Wednesday Wow: Getting Married In N.C.

Getting married in North Carolina? It can be something aggravating. I know first hand. My sisters are still calling me Bridezilla’. As a non-denominational wedding officiant, I wanted to remain relative`, so I asked a few friends what has the hardest part of getting married and each of them responded pretty much the same, “finding a non-denominational wedding officiant”. Turns out, not everyone wants to get married in a church. I didn’t. The other top issues centered around selecting an affordable and compatible officiant. I can help with that.

What should be included:
  • Many officiants include a get-to-know-you meeting with the couple, followed by two or three planning sessions. Most officiants provide several options for ceremony wording and structure, as well as a choice of readings. On the wedding day, the officiant arrives early, has the witnesses sign the marriage license, and performs the ceremony. Afterward, the officiant mails the marriage license to the county so it can be officially recorded, and mails a copy to the couple.

Why does it cost so much for 20 – 30 minutes of work?
It is completely understandable for couples and their guests to assume officiants earn an unusually high amount of money for simply prompting the couple through their vows and pronouncing them husband and wife, but that is only part of the story the most visible part.

Competent officiants invest time before the wedding gathering the pieces together and ensuring the desired flow of the ceremony is there. Time may be spent helping the couple customize vows, decide between a unity candle or a sand ceremony, and/or writing the opening words, a blessing. Ceremony composition is far more time-consuming than the joyful occasion itself.

Officiants are often present well before the service to calm nerves or confer with a wedding consultant, the photographer, and other wedding vendors. We are usually asked to stay for a portrait after….sometimes waiting for a long receiving line to conclude or family portraits to be taken first.
Officiants in North Carolina are also responsible for ensuring accurate completion of the marriage license and submitting it to the appropriate county clerk recorders office and there are travel and/or postage expenses associated with this responsibility.Wedding officiating is a business with accompanying expenses. Officiants must advertise, maintain home offices, have internet access, make long-distance phone calls and travel to the ceremony among other costs.
Your officiant is a professional every bit as much as your caterer and your photographer.

I would love to share Jabela: Non-denominational marriage officiant and life celebrant with you. I have been marrying couples since 2007! See more about her here—> CLICK HERE! Here’s the Facebook page: CLICK HERE!

Here’s more information:

On-Line Marriage Application Form
On-Line Marriage Application Form Only valid for 10 Days.

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NC SHEROES 2017 AWARDEES

It’s Woman History Month! Let’s celebrate the amazing contributions women make to our world and our future.

We are so fortunate to have several remarkable women from our community who are going to share their journey as we as answer any question you may have for them.

Come join  Momsrising THIS Saturday March 18th 2017   Beatties Ford Rd. Regional Library at 1pm; as we highlight and celebrate our selected SHEROES!

The award ceremony and roundtable includes a “Dress Up-Fantasy”  area for the children and a light reception following.This event is free! So come on! Ready to attend? Well it’ll be here  in no time. For now get to know more about each of them here.

Meet Chautauqua Ellison, NC SHERO

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Chautauqua Ellison, NC SHERO

Born February 24, 1973, on a Saturday evening to Glenda Graves (American) and Herman Morris (Guyanese). A product of both the foster care system and adoption system. Adopted at the age of 15 after going from one abusive foster family to another and having experienced abuse with the family she hoped to have finally found love and her place of belonging only to feel the cycle of being not wanted, she came to understand what she wanted part of her journey to be. She understood she wanted to help little brown girls like herself.
A graduate of Marlboro County High School in 1992 and immediately went off to college. She attended Morris College in Sumter, SC, Commissioned as 2nd Lieutenant in the United States Army, April 1997 and graduated May 10th, 1997 with a Bachelor of Arts in English.
After graduating from college Chautauqua moves to Charlotte, NC and this is where she began her career in Early Education. Chautauqua has taught Early Education for 19 years. She is also a former HeadStart Educator.
Chautauqua became a member of the Order of Eastern Star, Queen Sheba #5 at the age of 21 and is still active with the Junior Eastern Stars affiliated with her chapter. At this time she began to have a full experience with SISTERHOOD.
Fast forward to the year 2010 and Chautauqua becomes involved with an amazing organization called I Am My Sister. She has facilitated evidence-based program pm Teen Pregnancy and Teen STDs/STI for 4 years for the organization. In 2013 Chautauqua started the first community-based club for the organization. In January of 2016, she became the Executive Director for I Am My Sister NC and SC chapter.
I Am My Sister is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization that provides programs and resources centered around leadership development, healthy relationships, beauty and body image, career development, community service and support, entrepreneurship and workforce development, financial literacy, adolescent sexual health and teen parenting support, education and mentoring services for youth and their families.
I Am My Sister’s programs and services are available to youth and families in NC, SC, MD, NY, GA and CA.
I Am My Sister LOVES diversity! We’re PRO-YOUNG PEOPLE and don’t discriminate on the basis of race, color, age, ethnicity, religion, national origin, pregnancy, sexual orientation, gender identity, sex or disability.
Along with being an active member of the OES (Order of Eastern Star), Chautauqua is also an active member of the Black Women Caucus of Mecklenburg , a member of the School Leadership Team at Lincoln Heights School (CMS) and a member of The National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC).
Chautauqua was also a nominee for the 2017 Mayor’s Mentor Alliance Award.
Chautauqua also lives by her personal motto: In order to teach life lessons, one must have lived the lesson beginning taught.

