time- QC Supermom

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