Seventeen years ago, I created Queen City Stay At Home Moms as an outlet for managing my sorrow. I had just lost my oldest daughter the year before and was preparing to give birth to my second son. All while homeschooling with low funds. Yes, I was married, but we were living off one income at that time. This group provided me with a way to meet up with other families, allowed my homeschooled kids to engage with other diverse children, and the opportunity to use my professional skills because we were highly structured with organized activities beyond the playground. Soon, it would be an additional blessing because I was sought out for ads, product review parties, and my entry into blogging!
Over the years, I have hosted over 20 thousand gatherings. Some from new business ventures,
They have included:
Political playdates at local elected officials office
and more! We have even helped staff our members new businesses as needed. It was perfect because my eight children were the ages of every child that became a member ( except for the newborns)! We even made write-ups in The Charlotte Parents (a local magazine ) a few times!
The moms that join came from various walks of life. I refused to limit it to just families that look like me. I figured the best way to learn about a culture is by befriending as many families as possible. Still amazed that we reached three thousand members.
Although we have never had all three thousand in attendance at any event, we always had a great time and built strong connections. I understood that change happens and once a mom hit a milestone her objective may not include our group anymore. Most times it was due to moving, going back to work, children getting older, or no longer homeschooling.
Today it still blesses my heart to have strong connections with many of those that have graduated from Queen City Stay At Home Moms. As I have. Our youngest is now ten years old and is currently in public school. I work more for grassroots nonprofits and myself. Although I work from home, I’m most in various states at any given time. And at 46, I have learned to live in spite of losing my eleven- year old daughter in 2005.
Queen City Stay At Home Moms will always be special to me, but it has served its purpose and deserves to end on top. This week, I said goodbye to 15 wonderful years to one of the best holistic support groups for moms in the Queen City!
This was yet another great week for the books! And I compiled it in the tidy little 4 pack! Ready?
Like all first Saturdays of the month, we made
it to Home Depot! Kids Workshop. Each month
it’s something different. And did I say it’s free? This time our little diva friend Leyla joined us. S
he is incredibly brilliant and cute!
Sunday, 3 of my sons left out on for Orlando FL. It was AAU Basketball Nationals tournament and 2 of my sons were playing. The trip was long…..eight hours one way! My oldest son came in handy this weekend! He did the entire trip alone! My husband and I stayed in Charlotte to work and catch up on little jobs throughout the house.
Monday came and we returned the borrowed items from the Ellis Island celebration in Druid Hills. Did you miss it on the news? here’s the clip from that. ( here ) and here are some pictures from our 7/4/18 day in the park—> (Click Here)
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If you want to see the other 4 cities besides ourself who won Most Patriotic Neighborhood in America from NextDoor, click { here} for the whole story.
2. This year, we downscaled our dress up game for Chick Fil a Cow Appreciation day. Did you go? My sister got her treats early that morning, I shared mine, and a sister-mom from Queen City Stay At Home Moms shared theirs too. Drop a picture below if you went.
3. Have you ever seen a siser loc instal? I did this week, and I think I could do them on myself. Can you think of all of the money I would save? It could possibly be another flow of income and yes that is never a bad thing.
(See it here) Sisterlock Install on Short Thick Hair…….it’s beautiful! My daughter got her install earlier today. I’ll share her results on my facebook. @QCSupermom
I gotta say, having just two little ones is completely different than having all four of them together. It’s much less work.
These two guys are aggravating without their brotherly set. They are bored more often and I have less time and attention to focus on my other tasks. I just had to send them outside with their dad to smell the air and clean the yard.
4. I just got the update that one of my son’s team won the AAU Basketball Championship for his class scale but the younger one didn’t for his. To celebrate both of their hard work my oldest son took them both to Bush Gardens!
Well, that’s our week so far. Think you can keep up with us? Find out for yourself at
Last weekend in the Queen City was super busy! And we loved every minute of it! I tell ya, there is never a dull moment in the QC!