Meet Amanda Zullo, Founder + Owner

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Amanda Zullo is the Founder and Owner of Pop Up Produce

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Amanda Zullo is the Founder and Owner of Pop Up Produce and a 2016 Emerging City Champions grant recipient winner, sponsored by 8 80 Cities and the Knight Foundation. A designer, community engager and food enthusiast, she has a passion for health and wellness, sustainable living and fresh food. Amanda earned her Masters in Urban Design with a Post-Masters Certificate in Real Estate Development, a Bachelors of Architecture, and a Bachelors of Arts in Architecture with a Minor in Geography, all from the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. In both academic and professional realms, her focus has been to foster healthy communities through the built environment using design towards community activism. She has been involved in numerous local volunteer organizations, from educating the youth through various programs and work relating to community outreach.

 

Meet 2017 NC Shero: Nakisa Glover ng

She is a mom, native of Charlotte, NC and holds a biology degree from UNC-Charlotte.
She has built a track record as a community organizer, with years of experience in corporate, community and service-based work. She has a passion for advocacy and contributing positively to the community. She is the co-host of TheAgenda, a local think tank dedicated to creating space built on four pillars to Inform, Discuss, Network and take Action. As a strong collaborator, she brings her perspective to her current role with Hip Hop Caucus as National Climate Justice Organizer. She is the former national field coordinator for the Justice Action Mobilization Network (JAMN), a group dedicated to advancing climate change policy using a fusing social justice and climate justice. Her deep local and national networks mean that Ms. Glover has resources and contacts for dealing effectively with such critical issues as climate, social and economic justice. She was recently recognized as an Emerging Leader in the Climate Movement and is the recipient of the Clean Air Carolina the 2016 Airkeeper Award, joining NC Governor Roy Cooper, Dr. James Kenny, and other business leaders.

Meet NC Shero; Je’lah Singleton.

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D-Jé Boogie can be contacted via the following channels: Email – http://www.djeboogie00.com Instagram – @djeboogie00 Twitter- @djeboogie00 Facebook- D-Je’ Boogie Telephone – 980.202.3036

Jèlah Singleton, aka D-Jé Boogie, is a teenage female DJ who has presently been developing her craft for a little over a year. The idea of aspiring to become a DJ occurred when she realized how she could share her creativity and her love for music with others. D-Jé believes music has no boundaries or barriers. The art of being a DJ bridges gaps of age, ethnicity and various backgrounds.

 

Music has always been a huge part of D-Jé Boogie’s life. Sharing her craft allows her to share her love for the innocence and different moods of music. The variety of DJ engagements allows her to choose and ‘’play with” the appropriate genre of music for any occasion.

Becoming a DJ has required the investment in equipment, time and learning the art of the craft. She enrolled in classes, which enhanced her love for mixing and transitioning music. While attending the WTHands DJ Academy, D-Jé Boogie was selected to appear on WBTV for one their young DJ spots. That exposure improved her confidence to perform in front of crowds. Entrepreneurship has proven to be challenging and has also required discipline. However, entrepreneurship has also allowed D-Jé Boogie, as a teenager, to be her own boss. The God-given gift of her love for music will continue to reach people of all ages and allow her to share  their special moments.

