We all want to be happy on Mother’s Day. But for many of us, this type of happiness is an elusive, fleeting state that we can capture only for a brief moment,if at all.
Instead of feeling bad about not having a child, mother or positive relationship with either (or both if they are living.) Well I have news for YOU!
The person you most admire, or envy, is showing you the “highlights reel” in their lives. Think about it. Can someone be ecstatic 24/7? The answer is NO. My family has a healthy 75/25 joy ratio. For me, sharing our great times together is my way of encouraging them to keep up the great work and inspire others that may wonder if such a LARGE family can be productive. The bad things will never be shared. There’s no logical reason for it.
“For after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain.” ― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
When things look dark, we can all use a simple reminder of what is truly important. It’s Your piece of mind. ” The Jones” should inspire you, not cause you to envy. Here’s my confession:
At least once a month, I WISH my mom and oldest daughter was still alive.
I used to get very sad thinking about why they had to leave when they did. My daughter passed 3 days before my birthday at 11 years old. My mom a year later. I began to compare her absence with other girls her age and would question, what would she had been like. I would do the same with my mom. I would fantasize her driving up to our home enjoying her grandkids as she had the older ones. After going into a deep thought, I bring myself to accepting that they were gone in the form I wanted them in. I realized that getting past those thoughts would allow me to enjoy my other 8 children, as well as their adopted community grand parents. Never a trade off- But it was something I had to accept and grow from.
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough” ― Oprah Winfrey
Being able to do so has allowed for peace and other great moments with my family. Today, people ask,, “Why do you smile so much?” I answer quickly, ” I have no reason not too.” So in closing, if this Mother’s Day find you in the dump, snap out your note book and write your blessings down. Look to them to pull forward your joy and build a foundation for more greatness.
“Many people lose the small joys in the hope for the big happiness.” ― Pearl S. Buck
Easier said than done you said? Well, you never know unless you try. What do you have to loose by choosing happiness? Remember, “It isn’t what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”
Be Happy With What You Have!
Have A Great Mother’s Day Weekend Everyone!!!
“Until you make peace with who you are, you will never be content with what you have.”