As a 70’s baby, I grew up in mainstream -everything! Every depiction of Santa that we saw — from television to movies to storybooks — shows that rosy-faced, jolly grandpa who is unapologetically white. He looked nothing like me. Am I not generous?
Am I not generous? Are others like me, not givers? At a certain age, I think it does matter subliminally and he’s not just a jolly, ole fat guy in a red suit.
Is it possible that a long, white beard, the big-bellied man in red with dark skin would not appeal to children in predominantly black and Hispanic parts of the city?
Well, a few of my children and I got to see for ourselves this weekend. We attend two events and both had a positive turn out!
Soulful Santa
The first was Pride Entrepreneur Education Program, (PEEP) it’s a nonprofit of Pride Magazine. They had the happiest SoulfFul Santa on the Westside there. The crafts table was there to reinforce the holiday spirt by giving children the opportunity to create gifts for their loved ones.
The other event was at the Free Store Charlotte. It was outdoors and loaded with fun! From face painting, coat drives, amazing hot fancy and filling food complete with cocoa, jump house, fire pit, free gift table, and so much more.
Did You Know: The Mall of America – the country’s biggest indoor shopping complex – decided to hire a black Santa for the first time this year!
I wanted to know how some of my mom friends thought about ethnic Santa’s. So I spoke with three of them from my mom group, Queen City Stay At Home Moms and each had very interesting responses.
The first mom said: “We balk at the notion that our children should believe that a white man brings them toys, when we ( black parents) are the ones working hard to make their children feel safe, loved and happy/ “
The second mom asked, “Why can’t there be two at each at a time? Like half brothers? When I was small enough to believe in Santa, he was dressed so completely, including the beard, that I could see only his eyes behind thick glasses. I could not see, nor did I care, what skin color he was. I would definitely take my children to go see an Asian Santa,”
The last mom commented:” Santa’s race matters. White folk have enough superheroes. I’m white, but have no tolerance for the abysmal prejudice and past treatment of people of color in this country.”
Although we do not celebrate Christmas, I wanted my children to see that the Santa doesn’t have to look only one way. Santa can be whatever they want him to be. Looking at my littlest Noah’s face, he may never want to go see Santa again, but he has photographic evidence that Santa can reflect the skin tones of many cultures. And that’s, well, pretty magical.
To see more culturally diverse Santas all you have to do is show up when he’s in town. Charlotte organizations like PEEPs, and The Free Store Charlotte will continue to invite him in our hearts, centers, businesses and home!
You can find children’s books that feature a black Santa Claus, and he appears in some ornaments and other products. The website blacksanta.com, founded by the former N.B.A. player Baron Davis, sells products like T-shirts, hats and ornaments featuring images of black Santa. In a classic episode of “The Cosby Show,” Dr. Huxtable explains to one of the children that as Santa drops down each chimney, his race morphs to match that of the family he’s visiting – Asian, African-American, Caucasian and so on. -By The NYTimes
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Here are 27 scholarships for Saturday, December 3, 2016.
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Larry E. Sitzman Youth in Nebraska Agriculture Scholarship Sponsor: Nebraska Pork Producers Association Amount: $1,000 Closing Date: December 15, 2016 Description: Scholarship is open to students currently enrolled as a full-time undergraduate or graduate student at a fully accredited college, university or technical college in an agriculture related degree program in Nebraska.
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National Ag Day Photo Contest Sponsor: Agriculture Council of America Amount: $1,000 Closing Date: December 15, 2016 Description: Contest is open to students in college in the United States. Student must submit an original photo on the contest theme: “Agriculture Food For Life.”
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One Shot Scholarship Sponsor: One Shot Outdoors, LLC Amount: $500 Closing Date: December 15, 2016 Description: Scholarship is open to high school seniors and current college students. Applicant must submit completed application and an essay describing their dream, goal, or passion.