Although DJ Boogie has been trained to provide the appropriate music for many occasions, she has been labeled as having an Old Soul. Her personal music of choice is different genres of music from the 1960s -1990s

 

Meet NC Shero; Flo Ward, We Chic’d It

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Flo is a creative environmentalist and DIYer. She used her prior experiences to start  We Chic’d It!, a furniture upcycling company based in North Carolina with the mission to help keep usable solid wood antique and vintage furniture from going into our landfills.
After completing her undergraduate work in Fine Arts, she worked as a graphic designer for several publishing/marketing companies, such as AutoTrader and Pilot Media Companies, until switching careers and going back to school to become an educator/trainer of technology within the school system. Now, several years later, she uses her knowledge of color, DIYing (do it yourself crafts), and education to teach others how to refinish, refurbish, reupholster, and repurpose their home furniture and decor items. Becoming the Queen DIYer/Upcycling Creationist that everyone knows her to be. Always thinking outside of the box, and generating ideas on Facebook, Pinterest, and HomeTalk. She is a married, mother of three and lives in the Lake Norman area, near Charlotte, North Carolina.

 

Meet NC Shero; Judith Wilson, – Foodie4Access

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Judith Wilson Burkes http://www.foodie4access.org http://www.sssmovement.com Facebook: #judielise #foodie4access #sssmoves #celebratec Twitter: @judielise, @sss_movement, Foodie4Accessclt

 

Judith Wilson Burkes is a nonprofit founder, author/blogger, internet radio host, community disability advocate and business owner.

Growing up in New York City, she developed a passion for the arts and all creativity. After attending an art high school against the wishes of her family, Judith tried to work for corporate America. She worked for various industries, usually finding a way to bring her love of creativity to the job, for more than 15 years, before her health made her leave the workforce in her mid-30s. She faced hardship in her relationships as well, as two marriages ended in divorce, leaving her to raise two sons on the autism spectrum virtually by herself. Despite her own health issues, Judith continued to work at home, first with her own graphic design company, and then virtually for technology-driven companies.

Moving from NY to MD, and now making Charlotte, NC her home, Judith formed her own nonprofit, Foodie4Access in 2016, to break down barriers of isolation faced by people and families touched by disability. Then, after meeting the founder of a local singles organization, Judith quickly saw the value of his idea to do for Christian singles what she was driven to do for people with disabilities.

With her two sons grown and independent, Judith now spends her time creating inclusive events that focus on changing lifestyles and mindsets.

Today, as President of The Single, Saved and Serious Movement and founder of Foodie4AccssCLT, she hopes to foster a sense of community among people who want to expand their social and entertainment horizons, while making a difference in local underserved communities, with small businesses and outreach organizations poised to make a difference.

 

“Do Not wait for someone else to come and speak for you. It’s you who can change the world”. -M.Y.

This gathering is in part sponsored by Momsrising. To RSVP and find out more information, visit our Facebook event at: https://goo.gl/NXoUDw   or follow along on Twitter with NCSheroes2017

 

 

Soulful Saturday

Last weekend in the Queen City was super busy! And we loved every minute of it! I tell ya, there is never a dull moment in the QC!

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As a 70’s baby, I grew up in mainstream -everything! Every depiction of Santa that we saw — from television to movies to storybooks — shows that rosy-faced, jolly grandpa who is unapologetically white.  He looked nothing like me. Am I not generous?

Am I not generous? Are others like me, not givers? At a certain age, I think it does matter subliminally and he’s not just a jolly, ole fat guy in a red suit.

Is it possible that a long, white beard, the big-bellied man in red with dark skin would not appeal to children in predominantly black and Hispanic parts of the city?

Well, a few of my children and I got to see for ourselves this weekend. We attend two events and both had a positive turn out!

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The first was Pride Entrepreneur Education Program, (PEEP) it’s a nonprofit of Pride Magazine. They had the happiest SoulfFul Santa on the Westside there. The crafts table was there to reinforce the holiday spirt by giving children the opportunity to create gifts for their loved ones.

The other event was at the Free Store Charlotte. It was outdoors and loaded with fun!  From face painting, coat drives, amazing hot fancy and filling food complete with cocoa, jump house, fire pit, free gift table, and so much more.Image may contain: one or more people, fire, food and outdoor

Did You Know: The Mall of America – the country’s biggest indoor shopping complex – decided to hire a black Santa for the first time this year!

I wanted to know how some of my mom friends thought about ethnic Santa’s. So I spoke with three of them from my mom group, Queen City Stay At Home Moms and each had very interesting responses.

