Friday Four: Happy Father’s Day, Really!

Grown Mama talk…… All Kids Need a Caring, Loving, Mature, and Providing Dad.Notice I said nothing about fashion, a genius, cute or rich? Because those qualities really don’t matter to a child.

I had a pretty good dad. We had a roof over our head, food on our table and clothes on our back. Every once in a while we got extra’s. Without a doubt we enjoyed having him and my om together. To this day, I still can’t recall them ever arguing. He never forgot any birthday, his anniversary or any opportunity to enjoy a good fishing rip with his friends on Saturday mornings.

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My memories growing up with my dad is like a hurricane. I was the wild one. The super  crazy,’Black Sheep” of the family.The 1st one to break the rules would be me. I was a teen mom that helped my sister push the car out the yard to party, and ate candy in the store before reaching the cashier.I was wild and careless. But he never called me anything other than my birth name.

He didn’t make it to many of my chorus events or games,but when I got home, the moon-pies were in the table and his stink work boots were waiting to be pulled off. There were no father daughter dances, pictures or lunches, but we barely missed any family reunions.

Once I left home  and became a mom, I met Raj. Raj was the total opposite.

I guess what I’m saying is there is no magical fatherhood path.

Cassie’s Sweetz has awesome Fathers Day gifts for the Low, Low…… See here! 


I asked For This Husband
by Jabela

I asked God for a man to treat me like a queen, that I might feel beautiful.
I was remained cuddly after birthing and nursed his babies, that I might learn love myself.

I asked for a man that would always put our family first, that I may never have to beg for groceries..
I was given a desk top computer and garden sneakers, that I might grow food in the yard and work from home after the children are asleep..

I asked for a man that also wanted a big  house, that I might entertain family and friends.
I was given a  decent sized- happy home with an incredible yard, and lawn chairs that I might enjoy nature, fresh air and the opportunity to watch the kids as they play outside.

I asked for a man to worship God with me every Sunday, that I may follow the traditional ways of my people.
I was given a tank of gas and a bunch of adios, that lead me to discovering the many faces of God outside of the church.

I asked for all things, that I might enjoy life.
I was given Life, that I might enjoy all things.

I got nothing that I asked for, but everything I had desired.
Almost despite myself, my unspoken prayers and true needs were fulfilled.

I am, among all moms, most richly

Need Ideas  for your guy? Try all or a few of these odd but cute ideas for dad

  1. Scavenger Hunt – Create a scavenger hunt and give dad clues to help him find his special Father’s Day gift. This can be an indoor activity or a scavenger hunt bike ride around the neighborhood. Arrange to have dad find his last clue at a picnic lunch or a nearby restaurant.
  2. Dad Olympics – For the dad who likes all kinds of competition, set up a Dad Olympics. Dad and the kids can compete in fun games such as Frisbee throwing or three-legged races. Younger children can decorate the game props with Father’s Day wishes and pictures
  3. Make a Dad Book!  It’s a book all about dad and how incredible he is.The feature picture is a rough draft of what our final product will be. We’re using his actual photos in action doing different thing with the family and adding script. The binding will be done with a hot glue gun and hole puncher.
  4. If any good games are on this weekend that you already know he wants to watch, turn it into a big deal! Create a tasty spread of his favorite dishes and cold  drinks to enjoy. Now everyone can sit a enjoy it with him. Just promise not to talk too much during the game.

Here’s another list of absolutely amazing gifts too! lick here—->  X <——

That’s my dad and grand dad below on my wedding day!

The Father’s Day Hunt

Every mom has been there before. It’s hours before Father’s Day and you have NOTHING to give as a gift. No time to panic! Pull it together and get those juices flowing is the mission for today!

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I haven’t asked the children what they want yet because they have been so busy helping me get better from this muscle spasm in my back and ovaries. But It just so happens that they are all away and that gives me time to brain storm via Pinterest, Google, and magazine for ideas!

So I’m looking for something

  • Reusabledads gifts in jars
  • Yummy
  • Funny
  • Simple

and most of all affordable!

I liked this key chain

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He would wear this. it’s not to dressy or flashy. Just like my husband. Just as this T-shirt. Simple, Strong and really eye candy!  Now the children will also want to gift him. I have put together an entiredad_the_man_great_gift_for_fathers_day_tshirt-r8315cc44627e4c7bae74bb1529391fe5_vj7bu_324

Pinteret board for that. Starting with this cute idea here!

I think you have the idea!.Hopefully this will be another great celebration of our guy! He does so much for us and to not celebrate him on such a  thoughtful day is just selfish. Love is an action and we have an overabundance of it to share!

My Earthly Dad

With these three words,
“Dear Heavenly Father,”
I begin my every prayer,
But the man I see
While on bended knee
Is always my earthly dad.

He is the image
Of the Father divine
Reflecting the nature of God,
For his love and care
And the faith he shared
Pointed me to my Father above.

daddy and QC Supermom

Adios friends

QC Supermom

Friday Four: Friday the 13th

Today is the only Friday the 13th we’ll have this year and it’s paired with a full moon to boot. Some call it spooky, I say hogwash. We had a great day in the QC. Along with this Father’s Day weekend, we are celebrating June-teenth.

Happy Father's Day hunny!

Happy Father’s Day hunny!

First, a Father’s Day note: Children who live absent their biological fathers are, on average, at least two to three times more likely to be poor, to use drugs, to experience educational, health, emotional and behavioral problems, to be victims of child abuse, and to engage in criminal behavior than their peers who live with their married, biological (or adoptive) parents. (Hmmm. That came from these folks ) I didn’t say it, I don’t even agree with it, but let’s sat it true. For those who aren’t in your child life- start today. They need you.