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Prompt Scholarship Essay Contest Sponsor: Prompt.com Amount: Up to $10,000 Closing Date: December 15, 2016 Description: Scholarship is open to students 16 years of age or older who are currently applying for an undergraduate degree at an accredited institution within the United States or Canada in 2017 (or 2018 if taking a gap year). Applicant can use any essay they have written as part of a college application. Scholarship is open every month until December 15. Each monthly winner will then have a chance for a $10,000 scholarship.
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Rare Disease Scholarship Program Sponsor: XpertDox Amount: $750 Closing Date: December 15, 2016 Description: Scholarship is open to current undergraduate and graduate students who have an interest in medical related research (including public health) or patient care (medicine, nursing, pharmacology or nutrition). Applicant must submit an essay on a given topic related to rare diseases.
Resume Genius Annual Scholarship Sponsor: Resume Genius Amount: $1,000 Closing Date: December 15, 2016 Description: Scholarship is open to students enrolled, or due to be enrolled, in full-time university education for the semester they are applying for the scholarship. Applicant must create a resume based on the life of any fictional or non-fictional character, from TV, history, literature or myth.
(Yes, keep reading) (No, you will if you’re lucky, so keep reading) I have found the complete solution to them both. It’s a company called Fade Away Sleep Sounds.
Ultimately it’s has been a God send for me more than for the children. When it rains here in Charlotte unlike others, I don’t try to hide from it. I do the opposite. I open the window and may even go sit on the porch. The sound of rain, thunderstorms, wind chimes just soothes me. It’s the same sounds I can listen to everyday via Fade Away Sleep Sounds.
Have you heard of white noise /sounds? I’ll explain, White noise is a type of noise that is produced by combining sounds of all different frequencies together. If you took all of the imaginable tones that a human can hear and combined them together, you would have white noise.
When asked my moms friends of Queen City Stay At Home Moms how they enjoyed it I got responses all across the board. Since we have 5 babies aged 10 months and below, we thought it would be cool to try the white sounds on our little ones.
But after 4 weeks of consistently using the Fade Away Sleep Sounds, the common response was “it works!” The babies love white noise. And it makes sense. They’ve just spent their entire life in the womb. And the womb is deafeningly loud. I guess you can say White noise sounds like “home” to a baby.
Here’s what my mom friends have shared:
Kim said she was able to do laundry, and have an uninterrupted lunch date with her husband while the baby slept soundly in the next room..
Tina shared, “As a homeschooling mom, having her little one nap at a certain time every day makes life much easier.”
Lisa messaged me and said the she wants to try more. She wrote, ” It helps not only her twins, but her husband too!”
These sounds are a way cheaper and less toxic option than running your actual water or burn gas driving in circles till Little Bruce falls asleep.
Let’s jump right in here. This is a collection of things to do this summer that is not only cheap but educational too! It’s a string of conversations between myself and my online friends everywhere! The great thing about their collection is that you can find most of the ideas in your town under a different name. Just search, ask and go. The summer you want is available. You do not have to sit in the house this summer. Get out with your children and have fun!
K-Moments Photo from the Total Children’s Wellness Fair
Hikes through a wooded area, camping in the backyard/ living room turn all electronics off for the day. We just did this over the weekend and everyone had a great time. We set up games like a water balloon throwing contest, bean bag toss, kick ball, sack races and other fun things. Made a fake fire, and had a simple dinner of hot dogs and chips, lunch we had a picnic lunch at the local park and did some exploring of the trails
Library programs. Swimming, fishing, and picnics at the lake. Free concerts at the park. Slumber parties or tenting in the back yard. Hot dogs on the grill.
Get active in your mom group. If you don’t have one find one like Queen City Stay At Home Moms. We do a lot of co operative adventures together!