The first mom said: “We balk at the notion that our children should believe that a white man brings them toys, when we ( black parents) are the ones working hard to make their children feel safe, loved and happy/ “

The second  mom asked, “Why can’t there be two at each at a time? Like half brothers? When I was small enough to believe in Santa, he was dressed so completely, including the beard, that I could see only his eyes behind thick glasses. I could not see, nor did I care, what skin color he was.  I would definitely take my children to go see an Asian Santa,” 

The last mom commented:” Santa’s race matters. White folk have enough superheroes. I’m white, but have no tolerance for the abysmal prejudice and past treatment of people of color in this country.”

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Although we do not celebrate Christmas, I wanted my children to see that the Santa doesn’t have to look only one way. Santa can be whatever they want him to be. Looking at my littlest Noah’s face, he may never want to go see Santa again, but he has photographic evidence that Santa can reflect the skin tones of many cultures. And that’s, well, pretty magical.

To see more culturally diverse Santas all you have to do is show up when he’s in town. Charlotte organizations like PEEPs, and The Free Store Charlotte will continue to invite him in our hearts, centers, businesses and home! black-sooul

End Notes-

Baron Davis adds a bit of color to Christmas with The Black Santa Company

The former NBA star aims to diversify the holiday with his game-changing venture.

You can find children’s books that feature a black Santa Claus, and he appears in some ornaments and other products. The website blacksanta.com, founded by the former N.B.A. player Baron Davis, sells products like T-shirts, hats and ornaments featuring images of black Santa. In a classic episode of “The Cosby Show,” Dr. Huxtable explains to one of the children that as Santa drops down each chimney, his race morphs to match that of the family he’s visiting – Asian, African-American, Caucasian and so on. -By The NYTimes

Rosa Parks Farmers Market & Chef Kabui

Repeat After Me; “Cooking classes are for people that eat.” They aren’t just for free food samples and entertainment. Now, If you attend a really good one, that also has a farmer’s market on the property…you’ll really be sizzling!

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Each week the boys and I have been attending the Rosa Parks Farmers Market here at the Health Department on Beatties Ford Rd. They even had a chef out there offering free cooking classes. I give them an allowance and most times, they stay within their budget. Because the prices are very fair, the produce is organic and locally grown, it quickly became a highlight of our week. As a matter of fact, the baby boys learned their days of the week based on “Tuesday Market Day.”

My home-schooled boys love the Kids Zone too. It’s like their own little world of education and entertainment. Which is great as I shop and get the first sample of Chef Kabuhi’s dishes, on the days they don’t feel like sitting quietly and watching. As the chef cooks, he teaches, tells stories and pause for culinary photo opportunities every once in a while.  From him we’ve learned these things:

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  • imag0061It’s smarter to add salt as you go along. There is NO WAY of reducing it once it’s on your food.
  • God doesn’t bless you with good health when you choose to eat cheap food
  • Spice is a seed and herbs are plants
  • If you listen*, your food will talk to you.
  • Produce are mostly water. You don’t need any more to cook them.
  • The sign of a good chef includes just 3 Things – Temperature, Flavor and Moisture.
  • When we buy dead food , we not only disrespect our bodies, but also our local farmers, family,and your families local economy.
  • Your food is your mirror

He shared so much more,but I dare not tell you. You’ll have to go see him for yourself.

Today, I do take more time with each meal. I am empowered to try different combinations of food textures and understand the necessity to keep our garden up as much as we can, even in the winter months. Honestly, I think everyone should frequent farmers markets and take cooking classes. It empowers you to learn basic cooking skills, gives you awareness of food integrity, and teaches you how to speak with your food dollars!

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Lol! He said”Take a picture of this beauty!”

And I could not end without showing off my enhanced culinary skills that I did not get from Johnson and Wales University, (because I was a business major) I gathered some produce from our garden. Seasoned my oil with this mix I bought from the chef. Cooked my eggplants first, peppers/mixed greens last. WHY? Because the pepper/greens mix were the fastest to cook, so adding them near the end is best for the finished product (Thank you Chef Kabuhi) garden

I can only hope the kids at the upcoming Total Children’s Wellness Fair does this well and leave this big of an impression. I know my boys are requesting to make more cooking videos now.  Yes, Win Win Win!

