Wednesday Wow: Being Happy on Mother’s Day

We all want to be happy on Mother’s Day. But for many of us, this type of happiness is an elusive, fleeting state that we can capture only for a brief moment,if at all.

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Instead of feeling bad about not having a child, mother or positive relationship with either (or both if they are living.) Well I have news for YOU!

The person you most admire, or envy, is showing you the “highlights reel” in their lives. Think about it. Can someone be ecstatic 24/7? The answer is NO. My family has a healthy 75/25 joy ratio. For me, sharing our great times together is my way of encouraging them to keep up the great work and inspire others that may wonder if such a LARGE family can be productive. The bad things will never be shared. There’s no logical reason for it.

“For after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain.” ― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

When things look dark, we can all use a simple reminder of what is truly important. It’s Your piece of mind. ” The Jones” should inspire you, not cause you to envy. Here’s my confession: 

At least once a month, I WISH my mom and oldest daughter was still alive.

I used to get very sad thinking about why they had to leave when they did. My daughter passed 3 days before my birthday at 11 years old. My mom a year later. I began to compare her absence with other girls her age and would question, what would she had been like. I would do the same with my mom. I would fantasize her  driving up to our home enjoying her grandkids as she had the older ones. After going into a deep thought, I bring myself to accepting that they were gone in the form I wanted them in. I realized that getting  past those thoughts would allow me to enjoy my other 8 children, as well as their adopted community grand parents. Never a trade off- But it was something I had to accept and grow from.

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“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough” ― Oprah Winfrey

 

Being able to do so has allowed for peace and other great moments with my family. Today, people ask,, “Why do you smile so much?” I answer quickly, ” I have no reason not too.” So in closing, if this Mother’s Day find you in the dump, snap out your note book and write your blessings down. Look to them to pull forward your joy and build a foundation for more greatness.

“Many people lose the small joys in the hope for the big happiness.” ― Pearl S. Buck

Easier said than done you said? Well, you never know unless you try. What do you have to loose by choosing happiness?   Remember, “It isn’t what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”

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Be Happy With What You Have!

QC Supermom

Have A Great Mother’s Day Weekend Everyone!!!

 

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“Until you make peace with who you are, you will never be content with what you have.” 

WEDNESDAY WOW: COSTUME SEASON

I grew up in a small town. We DID Halloween BIG! Our drivers would ride us on the hoods, with the doors open house to house with in the neighborhood. We would chant; “Trick or treat, trick or treat give me something good to eat!

If they acted right we would not “tp” their house.We would say thank you and go on to the next house smiling.  If they didn’t, we would sing the other version. It went ” Trick or treat, smell my feet. Give me something good to eat.If you don’t, I won’t be sad. I’ll just make you wish you had!”  and let’s just say, they would save a lot on bathroom tissue that week. (those were the days- Thank God for wisdom!)

Watch: Fat Albert Halloween Special 1977

Of course, at that time, the very best part of Halloween was getting more candy than we’ve ever seen all year long! Half of the thrill came from putting the costume together piece by piece. I’ve been an angel, a nerd, a doll baby, a witch, even a clown.  If it was affordable, I was it. I remember even switching up with my neighbor one year. It was so much fun!

Over the years things have gotten so different. It went from me enjoying those same days with my children to slowly pulling back and taking them to the mall, then gradually to church and then community only events. Same fun, but I started to wonder Why the horror? I never liked scary costumes, but my kids were starting to look rather boring!1f

With 4 young sons and 2 older daughters in the house, I was running out of ideas quickly!  I was lucky that my oldest son got tired of dressing up at age 15. I bet that now in his college years, he’s finding a new liking to it.

Low and behold,as I was surfing online last week I found the best idea EVER for all of my young sons! This will be a hit! I can’t wait to get their costumes together.

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“D”, Cassie & JC

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looking for a few ideas for my girls too!

We now have a new family tradition.  Allow me to introduce to you my large family’s new Halloween tradition, “Celebrity & Famous folks themed costumes”. I’m thinking I have another 6 -8 years before they get over “it.”

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So i’m gonna milk it for everything I can! I’m giving them the joys I had as a little girl but better!

How do you celebrate Halloween? I want to know.

Talk to me.

~QC Supermom