It doesn’t cost anything just being with friends and family is enough for me. Sitting visiting laughing playing board games card games or sitting around a fire in my back yard
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Both of my daughters (now in their 30’s and 40’s) remember the fun times we had loading up stuff from the pantry – crackers, tuna, peanut butter, jug of water and beach towels – and heading to the beach for the day. Most favorite memories =o)
Free science museum Thursday afternoons, zoo passes, park, pool, and drop off at grandmas!
Oh, water SPRAY PADS!!!! Everywhere has at least one spray PAD!
Get a foam swim tube @ dollar store poke holes in it attach it to hose. Viola a sprinkler you can make it go upward or down like a shower!
VISIT a friend that live in an apartment with a pool- Grab some towels and go swimming!
Make koolaid popsicles in ice cube tray. Make a tent in the backyard with old sheet or blanket or tarp. Catch fireflies at night. Look at the stars. Have a block party with neighbors. Potluck and play the radio. Teach kids how to tell ghost stories or read out loud to them from library books.
welcome to my life right now. That is ok, some of the most fun things are free.
I set up obstacle courses for my kids then we take turns setting it up we use stuff we already have
Thank god there’s a site for free stuff to do in Chicago lol I’d be struck too often.
NC by Train and Amtrak are offering a Summer 2016 Deal for kids ages 2-12! Up to two children can ride for $5 (per each full-fare paying adult) to any destination in NC Tuesday-Thursday, and Saturday (some blackout dates apply). Entry promo code V765 for the discount!
Details below-
Seasonal: Summer
Day: Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Saturday
Through 8.31.2016
Grades: Preschool, Elementary, Middle School
Age: 2-12
$5
Cont…….
Pack a picnic lunch and go to the park.
Or better yet, grab a recipe from Kelle Cooking With Kids and create a healthy treat together!
That why we go to the dollar store!
Yes. Think we’ll go somewhere. Go set in pickup in are driveway for awhile. And not even move. Get out go back into house. Wow that was cool
Yup… well, there is always the imagination and that’s free! You can even run away with it. 3 bucks will get you some lemons, you probably some sugar just add water. lol Make the best of your day.
Summer Bonus Perks:
You can even earn free coffee/ make an extra $200-$300 a month with no investment. by hosting Organo Gold House Parties with friends. (You can get more info on that —–right here!
RIGHT NOW I’m hooking up a family in need! I am giving away a week of media camp with Charlotte Youth Broadcasting Camp.
Haven’t heard about it yet?….I’ll update you.
At CYBC [Charlotte Youth Broadcasting Camp]. We have campers from various states, cities, and regions who come for the CYBC experience. Radio (June 20-24) & Sports Broadcasting (June 27th-July 1st) is still available register now atwww.Charlotteybc.com. Age groups 9-12 and 13-17.
All you have to do tell how you would spend the extra $300 you’ll save.
Post it below. I’ll notify the winner RIGHT here on next Friday!
One of my favorite street vendors and I was talking and somehow we began discussing dental care. I still don’t recall how we got on the subject, but he asked for resources because he wanted his remaining teeth all removed. I knew there were local resources, but couldn’t recall them at that time.
Once I got home I was able to collect this list for him from posting online already. I’m gonna print it and hope he makes good use of it.This list is a gift to any adult in the medical coverage whole as well. If you are not near any of these locations, just use the keywords and enter your town or county name. Something must come up.
Low Cost and Free Dental clinics in or near Charlotte
Teeth cleaning, fluoride and x-rays. Screening is free; walk-in, first-come first serve; call for screening days and hours. If accepted, $20.00 per visit for appointments.