We are going to miss our Tuesday Market Days’  It will always be our  summer spot for community chatting, fun shopping, organic produce, informative and wise chef place to buy real food and learn how to cook it.

Have you ever attended a farmers market that had a chef there? Do you like cooking classes? Tell me about your experience.

“This ensures that everyone has the opportunity to have fresh, affordable food.” We also believe that, just as Ms. Rosa Parks felt that people having access to public accommodations is a civil rights issue, we also believe that food sovereignty – people having fresh, affordable culturally appropriate food – is a human rights issue as well as a civil rights issue.” -Reggie Singleton,a health policy coordinator with the county

Disney on Ice Presents: Follow Your Heart

It’s that time of year again friends! Disney On Ice is coming back to the Queen City! You can’t miss this one. It’s all about following your heart. It’s just about impossible to think about Disney and not feel some sort of sparkled dance across your skin. The magic of childhood comes alive in every heart, no matter your age, at just the mere mention of the word! 

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It will be showing at the Time Warner Cable Arena / September 28- October 2, 2016

. “Each element of this show was carefully planned so our fans could experience favorite Disney moments while believing in their own destiny.”said Executive Vice President of Feld Entertainment and Producer of Disney On Ice

Follow your heart straight to adventure at Disney On Ice! Just keep swimming with Dory and new pahrtl, Hank from Disney/Pixar’s “Finding Dory” as they set out to find her parents. Cheer with the Emotions from Disney/Pixar’s “Inside Out.” Venture to wintery Arendelle where Olaf and Kristoff help reunite Anna and Elsa and learn love is the most powerful magic of all.

See the Disney Princesses achieve their dreams through bravery, kindness and perseverance. And celebrate true friendship with the “Toy Story” gang. Make unforgettable memories with Mickey and your Disney friends when Disney On Ice presents Follow Your Heart skates into your hometown!

 

I’m a frequent Disney on Ice fan. I think they are one of the best entertainment values out here.

Follow Your Heart allows families to join in on the deep-sea adventure as Dory comes off the screen and onto the ice. Way to go Feld Entertainment . I am clearing my camera’s memory as I type.

Tickets are now available. Sure you could buy them now, or go to my Facebook page for contest details! 

 

 “Hoo-hoo! Big summer blowout!” – Oaken

Wednesday Wow: TCWF 2016

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Thanks again to The Preparedness Consulting Group, Utz chips and Keith Clinic for being our top sponsors. 

The 6th annual Total Children’s Wellness Fair is off the ground.And We Are Off To EXPLORE!

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Every fair has a theme and target market. We don’t want to be like the “Southern Women’s Show” or “For Sister’s Only”.They are both great fairs., but it’s not what we are best at,.

At the 6th Total Children’s Wellness Fair you won’t see high priced celebrities, or preservatives loaded popcorn. But you will discover real solutions for average families by amazing vendors, local entertainers and delicious clean edible treats.

 

This fair is a direct representation of our diverse city, it’s mom powered by Queen City Stay At Home Moms, – moms of the QC!

We know our audience,and the people we see everyday: other parents, the unborn to the college student. The mission is to provide  fun atmosphere where the family can affordably, easily and quickly find local holistic services and products that will enhance their wellness on all seven (7) levels {Socially, Spiritually, Environmentally, Educationally, Physically,Nutritionally, and Financially.}

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We do this by practicing collective efforts. Our vendors pay a tiny fee to help cover space rental, marketing, decoration, refreshments and other administrative expenses. . We hire community teens to greet, direct and engage during the event to help keep the energy family friendly and happy. We have a Re-Fashion Show, Cooking With Kids Challenge, a live DJ, and a professional fitness coach to give everyone a fun workout. It’s always free to enter, shop and enjoy.tcwf01

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We have been copied but never duplicated. Why? Because we use the experience and connections of mom power.! Our moms come from every level of motherhood and educational background.

I’m sure one day this fair will travel and empower more mothers and teens to invest in their financial future, but for now we  are enjoying  building it here  in our amazing Queen City.  Our passion is true. Help us spread the world. Vendor and sponsorship packets are available.. To join us, please fill out this vendor packet. HERE. (For Sponsorship or other questions message Kelle  at QCSupermomInfo@Gmail.com )    

This years fair will be on November 19, 2016 from 11am -6pm. Rocky River High School. Come out! tcwf big

 

 

Fade Away Sleep Sounds WORKS!

Do you have a fussy baby or a busy mind?

