I Will Now Pronounce You Husband & Wife…SELECTING A WEDDING OFFICIANT

Before you say “I do”, do a little homework on who you select to marry you. The right marriage officiant can make a world of difference in your wedding, marriage and entire life.

A religious ceremony, performed by an ordained officiant such as a priest, rabbi, or minister, is recognized not only by the state, but also by the affiliated religion. 

A civil ceremony is performed by an officiant who has been certified in accordance with state laws — a county clerk, justice of the peace, mayor, or celebrant affiliated with a nonreligious organization.

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The officiant you choose can enrich your overall wedding experience and help you prepare for married life. Getting to know your officiant and discussing what you can expect from each other will help eliminate unnecessary anxiety on your wedding day.

Planning my wedding was one of the most empowering things I have ever done. I loved everything about it. Our wedding was a love story. I’ve learned that every couple has one. As a recent Universal Unitarian Wedding Officiant I love helping couples share their story. Being a wedding officiant as I’ve learned is much different than planning a wedding.  Learning on the job has been a blast. I’ve put together a few things that should be covered by both the couple to be wed and the officiant. This is kinda large in volume so I broke it up in two blog post. 

wedding cake After the date has been confirmed, find out: 

  1. What is your main responsibility as an officiant?
  2. Can you recommend other wedding vendors?
  3. How much interaction can we expect leading up to the wedding? Are you available for questions?
  4. What is your biggest challenge when officiating a wedding?
  5. What is the funniest or oddest moment in a wedding you celebrated? 
  6. What is your wedding officiant attire?
  7. What is your rock bottom wish for every couple?
  8. Will you be responsible for mailing the license to the state after the ceremony? 
  9. Can you do personalized rituals within the ceremony, e.g, Hand Blessing, Rose Ceremony, Unity Candle, or Sand (uniting of your two families) Ceremony? 
  10. Do you require any pre-marital counseling or religious class?
  11. Do you have a written agreement or contract?
  12. Would you like to join us at the reception? 

What are your credentials? charlotte Marriage offiiant

Ensure that the officiant is licensed or registered to perform a wedding in your state by contacting the city clerk. You can also ask the officiant which seminary he or she was ordained through, then contact that seminary. Years down the road, you wouldn’t want to discover that your marriage is not legal.

How much do you charge?

Know what, exactly, you will be paying for. Talk about deposits and types of payment, as well as cancellation and refund policies. Inquire about fees for traveling out of town, which include transportation costs, hotels and meals, and costs of (commuting) time. The wedding officiant is the person who must fill out the wedding certificate and send it in. Wedding Vendors in Charlotte

Here are a few important questions to ask yourselves:

  • Do we feel comfortable in the presence of this officiant? Does he or she seem flexible?
  • Does he or she seem genuinely interested in us as a couple, and honor our spiritual beliefs?
  • Do we intuitively feel we can entrust ourselves to this person for this important and tender part of our wedding?

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LOVE, Jabela

Basketball Game Day

african american grandson and basketballplayer I love to watch my son play basketball. I do. I do. I do. He is doing what he loves. He makes us happy to see him doing something fun,healthy, positive and affords him the potential to make a living for himself via the free education and his athletic ability.

As I look at the pictures I’ve taken from his last game, I realize that it’s more than the game. It’s much much more.  Basketball is making our family stronger!

My Big Boy on a Tiny Bike…..

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. I beleive that. When he is home for the summer, or a short holiday break, I can’t wait for him to leave. He just urks me after a while. BUT when he is gone…. I think of him everyday.Is he eating well, what couga will be after him now, will he continue to feed his spiritual self, the list goes on and on.

This happens after every game!

This happens after every game!

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When he is home, I am even more encouraged to cook super healthy meals. Because I know he’s a crazy diet at college. The entire family benfits from my extra effort. When he leaves, the younger children call and ask him to persuade me to make it again. That’s a huge stroke to my ego. It shows me that they do appreciate my hard work after all.


When my son is home, he’s on a break. He loves to take his siblings to the drive up zoo, the lake to fish, even to play dates for me. When he’s gone, they tell me about all the silly things they did while I was home. My husband and dad has someone to brag on. Because honestly, too many our our boys don’t get the opportunity to actually enjoy thier youth.

What helps me sleep at night is knowing that he too his someone watching his back when I’m not there, his coach, Edward Joyner. Yes, I’m the mom of NINE, but he is responsible for 13+ boys. I honor him and thank God for that because he does take his job seriously.postive black male role model

Jervon is a positive role model for his younger siblings. He inspires us parents to be better parents for him and his younger siblings and at the end of the day isn’t that what all mothers/parents want. To improve themselve and their family. I thank God for what basketball has given us. Can’t wait for the game today. Families gets the best seats for free! Can you say ROAD TRIP!  SC or BUST!!!!