Care Ring 601 E 5th St. Ste 140, Charlotte, NC 28202, 704-375-0172
Charlotte Community Health Clinic 8401 Medical Plaza Dr, Charlotte, NC 28262, 704-316-6561 J. Dental Hygiene Clinic at CPCC 1335 Elizabeth Ave., Charlotte, NC 28204, 704-330-6704
Teen Health Connection 3541 Randolph Rd. Ste 206, Charlotte, NC 28211, 704-381-8336 – Novant Health Mobile Community Care Cruiser Mobile Unit with various locations throughout the County, 704-384-3031
Monday – Friday: 8:00 am – 5:00 pm Services: Pediatric Dentistry This facility sees children ages 0-13 and offers Sedation Dentistry. As well, they provide a full range of primarydental services like cleanings, fluoride varnish, fillings, sealants, extractions, pulpotomies (babyroot ca
The mobile center provides quality dental care to those in need in the north Mecklenburg and south Iredell area. Basic dental services are provided at this center(dental screenings, cleanings, fillings, extractions, oral health education and referrals to specialty services). Volunteer dental profess
Monday – Thursday: 8:00 am – 7:00 pm Friday: 8:00 am – 5:00 pm This facility opened in January 1996, and began treating patients in July 2004. They serve people who have Medicaid, Health Choice, or private insurance as well as those who are uninsured or underinsured and cannot afford fees charge
Clinic HoursMonday-Thursday 9:00 am to 5:00 pm(Closed for lunch 12:00 pm to 1:30 pm)Friday (Closed) York County Free Clinic provides compassionate care for qualified patients (age 18-64) by appointment only for free services, including dental care. Visit the website provided for full information
601 E. Fifth St., Suite 140 Charlotte, North Carolina 28202 Phone number (704) 375-0172
Matthews Health Clinic
113 N. Ames St. Charlotte, NC 28105 (704) 841-1694
One of the leading place to turn to for help in the greater Charlotte area. A number of basic medical and dental care services are offered, and programs are targeted at the less fortunate and uninsured.
Medical Society, Mecklenburg County – This is a great resource for referrals to government programs and local community clinics as well as social services.
Location of the clinic is 1112 Harding Pl., Suite 200 Charlotte, North Carolina 28204
Carolinas Medical Center (CMC) @ Myers Park
Address – 1350 S. Kings Dr.Charlotte, North Carolina 28207 Phone number – (704) 446-1600
Primary Health-Care of Charlotte, P.A.
Address and phone numbers are 508 Beatties Ford Rd.
Charlotte, NC 28216 Dial – (704) 347-1172
Loving Touch Adult Day/Health Care Center, Inc.
Address of the health center is – 1302 Beatties Ford Rd.
Charlotte, NC 28216 Call the location at (704) 331-0015
Carolinas Medical Center (CMC) @ NorthPark
251 Eastway Dr. Charlotte, North Carolina 28213 (704) 446-9991
Physicians Reach Out
Location is 601 E. Fifth St., Suite 150 Charlotte, NC 28202 (704) 371-4740
Many volunteer nurses, doctors, dentists, and hygienists provide free health and dental care to the homeless and people who can’t afford to pay medical or hospital bills.
W. Williams Community Health Center @ Wilkinson Blvd.
3333 Wilkinson Blvd. Charlotte, North Carolina 28266
Call (704) 393-7720 to speak to a medical professional and to make an appointment. A charity care program is in place for the poor and uninsured.
Another office of the C. W. Williams Community Health Center is @ Midtown Medical Office
Greenville Neighborhood Center. – City of Charlotte Neighborhood Development
1330 Spring St. Charlotte, NC 28206 (704) 336-2877
CMC Biddle Point – Health Department
1801 Rozzelles Ferry Rd. Charlotte, NC 28208 Dial the clinic at (704) 350-7300
As the name implies, the clinic focuses on offering dental care. Some services, such as cleanings or check ups, may be provided for free to income qualified families.
Health Department Clinics at Billingsley
Address 249 Billingsley Rd. Charlotte, NC 28211 Dial the Mecklenburg community clinic at (704) 336-4700
Some of the health care that may be available includes pharmaceutical services (as appropriate), out reach, patient education, basic check ups, and immunization and prenatal care.