(Yes, keep reading) (No, you will if you’re lucky, so keep reading) I have found the complete solution to them both. It’s a company called Fade Away Sleep Sounds.

Ultimately it’s has been a God send for me more than for the children. When it rains here in Charlotte unlike others, I don’t try to hide from it. I do the opposite. I open the window and may even go sit on the porch. The sound of rain, thunderstorms, wind chimes just soothes me. It’s the same sounds I can listen to everyday via Fade Away Sleep Sounds.

Have you heard of white noise /sounds? I’ll explain, White noise is a type of noise that is produced by combining sounds of all different frequencies together. If you took all of the imaginable tones that a human can hear and combined them together, you would have white noise.

I love the way Fade Away Sounds explains it: See below. https://www.facebook.com/fadeawaysleep/videos/10154432454291052/

 

When asked my moms friends of Queen City Stay At Home Moms how they enjoyed it I got responses all across the board. Since we have 5 babies aged 10 months and below, we thought it would be cool to try the white sounds on our little ones.

But after 4 weeks of consistently using the Fade Away Sleep Sounds, the common response was “it works!”  The babies love white noise. And it makes sense. They’ve just spent their entire life in the womb. And the womb is deafeningly loud. I guess you can say White noise sounds like “home” to a baby.

Here’s what my mom friends have shared:

Kim said she was able to do laundry, and have an uninterrupted lunch date with her husband while the baby slept soundly in the next room..

Tina shared, “As a homeschooling mom, having her little one nap at a certain time every day makes life much easier.”

Lisa messaged me and said the she wants to try more. She wrote, ” It helps not only her twins, but her husband too!”

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These sounds are  a way cheaper  and less toxic option than running your actual water or burn gas driving in circles till Little Bruce falls asleep.

They have so many sounds. Don’t miss any of them.

Follow them on twitter () and Facebook ().  and  thier YouTube Channel () –

Also, Fade Away Sleep Sounds are available on most all of the streaming and music download sites, listen in at  Spotify!

and Apple Music

Personally I suggest you  buy and download the sounds (as opposed to online streaming), from their  the website ()

Parents, you are gonna LOVE this. Be sure to share it with you baby for a full night sleep.

Enjoy!

Jabela

Oh, also see- 10 Facts About Baby Sleep You Never Knew You Knew   

 

 

Disclosure: This has been another honest but paid review by the moms of Queen City Stay At Home Moms. The opinions are all ours.

Friday Four: Parenting Kids As The Police Kills Blacks

Do you feel like you are in the Twilight Zone? Are you angry, confused, fearful, hopeless, ready to leave the United States of America? I am.Just yesterday, we celebrated The Fourth Of July; The Declaration Of Independence,  then BAM- today the police goes on a Black Man Purge!

I’ve had to come off my “GOD Box” to put my Facebook Lurkers in check, because they got too bold behind the computer screen. But I knew they were just speaking their truth and  I should really understand the underlying information they were sharing.  I received that they wanted power over us, our children and our livelihood. That, I just can’t allow. And neither should you parents.

I will not live in fear. I will not allow my children to live in fear. I will not rely on anyone for my food (completely) And I will not allow my loved ones to perish either. It’s a great feeling to know it’s not all whites that feel this way. I must add.Because I want my children to continue  to grow their love, appreciation and knowledge of all races.

It is said, “A generation that ignores their history  has no future.” The time is now to wake up and  and be present with our children’s  psychological needs. New sneakers won’t do it. There are four things I need you to do this weekend:

  1. Go plant a garden. Yes, start feeding yourself. As they say, the hand that feeds you -control you. It could soon become a batering tool, and it’s a great way to get in shape and get your mind of all of the brothers and sisters being murdered by the police. Today, my husband took the kids to play tennis and I took them with me this morning to shop for school and college supplies.
  2. Learn 4 “Prepper Strategies”. It’s time to work together. Look out for your neighbor, and protect each other. Be prepared to make sacrifices to help take care of others by learning ways, to build together.As anger increases, so does crime rates. As a parent, your job is to protect your seeds.
  3. Be mindful of what and how you communicate information about police, and other people of authority with your minors. I hate the officers that kill for no reason. I also know helpful officers that strive to keep peace in words and not violence.
  4. Back away from social media. It can be overwhelming and depressing. Moniter what your children are exsposed to also. Instead, celebrate, love, respect more!

