Friday Five: The Death / End Of Life Doula

This post is super challenging because the transition of my sister is relatively fresh like not- even- a- month yet fresh. But it’s relative to what I do and why I offer the service that I do. And besides that I have a tendency to repress my emotions. Sharing what a death doula is informs you, the reader of the job from the provider part as well as offers transparency from the family side as well.

Here’s my sister ( Adrian ) She is the most aggravating person I have ever known in my life! But I wanted her to life a long boring life….. Sure she could check in every once in a while but definitely leave me alone. Had I known or any of us for that matter, how much time she had we might have done things a bit differently. But we didn’t get the gift of time. But she knew we loved her. And I knew she loved me.

9 out of 10 people say they want to be cared for at home if terminally ill. Presently, half are dying in institutions. Death is the second leading fear in the united States.

How a death doula plays in it all; Death Doulas care for the whole person, taking into account patients’ emotional, mental, spiritual, physical factors and in my practice a little administrative guidance as well.

Death Doulas can:

  1. Help create positive, empowering end of life plans;
  2. Provide spiritual care, psychological and social support;
  3. Suggest ideas for optimal physical comfort;
  4. Help plan home vigils; and
  5. Educate patients and families on the new and progressive options of home wakes and natural burials.

This training is for those who have a calling and desire to support and guide both patients and families through any aspect of the end of life process. Our training and certification is appropriate for all areas of person-centered care. Social workers, counselors, medical professionals, non-medical home health agencies, holistic practitioners, hypnotherapists, massage therapists, reiki practitioners and even people who just want to be an Death/ End of Life Doula.

Due to the enormous number of illnesses, there is an overwhelming and growing need for these types of services and support. Finding the right teacher and training program is one of the most important decisions you will make.

Classes Offered: Online and In Person or Hybird.

Cost: $380

Note: Death Doulas DO NOT facilitate death, nor do we produce or assist individuals in having a “good death”, nor do we try to help people realize they are dying. We do not place judgement or define what a good (or bad) death is. Our primary function is to be in support of individuals in their final transition from their physical body. 

Death is one of life’s most potent and sacred passages, as well as one of the most denied, ignored, and feared. If brought to the forefront of our minds, death has the power to transform our lives, release the extraneous, re-prioritize our intentions, and initiate our courage. Death, in all its mystery, invites us to consider that the profound peace we’ve long sought after has been with us all along. We know there are so many questions. We know there is uncertainty. No one needs to do this alone.

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The End Of Life Doula

9 out of 10 people say they want to be cared for at home if terminally ill. Presently, half are dying in institutions. Death is the second leading fear in the united States.

At this time, we have 78 million baby boomers over the age of 65 in the U.S. 20% of them do not have their own children. We are in the midst of an elder care crisis.

When a baby dies it’s very much so different than a adult. It’s frequently called the ultimate tragedy, Stillborn / miscarriage transitions are a different type of pain, that requires a different type of healing and restoration. Some time it’s words. Like these amazing poems. And other times, the parents, family & other loved ones need a little something extra to over come their grief. It can be exacerbated and complicated by feelings of injustice — the understandable feeling that this loss never should have happened. During the early days of grieving, most parents experience excruciating pain, alternating with numbness — a dichotomy that may persist for months or longer. Many parents who have lost their son or daughter report they feel that they can only “exist” and every motion or need beyond that seems nearly impossible. It has been said that coping with the death and loss of a child requires some of the hardest work one will ever have to do. I know it to be true because I lost my 11 year old daughter in 2005. She had Auto Immune Hepatitis.

Most people do not know the first thing about caring for someone who is at the end of life. It is unfair to expect them to take care of a dying loved one at home without the basic knowledge and surrounded by fear,

When you become a death doula, you will have an important and rewarding career helping people face death with a little less fear and a little more love.

A death doula, also known as an end-of-life doula, is a support person who provides nonjudgmental, non-medical holistic support to those nearing the end of life. A death doula also typically offers support to the friends and family of the dying, or recently dead.

End-of-life doulas may serve… (people like my parents and first daughter , as well as their loved ones. )

  • the elderly (possibly for years before their death is due for arrival)
  • the terminally ill, at any age
  • the grieving, those who have lost or are about to say goodbye to a loved one
  • those facing the loss of a pet or beloved animal
  • those not near death but who want to wrestle with and confront their mortality now
  • those looking to practically plan for their end-of-life care and final burial or funeral, at any age, regardless of health status

End-of-life doulas hope to bring comfort and peace to the very last seconds of every person’s time in this world. Words to describe you may include: brave, gifted, intuitive, and compassionate. You may feel called to do this work. If so register with The Pink Grasshopper today.

A certificate fromThe Pink Grasshopper Full Spectrum Doula Training LLC may give you:

  • Respect as a professional
  • A competitive advantage when marketing your services
  • A sense of achievement and confidence
  • A credential for your resume when applying for jobs
  • Assurance to clients of your professionalism
  • Evidence of your expertise
  • Higher earnings (according to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics in Certificates: A fast track to careers)

With the The Pink Grasshopper Full Spectrum Doula Training LLC, you can earn a certificate online more quickly and affordably than many other educational options.