Presbyterian Healthcare
200 Hawthorne Ln. Charlotte, North Carolina 28204 Call the center at (704) 384-4000
As you look through this list, I encourage you to contact your local politicians and remind them why expanding Medicaid is important t o you and your loved ones.
High School Graduation brings all types of newness.
I have a classmate that gave her daughter to a community friend. This year she graduated from high school and I was so pleasantly surprised to see here there supporting her child. It signified a a new chapter for them both. No matter what happened in the past,she was there and her child needed that. Another classmate of mine told me her nieces mom didn’t even showed up and the graduate actually cried on her BIG day. What I want to share with any absent parent, let go of the ego and get your child! Unless you are a creep, molester, etc,. the current guardian can no longer keep you from your child. Yes, honey, it’s YOUR TIME TO bond!
Need help making it happen? I got you. Here’s FOUR ways To To Take Advantage Of This bonding Opportunity:
Apologize for everything. Some things could have happened and you may not be aware of it.It may not even be your fault. Something could have happened completely out of your control. Own up to it.Gone on, claim your ‘ish. Sort through all of it.But don’t put blame completely on the child and other guardian*
Answer Offer to Answer any and all questions she/her may have. You’ll be embarrassed,but keep the end goals in mind. Sometimes you have to “UNTIE KNOTS “to get on a smoother road. Now is that time.
Ask for a relationship. Don’t be crazy and ask her/him to call you mamma/daddy, but ask can we build some type of relationship from here.
Find ways to be significant. You already know your child will need a mini fridge. Go buy it. Create a pintrest page to share with her/him. Keep it updated with college tips and advice. Send monthly care packages, Send gift cards to local venues/attractions in her /his college town. Whatever you do, keep sincere. While you will never make up for lost time, you most certainly can create a special relationship with your child that will never be broken. When she celebrate- you celebrate. When she upset, you find ways to put a smile on her face that no one else can.
These are my personal tips. They are working so far for me. Met my number 3.(yes, I altered her face) She and I are building a real bond now.I know in my heart, she’s another reason why my professional services create more opportunities for me to be in her life. I’m not wasting the opportunities. I’ll let you know how that goes!
If you have been living with your boyfriend for at least 7 ears, you just maybe married. Yes. Girl-Married. My boyfriend swore up and down we were married. And no matter how much I insisted that we weren’t he refused to believe me. Which makes me wonder if his parents are actually married, and at ease at the fact that I I was present at the courthouse when we went to apply for our marriage license. Seems as thought the common Law route is a family norm for them, but that’s a conversation for another day.
Are you shacking, co habitating and wondering if you are considered married? This post will help!
The jurisdictions which still permit common-law marriages are the states of Alabama,Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, New Hampshire, Rhode Island, South Carolina,Texas, and Utah, and the District of Columbia. does go a little further by saying that if you live in one of the above states and you “hold yourself out to be married” (by telling the community you are married, calling each other husband and wife, using the same last name, filing joint income tax returns, etc.), you are the Mrs.! I think I’ll keep my officiating service right here in the beautiful state of NC.
Alabama. In this state, the parties must agree to be husband and wife, they must have the mental capacity to enter into and understand such an agreement, and they must consummate the marital relationship.
Colorado. In order for a common law marriage to exist in Colorado, the relationship must be proven by the cohabitation of the common law spouses and their reputation for being married.
District of Columbia. In the District, a common law marriage is established by the parties’ explicit intent to be married and by their cohabitation.
Georgia- (if created before 1/1/97)
Idaho (if created before 1/1/96)
Iowa. A common law marriage is established in Iowa by the parties’ intent and agreement to be married, their continuous cohabitation, and their public declarations that they are husband and wife.
Kansas. In Kansas, the man and woman must have the mental capacity to marry, they must agree to be married at the present time, and they must represent to the public that they are married in order for a common law marriage to exist.