What type of dad will you be?

What’s your New-Father IQ?

15 Dad Facts you didn’t know.

He did a grand job Friday night & will be there for the rest of the weekend.

He did a grand job Friday night & will be there for the rest of the weekend.

Now Juneteenth-

General Order Number 3

One of General Granger’s first orders of business was to read to the people of Texas, General Order Number 3 which began most significantly with:

“The people of Texas are informed that in accordance with a Proclamation from the Executive of the United States, all slaves are free. This involves an absolute equality of rights and rights of property between former masters and slaves, and the connection heretofore existing between them becomes that between employer and free laborer.”



Look what I found online. I love this celebration. It’s on point and is the epitome of Juneteenth.

Juneteeth- On June 19, 1865, the Union General Gordon Granger rode into Galveston, Tex., to inform inhabitants of the Civil War’s end two months earlier. Two and a half years after Abraham Lincoln signed the Emancipation Proclamation, Granger’s General Order Number 3 finally freed the last 250,000 slaves whose bondage, due to the minimal Union presence in the region, had been essentially unaffected by Lincoln’s efforts. June 19th—which was quickly shortened to “Juneteenth” among celebrants—has become the African-American addendum to national Independence Day, for, as Juneteenth jubilees remind us, the Emancipation Proclamation did not bring about emancipation, and the prevailing portrayal of Independence Day ignores the ignominious incidence of slavery entirely.

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Friday The 13th- is considered an unlucky day in Western superstition. … There is also a superstition, thought by some to derive from the Last Supper or a Norsemyth, that having thirteen people seated at a table …. Western Folklore: 62–63.

Here’s just two of the many gatherings this weekend. Feel free to share your towns news.

Saturday, June 14, 2014, 12 noon–5 pm

Watkins Regional Park
301 Watkins Park Drive,
Upper Marlboro, Maryland 20774

17th ANNUAL JUNETEENTH FESTIVAL OF THE CAROLINAS. Contact the HOUSE OF AFRICA at 704-376-6160 or 980-613-5304. This year is going to be SPECTACULAR !!!!! Don’t miss the chance to be a part of an important piece of American history !! Come witness the SPECTACULAR ENACTMENT of QUEEN CHARLOTTE OF MECKLENBURG (the live telling of the history of Charlotte).

More controversy about June 19th 1865

Here’s 4 things to do this weekend:

1. Hug your dad

2. Call your dad

3. Learn more about Juneteenth.

4. Take the family to a Juneteenth gathering


Wednesday Wow: Father’s Day message


Father’s Day is THIS Sunday. This is going to be short and sweet.  I have 3 special men in my life and this year I figured, I would write them a letter.  Here, I’ll let you read it. But first, let me say Happy Father’s Day to all of the dads in your life (you too if you’re a dad)

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I was raise by a loving, dad. I matted  with a bank account dad. I married a old school dad. What I’ve learned is just like motherhood, fathers do not become dads instantly. I remember how timid Raj was when our 1st child was born. He didn’t know what to do, so he did very little until  she got bigger or I coaxed him into helping.

To my oldest son,

Jervon, you are something else. I have read the messages, heard the chants and seen the actions of theses females out here today. Your dating, nutrition, economic days are very different then the ones I grew up in. (sure, we’re only 17 years apart)  There’s so much more challenges to overcome. Ya’ll normalcy is our OMG! You have seen so much growing up. Good, bad, ugly and the straight up strange.I won’t talk about your visits with me to the midwife. I’m happy that you are comfortable enough to come to me and say what’s on your mind. Now that your 21, I know my role is now your consultant. I love the way you care for your siblings. I still think of you as a very little boy asking God for a brother and look at you, you have 4! I’m not rushing you in No Way, but I know that when you do have a child, that will be one incredible blessed child and mother. With that being said PLEASE DON”T BRING HOME no cougar, gold-digging, 2 faced hoochie. (Okay baby* 🙂 )

Love you always & forever,


jervon and mom

“Buying season tickets and attending every game doesn’t mean you’re on the team. You’re still a spectator.”-A. Kelly


To my husband,

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You get on my nerves so darn much. What was I thinking when I married you? You challenge me on every corner and love to call me out when you think I’m wrong.

Omg! Just thinking about those 5 sons and 3 daughters we have watching you is just scary. But guess what, I  wouldn’t have it any other way. Sure, our relationship isn’t for the weaker of hearts, but it works for us. I know you have my back. When you push it does one of two things.  It makes me evaluate what you said and  1. I’ll do better or I’ll ignore you and wait for an apology/ dinner/”Me Time” from you later. (either will work)

I taunt you and say that Pharell got away one night I fell asleep, but the truth is, there aren’t many men that would put up with all of my crazy adventures. You were made for me.Lucky us.

Love you always,

Mrs. P


Dad, thank you for always being there. I know for a fact that I was and still can be a handful at any given moment. But thank you for never turning your back on me, and always believing that I can do so much more than I ever imagined.Now look at you, you’re doing the same for my children. Because of your unconditional love I know I could never repay you, but I hope that by raising your grand children with the support. love you gave me and supplying you with sorrel makes you somewhat happy. If I can, I want to ask one more thing of you. Would you now enjoy life more? I would love to see you on  a curse or 3 star resort. (I think a 5 star would bore you) I have put money aside for you to do just that. It’s not much, but with all the price shopping tools on the market, you should pack for at least 6 days. Just bring me back a t-shirt ok.

Love you always, Kelle Keisha


Psst, need a few last minutes ideas? What better place than my cheat sheet.