Fun Family Character Challenge Inspired By H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Yesterday, we went to the library and my boys put on a puppet show for this cute little girl. They were so charming! I was like my goodness, is that all it takes to alter their moods so quick? Especially when they had just been upset because we needed to leave in 15 minutes?  Right then,they were the puppets and she was puppet master. I may have looked too much into this, but I was sort of bothered. Of course the little girl was super cute. But I wanted them to be ‘better’- All Of The Time.  And I knew that certain traits must be groomed from the womb.

 Pressley Rasta boys doing a puppet show for s pretty girlBecause there is room for improvement with my entire family, I figured I needed to find a way to encourage certain traits that will serve them through life. I got home, and came across this huge poster that keeps falling to the floor upstairs.  Then it hit me. I bought this poster because I liked it. I wanted my children to learn and live it, from the inside out. So after pondering ways to get them interested in reading it I came up with a game.

I call it the “Successful Family Challenge” Check it out and please let me know what you think of it.

   “Successful Family Challenge”

Family game for great kids

Objective: To help build each other up by challenging them to character goals for 7 days then 30 days at a time.  The goal is to encourage better behavior in a positive and fun way.

Instructions:

Read the poster with the children and explain what each statement means. We even gave examples using our everydays lives as a tie in. This action allows everyone to self examine themselves as well as find a trait that needs adaption for their sibling/parent. The poster is numbered so selecting a challenge will be much easier to recorded and referred to to as needed.

After everyone’s name is written on a piece of paper. Toss the pieces of paper into a hat. Allow each person to pull and name.

Once the name is pulled, the puller selects a number from the board to give their sibling/parent as their challenge. The number and name is said out loud then written down by an older child or parent and kept in a safe place for the 7- 30 day challenge.

Each family member should be reminded of their challenge in creative ways from the puller as well as other family members. (Try writing it on their bathroom mirror, or in a text.  For smaller ones, a verbal reminder will work.)

There is no material prize. You can of course give one if you choose, instead offer a privilege. Because they have successfully improved himself  to some degree and deserve an appropriate “reward.”

Here’s what our Challenge Card’ look like: We categorized the name of the puller, the challenge number and the person who has been given the challenge.Family Challenge Card

Well that’s it! I’ll let you know how my family does in 7 days. Time to get back to the homeschool class room.

Be Real,

Jabela

Can be used from 5-50 year olds.

Can be used from 5-50 year olds.

Operation Mom; from Nurturer to Coach

mamaI am a blessed woman. I have 9 children, From 15 months to 20 years old. For each of them I’m a different mom. Based on where they are in development, I meet their needs differently.

Dr feelGoodNurturer- My 15 month old   I’m very attentive, nurturing and act as a human bottle and jumping gym to him. I still wipe his nose and change his diaper. This age they are the cutest.I can dress him in whatever I want to with out any back talk. This part is indescribably beautiful and awful all at the same time.

 

 Instructor -My 3, 4, and 6 year old

I’m teaching and reinforcing the rules and introducing new ones. My main job is to start building their self confidence and other essential character traits.For instance the Fruit Of The Spirits, is a great source to use as a model. Right now is important because they still soak up anything and everything.I’m not wiping their nose as regularly,cleaning up all their mess or changing their diaper, But I’m directing them and offering just a little less help.DIGITAL CAMERA

The coach – the 13,14,and 15 year old

An exciting time for all!

These are the girls in the family. Luckily, boys aren’t the main thing on their mind right now! They are still learning about their body, eating to live, what it means to be a girl today, the hierarchy of our family ( I make sure they understand that they have a voice,but because I’m NOT their friend – they must remain in control of their emotions) exploring their God given gifts as sufficiency options and how to do their chores better, To me, this is the most expensive time as they are more into their looks. As they move toward more independence, I still support and protect them. At this point, heck no, I’m not clean up their mess!

The girls with their cousin, Rissa Roo during a night on the town.

The girls with their cousin, Rissa Roo during a night on the town.

The consultant- My 20 year old

This can be an overwhelming time! But if I’ve done pretty well in previous stages, this should be less stressful. My son is in his 2nd year of college,new relationships emerge between us. He still needs me. Just less.

He still makes messes. Just different types. I instruct less and just listen more.Yes, it’s very hard when he gets supper excited about his “Girl flavor of the month” or other possible,weekend choices. But with a GPA of 3.5, I gotta kick him some slack.

My 1st and last born on the campus of Hampton University.

My 1st and last born on the campus of Hampton University.

You’ll find that the phases of parenthood aren’t entirely measurable or scientific. The phases overlap each other; one phase begins long before the previous phase passes completely. And different children will demand differing degrees of flexibility in moving from one phase to the next.

At the end of the day, always do your best!