Concrete Ways to Be an Actual Ally to Black People

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IF WE ONLY HAD IT this GOOD WITH POLICE OFFICERS—–

One good thing about is that the WORLD is the getting true story of American blacks. So many countries have been on social media connecting with black Americans.They want facts they know they will not get on the news. Thanks to social media, it is out.

 

Cornel West: Social Activist Says President Obama’s Response to Police Shootings Was ‘Weak’

Stay Safe Sound and Aware Good people! QCSM

Wednesday Wow: Paying Your Doula

 

Would you love to hire a Doula but you honestly can’t afford one? Fear not! Your Health Insurance may cover it!

Whether your pregnancy was meticulously planned, medically coaxed, or happened by surprise, one thing is certain – your life will never be the same.
– Catherine Jones

So you’re having a baby huh? Congrats! Things are about to be change in a beautiful way! 

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Grab a bowl of oatmeal and relax. I did it 9 times, you’ll be okay.

 

I love being a Charlotte doula. I not only help couples before conception, but I also get to help them  during and after delivery. (Check out my Facebook page)

I love attending births.  I love how it makes me feel.  I love how it makes the mom feel.  I love making a difference in other peoples’ lives.

Charlotte has a great selection of professional doulas, and I am proud to be among some of the best in the business. IF I COULD DO IT FOR FREE I WOULD. But I can’t. Aside from the cost of education, books, workshops, continued education, and advertising (website, cards, brochures), we also take into consideration the time that it takes for all of these as well as out of pocket expenses.

In the grand scheme of things, you’re paying for an invaluable service during your pregnancy, labor, and birth. The difference a doula can make during this time is often priceless. The least that can be done is pay her asking fee.  If you need help with that, look no further than your maternity Insurance. (See My Webpage)

www.http://thepinkgrasshopperbirth.webs.com/

As a doula, one of the first questions I’m asked is, will my HMA pay for your services?  Here’s the short answer:

Expenses paid for a doula who’s primary purpose is for delivery of the infant are reimbursable. Charges where the primary purpose is child care after delivery are not covered. An explanation of the primary purpose should accompany the claim.

The following is a partial list of insurance companies have reimbursed in whole or in part for doula services:
Aetna Healthcare

AltPro
Baylor Health Care System/WEB TPA
Blue Cross/Blue Shield
Blue Cross/ Blue Shield PPO
Cigna
Degussa, a German Chemical Company
Elmcare, LLC, C/O North American Medical Management
Foundation for Medical Care
Fortis Insurance
Glencare Managed Health Inc.
Great-West Life & Annuity Ins. Co.
HNTB (Peoria, IL)
Houston New England Financial, Employee Benefits (Fort Scott, KS)
Humana Employers Health
Lutheran General Physician’s Organization
Maritime Life
Medical Mutual
Oschner HMO, Louisiana
Professional Benefits Administrators
Prudential Healthcare
Qualchoice
Summit Management Services, Inc
Travelers
United HealthCare of Georgia (San Antonio, TX)
United Health POS
Wausau Benefits, Inc

 

