The Dash of Life : Inside The Temple Of Queens

There is a poem called “The DASH”. It really puts life into perspective. As a non denominational officiant, I like to use it to help loved ones wrap their minds around the loss of a loved one. And it usually works by helping them realize that everyone has a beginning and ending. Those particular dates can’t be changed or altered. But what really matters and can be controlled is what happens between those two dates. That is our DASH.

“Big K” Mr. Kelly Pressley Jr. – My 1st love. My daddy.

This year (2020), on the 17th of January, I lost Kelly Pressley Jr., my dad. When I sit and think for too long, I compare myself to an orphan; but an adult orphan. (I know it makes no sense, but it’s my truth ya’ll) THEN I snap out of it. How selfish am I to even entertain that thought. I had him for 44 good years. He poured into me every single day. He gave all. I gave all. We withheld nothing as father and daughter. My selfish tears were for the fact that my sons would miss out on all the great moments I had with him. My husband, nor his dad is anything like my daddy. I didn’t just get his huge hand, or his name. or wide jaw bone. I also got his strength. My dad is the strongest man I know. He had numerous medical setbacks since 2016, but came back each time fighting harder! Never complaining – ever! Hating to ask for help, he created clever ways of doing his new normal.

When I say that I want my sons to also have that much strength, loyalty, and commitment to family- I mean it. My dad set a great standard. He left us a great ‘Dash’ to follow.

Why else would my oldest son go through so much just to view his body?

Speaking of that strength, on 01, 12, 20 the Sunday after his death, I was honored to eulogize a memorial of a friends- friend. It was very nice. The lady was such an amazing woman. After speaking to her best friend and daughter, I felt like I missed out on my my best friend! She lived an amazing full life! She withheld nothing from her mom, daughter, friends, or self. Her “DASH” was beautiful!

(Yeah, I’ve been a minister of the Temple Of Queens for a few years now. I absolutely LOVE serving!)

Wednesday Wow: I Do’ Too! Solemization

It’s Summer and officially wedding season! If you’re in North or South Carolina, I’m ya girl!

Okay, so what began as a way to bring more money into the home, has grown to something so much more. Yes, I’m creating marriages, but I’m also creating more  ways to be a part of my children life. That really excites me!

It cost me less than $200 and I can use this new asset in all 50 states for the rest of my life. To all my mama friends, readers- you gotta do it!

I’m still getting used to being called Minister Kelle, because I am a southerner, and grew up thinking of ministers sorta differently. But then I thought about it and said to myself, “Girl, you’re more real than a lot of them out there. -Girl You Good!”

So with my ordination, I can do many things.besides solemnize a wedding  I could also:

  1. Perform A Baptism/ Welcome To The World Ceremony

  2.  Preside Over A Funeral

  3. Be A Chaplain

    We can touch the lives of others in a prison or hospital. Sick and dying patients in hospitals around the country have been comforted by our church’s members, and prison officials actively encourage those who are eager to bring religion to others to come to their institutions and rehabilitate their inmates.

  4. Start A Church ( I know right? Wow!)

  5.  Ordain others

    The perfect couple for me would be laid back, spiritual but not too religious, fun loving , don’t have a church home and most times open minded.

For me, it’s important to know the couple and meet them way before they get to the altar.I want to know if couple has any religious or cultural rituals that they want to include. Do they want to break a glass? Jump a broom? Do they want to include any Buddhist poetry? Will there be any readings or songs in the ceremony? Of course I offer counseling, but it’s not required. But I will pray with the couple before the wedding and commit to pray for them all the way to the wedding day.

 And I was thinking, for now, I’ll offer my services to the moms of Queen City Stay At Home Moms at a discount as a member perk. Everyone else $220 for a basic service and rehearsal rate. I really don’t think   I would marry anyone out of the Carolina’s.
Which works out fine based on the research I’ve done already. It is said, that in

North Carolina:   Marriage Officiants:/ordained minister of any faith who is authorized to perform marriages by his church may do so.

In North Carolina, I must return the license in SC….. the couple can once completed,return the license to its office of issuance (usually by mail) within 30 days of the wedding. The license is then recorded by the state and the marriage becomes a legal binding contract.

Marriage in South Carolina is governed by Chapter 1 of Title 20 of South Carolina’s Code of Laws.

SECTION 20-1-20. Persons who may perform marriage ceremony.

Only ministers of the Gospel, Jewish rabbis, officers authorized to administer oaths in this State, and the chief or spiritual leader of a Native American Indian entity recognized by the South Carolina Commission for Minority Affairs pursuant to Section 1-31-40 are authorized to administer a marriage ceremony in this State

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