Who is this course for:

Our program supports frontline clinicians, clinical leaders, educators, home and family caregivers, healing arts professionals, and volunteers. People who have attended are Para and Legal Professionals; Massage Therapists and Healing Arts Practitioners; Physicians, Nurses, PAs, NPs, PTs, Hospice and Palliative Care Professionals; Directors of Nursing Education; Nursing Students; Children and Families facing death or loss of loved ones; Directors, Staff, Activities Directors, Residents of Senior Care Communities; Psychologists, Chaplains, and LSWs. Regardless of background, this program is designed for anyone interested in exploring their own life and death and how to bring their wisdom in service to others facing critical illness and death.

What does it mean to be a certified Holistic Full Spectrum doula?
Certification simply indicates that one has completed the requirements of one particular training program. The doula profession is unregulated. There is no local, regional or federal authority or over-arching regulatory body that oversees doula training and certification programs. Certification is a voluntary process and is not required to practice as an doula. However, certification is valued by many families hiring doulas, and by healthcare organizations making referrals to doulas. The Pink Grasshopper Full Spectrum Doula Training LLC certification process is based on

Payment Policy

Students may register by paying the full $680 program fee online via Zelle, This course is a 3 week,self pace course. Should you make a partial payment, the remaining balance must be paid in full no later than two weeks prior to the start of this offering. If payment is not received by then, you will automatically be dropped from the course the following business day. Refunds will be issued less a $35.00 cancellation fee

Upon completion of the requirements:   1) final exam, a End Of Life Play list for both infant and adult, and 2) an application for certification may be submitted.  both items MUST be handed in at the same time via email to ThePinkGrasshopperFSDTraining@gmail.com. Items will not be excepted separately.  Results and certificate of completion will then be awarded in 10-14 business days.

Refund/Cancellation Policy: We do not offer refunds. It is our expectation that students complete their course with their cohort. If you are unable to complete the course by your cohort’s graduation date you will be given a grace period of three weeks to complete your coursework and earn your certificate.

If you have paid and not yet accessed the coursework, you may consider offering a one-time gift of your enrollment as a scholarship to a student in need.

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End Of Life Doula

The main facts in human life are five: birth, food, sleep, love and death.” ~ E. M. Forster

Everyone loves to see and hear about a successful birth. It’s an anticipation that everyone looks forward to celebrating. Death on the other hand, can be so hard to discuss. It’s scary and energy absorbing. But it’s a journey no one can escape. And my cultural history says that it is a event that too should be celebrated. For me it make sense to extend my current doula practice from birth to the grave as an end of life doula.

In 2016, I lost my first doula baby. I was not prepared for that at all. I know I didn’t provide that family with the full support they needed. I was hurt too. I did workouts with the mom, food prep, slumber parties with the couple, runs to the er, – everything. But when we found out the heart beat wasn’t there, I as a mother of nine, could not relate. I didn’t think to begin planning for the baby’s final moments, memory keeping, and offering to call their specific loved ones. I could only offer prayer of endurance, restorative meals and light house work.

A more formal name is given for this work. It’s called “end-of-life, or death, doula” — a professional who provides non-medical care-giving services to people who are dying and to their families. Some doulas have private practices, and others work in connection with hospices, hospitals and community organizations.

In 2018, I did my first hospice job. It happened by chance. I was helping out one of my sons teammates mom. She had a family business of private care. That particular weekend her entire staff was unavailable. I offered to help her if she would help me with the boys busy game weekend. Mannnnnnn, it was an experience. What I provided was called ‘active dying care’. It’s the time-frame of three days before the last breath. (typically) . The German husband was in his 90’s. His wife was micro managing and the adult son wanted very little hands on responsibilities. So for 36 hours straight, I swabbed, sung, fed, and monitored this man. For 36 hours, I answered the stressed out wives question about near death signals and observations. For thirty-six hours, I stayed awake and prayed that my presence brought him comfort and peace, and to his wife a glimpse of assurance, rest and a sense of control. The husband had already outlined his final wishes so I didn’t need to go over that part. But if needed, I would have took out my resource bank.

Hospice- “They figure out with the family where they are at, what do they need, what’s causing them to become overwhelmed, what kind of services are they looking for,” says registered nurse Merilynne Rush, a practicing doula for 10 years and co-owner of the Lifespan Doula Association. “Different doulas offer different kinds of services.”

Many people don’t know that in 2005, I lost my 11 year old daughter. She transitioned on my birthday after a very long and overwhelming illness. Then less than two years later, my mom followed. Her process was much different from my daughters. That was my best friend I had to say goodbye to. It was tough. Yet nothing in comparison to January 2020 when my dad passed. I was named after him. My sisters and I made sure he didn’t suffer needlessly. To this day, nursing homes, rehab centers, and even the funeral home speaks well of how we took great care of our dad and his business. It wasn’t easy, but it was what we had to do. I want to make this process easy for others like my dad and their families.

As an instructor, I’ve been supporting families to become their own best advocates and successfully navigate various social and basic human rights systems for the past 17 years as a full service doula, home-school educator, nonprofit associate, author and entrepreneur. I’ve trained over 300 people to become doulas and has been training end-of-life doulas since 2019.

My goal is to make death better for the dying and their family. To make it less overwhelming and more prepared for like birth.

Note:

Hospice is reserved for when curative treatments have been exhausted and patients have less than six months to live. Palliative care, on the other hand, is a team-based medical specialty focused on providing relief from the symptoms and stress of a serious illness — care that you can get at any age and at any stage of your illness.