New Hampshire. This state recognizes common law marriages only upon the death of one of the spouses. In other words, common law marriages are recognized in New Hampshire for inheritance purposes only.
Montana. In Montana, the parties must have the capacity to consent to marriage, they must agree to be married, they must cohabitate, and they must have a reputation of being married.
Oklahoma. The parties must be competent, agree to enter into a marriage relationship, and cohabitate in order to be considered as having a common law marriage.(for inheritance purposes only)
Pennsylvania. A common law marriage is established in Pennsylvania by the exchanging of words between a man and a woman indicating an intent to be married at the present time. (if created before 1/1/05)
Rhode Island. In Rhode Island, a common law marriage exists if a man and woman have a serious intent to be married and engage in conduct that leads to a reasonable belief by others in the community that they are married.
South Carolina. In this state, if a man and woman intend for others to believe they are married, a common law marriage may be established.
Texas. If a man and woman in Texas sign a form provided by the county clerk, agree to be married, cohabitate, and represent to others that they are married, a common law marriage exists.
Utah. Utah does not recognize common law marriage, however courts can retroactively approve the marriage of couples without ceremony if the couple is of age and legally able to consent to marriage, have lived together, treated each other as spouses and hold themselves out as married.
If You Live in a State that Does Not Recognize Common Law Marriage
There is no way to form a common law marriage, no matter how long you live with your partner. There is one catch: if you spend time in a state that does recognize common law marriage, “hold yourself out as married,” and then return or move to a state that doesn’t recognize it, you are still married (since states all recognize marriages that occurred in other states). However, this is murky legal territory and I don’t recommend experimenting with it!
Now, If you desire a wedding officiant , I know this girl…… she is excellent and is registered in the state of North Carolina to perform really cool weddings for the non denominational, unchurch-ed yet spiritual couple. Check out Jabela, the life celebrant !
NOTE:Much of the information on this fact sheet comes from an excellent do-it-yourself legal guide called Living Together: A Legal Guide for Unmarried Couples, by attorneys Toni Ihara, Ralph Warner, and Frederick Hertz (2008).
If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings. – Brian Tracy
My name is Kelle and I have created 9 people. I hug them, kiss them, let them sit on my lap, talk with them, and even share their pictures any chance I get. But I’m NOT raising punk! I know people only change when they have to. If I don’t teach my children how to love, fix their own mess and be responsible, they will have a hard time functioning as responsible independent adults.
After I lost my 11yr old daughter to AIH in 2005, my motherhood goals awakened. I wanted to be the best mom I could be. If I could drive, bus, somewhere, my tribe is there. No Mother Wounds OR CockPit Parenting, just passionate motherhood. For example,let’s take the CEO of a fortune 500 company.That person spend hours learning the skills, they get up each morning thinking of ways to improve the company. Every decision must be passed by and approved by this person.This person knows and cares for this business many times more than themselves. Well, I do all of that, but for my children AND my vested interest are humans.
We may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future. – President Franklin D. Roosevelt
The wisdom and morals parents can pass on to their offspring is priceless.To be responsible adults when they get older, they can’t be responsible if we are still doing everything for them and won’t let them out of our sight. If you need guidance, see QCSUPERMOM. I would love to assist you with personlized parenting strategies!
To great parents, may we know them, Be them, Encourage them and Support them. ~ Kelle
Children shouldn’t raise children.A BPD/NPD is often described as a child in an adult’s body. Emotionally and psychologically speaking, this is often true. These individuals can be incredibly immature and seem to be stuck at an early age of emotional development. Many of my clients who share a child with a BPD/NPD mother watch in amazement (and relief) as their children surpass their wives in emotional maturity, empathy and problem-solving skills.
Most things are good, and they are the strongest things; but there are evil things too, and you are not doing a child a favor by trying to shield him from reality. The important thing is to teach a child that good can always triumph over evil. – Walt Disney
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