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It’s always more than just a game! Let life be more than living!

QC Supermom


Harlem Globetrotters 2013 in the QC: Write The Rules


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I just told the kids that the Harlem Globetrotters were coming back to Charlotte next month.  You should have seen the look on their face! They absolutely LOVE them! 

This year they are throwing out even more tricks an surprises. I heard that this year, the world’s tour theme is  “You Write the Rules! ” It takes kid participation to a whole new level. For the first time ever, fans will decide the rules for the game that could affect the final outcome. I already voted online for my choice of basketball shenanigans, and wow it is any eye popper!

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I remember the first game I went to.It was in 1997, or was it 1998…..anywhoots, I was in college at Johnson & Wales University in Providence, R.I.. They played against our Women’s Basketball team. Talk about a blast!! After we whipped their butt, we honored them with a J-DUB ritual of dumping water on their heads. That was the worst thing we ever did.  Don’t you know those ballers chased us down OUTSIDE the gym, then dumped ice cold water back on us!! OUCH!!! Needless to say, we never did that again to ANY team we played since then.

Before I forget, here’s the link to enter your rule-  Click here to vote for your favorite, craziest rule.  The Globetrotters offer clean entertainment & I can’t wait to see how this year will top all 86 previous seasons since 1926. So if you’re looking for an awesome event the whole family will enjoy, get your tickets to the Harlem Globetrotters brand new “You Write the Rules” tour.

With rules like double the points for every basket, and two balls in play at the same time, there’s an exciting rule that every kid will enjoy. After the game, Globetrotter stars will stay on court to sign autographs and take photographs with your kids.Yeah baby! Innovators of the alley-oop, 3 man weave, slam dunk and 4 point shot,here we come! Get your tickets today! 

Harlem Globetrotters girl

Time Warner Cable Arena – Saturday, March 23 at 1:00 p.m.

Tickets are on sale now through Ticketmaster

(click the picture to go to the Ticket master site)

Ok, time for a little trivia. Did you know that they have female players?

The first female to play for the Harlem Globetrotters since 1993, Fatima “TNT” Maddox, tells girls how to Succeed as a Female Basketball Player. Find tickets to watch the Harlem Globetrotters play at: HarlemGlobetrotters.com 

Till the next Harlem Brain Buster, QC Supermom


Friday Four: Moms fight homesickness for females ballers


Being homesick can change many things during a basketball season. If you went away to college far from home you probably have experienced a little homesickness. It’s quite normal and in my opinion nothing to be ashamed about! Arriving and living in a new culture for most people can be overwhelming and very difficult.

I did a little bit of research. Seems that it happens more often than people think. Sure most basketball players start playing in grade school way before college and they are used to being away from home. I have traveled to many of my sons games. I couldn’t afford to go everywhere they went but he was always with a familiar face. Now that he is in college a great distance away, I can’t help but think about him and other basketball players that attend school out of state.


Psychology experts describe “homesickness” as “a longing for home while away from it,” and also call this feeling “separation anxiety.” Some people get over it quickly, while others take more time. It does not come easy to be thrust into a new college environment where you don’t know anyone.

As a mom I am so proud of my child. He is getting good grades and doing what he loves to do. When he left for school I suggested he hung pictures of our family and friends in his room and by using video services such as Skype and ooVoo to provide free online video chats. It has worked like a charm. But the basketball part is a different story.  I know that he thrives on connections, whether from me or others, on and off the court. A smiling face and atta boy goes a long way. So it was easy for me to focus on the UNCC Women’s basketball players.

They are someone’s child and could use a Atta girl while playing till they go home to their own mama’s.

I would like to see more moms in the stands. Imagine an entire section doing the wave and cheering funny chants. Can you imagine how bright their spirits would be to see more moms there?  Or better yet. How about an All Mom’s Shoot Out during half time? Cool right? We moms could show that we still have skills—– 🙂  They, the promotion team do stuff like that.

True, many people feel that female games are boring and not worth air time. But it has came a long way since the 1900’s. No bikini bodied baskets, but entertaining no less. All of the games we’ve been to this far had all types of promotions going on to get us there and surprises to keep us coming back. enhanced-buzz-homesick 2 enhanced-buzz-1902 homesick


We found it to be very exciting. They played like girls, not boys and they should -after all they are females.

These ladies play a great game and what I love most about their games is the crowd engagement. They ask you to visit by their game.

Here are four links to check out this week end:


1 Click here for Queen City Stay At Home Mom Game Night

2. Click here for UNCC’s Women’s page!

3. Click here for scholarship money

4. Click here for tips on playing successful ball

Homesickness affects the majority of students on campus at some point, whether they’re from out-of-state towns, or even just down I-5. For moms we can help them feel better while away from home.

Till the next bounce, Take care! – QC Sueprmom