Note: I would ask the doula for her NPI (National Provider Number It may or may not be an issue. Find out before hiring her. or it may be coming completely out of your pockets.

~~~~ON NEXT Monday, I’ll tell you the procedure to filing your doula fees~~~~

HSA qualifications vary; including Medicad. For some insurance companies may want you to identify as an out of network licensed healthcare provider and may make it easier to get reimbursement to your clients.  Depends on the insurance company and the state insurance laws.

I tell my clients to get their OBGYN to write them a prescription for me (a doula) One day Blue Cross Blue Shield called me directly just to ask if I was a doula in their network  and I was so proud to say, “Not yet but I am a certified doula .”  (Via my  numerous clients birth records and doula registration receipts) But they didn’t ask for them . So far, getting paid has never been an issue for me. My clients are instructed to submit receipts through their health insurance coverage, not a flex spending.

Feel free to check out my Pintrest board on ‘Pregnancy’. It’s the rated board for doulas! I’m sure you’ll find great information there.

If this hasn’t helped, just go to your HSA . They should have a third party administrator who can answer this for you.

Here are some beautiful quotes on pregnancy. Click here!

Wednesday Wow: CHEAP Family Summer Fun List

Let’s jump right in here. This is a collection of things to do this summer that is not only cheap but educational too! It’s a string of conversations between myself and my online friends everywhere!  The great thing about their collection is that you can find most of the ideas in your town under a different name. Just search, ask and go. The summer you want is available. You do not have to sit in the house this summer.   Get out with your children and have fun! 
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K-Moments Photo from the Total Children’s Wellness Fair

Hikes through a wooded area, camping in the backyard/ living room turn all electronics off for the day. We just did this over the weekend and everyone had a great time. We set up games like a water balloon throwing contest, bean bag toss, kick ball, sack races and other fun things. Made a fake fire, and had a simple dinner of hot dogs and chips, lunch we had a picnic lunch at the local park and did some exploring of the trails

 Library programs. Swimming, fishing, and picnics at the lake. Free concerts at the park. Slumber parties or tenting in the back yard. Hot dogs on the grill.
Get active in your mom group. If you don’t have one find one like Queen City Stay At Home Moms. We do a lot of co operative adventures together! 
It doesn’t cost anything just being with friends and family is enough for me. Sitting visiting laughing playing board games card games or sitting around a fire in my back yard

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Both of my daughters (now in their 30’s and 40’s) remember the fun times we had loading up stuff from the pantry – crackers, tuna, peanut butter, jug of water and beach towels – and heading to the beach for the day. Most favorite memories =o)  

Free science museum Thursday afternoons, zoo passes, park, pool, and drop off at grandmas!

Oh, water SPRAY PADS!!!! Everywhere has at least one spray PAD!
Get a foam swim tube @ dollar store poke holes in it attach it to hose. Viola a sprinkler you can make it go upward or down like a shower!

VISIT a friend that live in an apartment with a pool- Grab some towels and go swimming! 

Make koolaid popsicles in ice cube tray. Make a tent in the backyard with old sheet or blanket or tarp. Catch fireflies at night. Look at the stars. Have a block party with neighbors. Potluck and play the radio. Teach kids how to tell ghost stories or read out loud to them from library books.

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welcome to my life right now. That is ok, some of the most fun things are free.

I set up obstacle courses for my kids then we take turns setting it up we use stuff we already have

Thank god there’s a site for free stuff to do in Chicago lol I’d be struck too often.
 Help your favorite holistic vendor get ready for a local community  fair like the Total Children’s Wellness Fair.in Charlotte NC
Dollar tree, five and below, sisters pool, beach and free library passes to Beardsley zoo. Woo hoo!

Did anyone mention the BEACH????  ( my sons below! #proud mom)boyss
My girls love it too. 1 missing-my girls
 Fishing, box of worms at wal-mart $3.50-4.00 ! Pack picnic lunch, sit on bank !
Definitely, we are using our $3 to go see the dollar movie 🙂

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NC by Train and Amtrak are offering a Summer 2016 Deal for kids ages 2-12! Up to two children can ride for $5 (per each full-fare paying adult) to any destination in NC Tuesday-Thursday, and Saturday (some blackout dates apply). Entry promo code V765 for the discount!

 Details below-
Seasonal: Summer
 Day: Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Saturday
 Through 8.31.2016
 Grades: Preschool, Elementary, Middle School
 Age: 2-12
 $5
Cont…….
Pack a picnic lunch and go to the park.

  Or better yet, grab a recipe from Kelle Cooking With Kids and create a healthy treat together!
That why we go to the dollar store!

Yes. Think we’ll go somewhere. Go set in pickup in are driveway for awhile. And not even move. Get out go back into house. Wow that was cool
Yup… well, there is always the imagination and that’s free! You can even run away with it. 3 bucks will get you some lemons, you probably some sugar just add water. lol Make the best of your day.
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Summer Bonus Perks:

You can even earn free coffee/ make an extra $200-$300 a month with no investment. by hosting Organo Gold House Parties with friends. (You can get more info on that —–right here!
RIGHT NOW I’m hooking up a family in need! I am giving away a week of media camp with Charlotte Youth Broadcasting Camp.
Haven’t heard about it yet?….I’ll update you.
At CYBC [Charlotte Youth Broadcasting Camp]. We have campers from various states, cities, and regions who come for the CYBC experience. Radio (June 20-24) & Sports Broadcasting (June 27th-July 1st) is still available register now atwww.Charlotteybc.com. Age groups 9-12 and 13-17.
All you have to do tell how you would spend the extra $300 you’ll save.
Post it below. I’ll notify the winner RIGHT here on next Friday!