Friday Four: Kwanzaa Charlotte

Happy New Year!!! We made it! My only resolve is to a better human than I was last year! No Stress zone!

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This week has been great! Seems fitting to do a Wordless Friday!

Please Enjoy!

 

We get to see this guy play in SC this weekend!

We get to see this guy play in SC this weekend!

 

Guess what we’re doing this weekend? Yup, Hampton College Basketball! Have a great weekend!

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Friday Four: Getting Out Of Town

driving in the mountainsI don’t like to drive long distances. When my older children were smaller, I missed out on alot because I had no desire or help to share the burden of driving long distances or watching the children. My husband was either working or didn’t want to go where I wanted to go.

Now that our oldest son is playing basketball in college, my husband has an incentive to be the designated driver for out of town trips. I can’t tell you how much I appriciate that, but our latest trip opened my eyes to something rather significant.

Last week we went to see Hampton University play against Appalachian State University in Boone NC.

Noah made friends with the enemy.

Noah made friends with the enemy.

That ride was excellent! I couldn’t keep my camera down. It was mountains, hills, valleys the entire time. Talk about beautiful!  Who knew we were so close to all this beauty?  I took while riding. The university sits on the top on another mountain that placed us 3333 ft. above sea level. I like walking in places with my tribe. We almost took the entire row.

Two hours later, we were on our way back home. Talk about bitter sweet. I was happy that we were able to put in $15 in gas to learn about a part of our state that we’ve never been to before. They got to see first hand what mountains really looked like, and how it felt to rise in elevation. It was clear that there are some things, you just can’t get the feel of from a picture or youtube video. There is something to getting out of your home land and seeing more!

I have been missing out on too much, and so have my children. What if I had another interested mom? we could share traveling expenses and child care, while exploring new things with our children? It could happen! (I tell you sense comes last sometimes,I could just kick myself!)

Boone NC
Boone NC

 

 

Boone mountains

I do plan to return with a mom friend and her children in April. By that time, we will have saved up enough to go hiking, eat local and just be authentic tourist for the weekend.

 

 

 

 

 

Here’s a little more information about the Men’s Basketball teams that played last week:

QC Supermom in Boone NCAppalachian State University is a comprehensive, public, coeducational university located in Boone, North Carolina, United States. Appalachian State was founded as a teacher’s college in 1899 by brothers B.B. and D.D. Dougherty.

QC Supermom and Hampton UniversityHampton University is a historically black university located in Hampton, Virginia, United States. It was founded in 1868 by black and white leaders of the American Missionary Association after the American Civil War to provide education to freedmen. In 1878 it established a program for teaching Native Americans which lasted until 1923.

Friday Four: 4 WOMEN To Admire

Have you ever ran into another mom and thought, “Wow, she is so awesome!” It’s like they have been hidden from you and now that you’ve found them, your life will never be the same because you have found an endless pit of knowledge, inspiration and support and sisterhood. Well, I have been fortunate to run into many women like that. In one way or the other, they have made my life better because of the essence of who they are. My question to you is this, have you said “Thank You for Being You?” I’m sure your “Supermom” would love to hear it. We must get in a better habit of lifting each other up.  I’ve listed my top four women to admire beow. Take a look and feel free to share your top 4! I don’t mind long shout-outs, so say it like you mean it!!

1.  Lindsey D. her She is a beautiful, spunky,amazing mom of 3 and fascinating army wife. I love the way she keeps them actively and progressive engaged in a happy childhood, while preparing them for adulthood.  At the same time she keeps me blushing on her witty ways she keeps her husband content. Lindsey’s strong faith and support system keeps her going and I love learning from her!

2. mama Rose Rock- “The key is being there, being fully engaged and wanting to be there. It’s a conscious decision you make.”

In a recent interveiw, she stated;  You know, my husband would ask me, because we had a large family, did I feel like he and the children, you know, were in my way or that did I feel left out? And I never ever did because I stayed, raised my children the way I did, now I’m able to enjoy all of that.

You can read more on that recent interveiw here.

This lady is right on target. Parents, myself included, need to read this and put it into practice. Mama Rock makes it sound simple. And her basic outline is just that -simple and straight forward. Sometimes we have to tell it like it is, stop making excuses (parenting is work), and get back to the grass roots of child rearing. LOVE her to the moom and back!

 

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3. Judge Judy- “If it doesn’t make sense, it’s not true.” -Judge Judy

She has some of the best statements ever that I use everyday with my family, friends and business circle. I guess I’m a old head like that but the wisdom in each quote is profund. See more here, and here. I guarantee that you’ll love them all!

You can get her FREE book here! It’s called What Would Judy Do? I have read it and highly suggest it for all MOTHER, wifes and women! She made a comment that I live by. I say it this way “Mothers need to have thier own money. Even if it’s a small kitty. Husbands always want accountabilit, No grown women should have to always go to her husband for everything.”

4. Last but not least YOU! (Women only…. sorry guys)

Being a mom is challenging! As a wife, and work from home mother of 9 I know what ywe do everyday isn’t always how we seen our seves when we were little girls. When you give 110% of yourself during the day and is still can’t resist kissing those toes and checks good night, that makes you awesome! To you I say keep up the great work. It will pay off. Our oldest is a Jr in college and I’m already seeing the pay off to our selfless efforts!

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Wednesday Wow: CIAA Free listing here.

It’s true. Some things in life are free! The 9th annual CIAA comes to the city of Charlotte next week on February 25th through March 1st. Female and male student-athletes from 12 different institutions will play harder than ever before in hopes to move up to the NCAA Division II tournament.images

Yes, I live in Charlotte, Yes my son plays and attends a HBCU. Yes we enjoy to his game and being his personal pep squad. But sadly I must admit, I will not be at any of the CIAA games. BUT I will have my children at the FREE family events.

But first, let me give you a little history of the CIAA. The Central Intercollegiate Athletic Association was founded in 1912 on the campus of Hampton Institute. Its founders were Allen Washington and C.H. Williams of Hampton Institute; Ernest J. Marshall of Howard University; George Johnson of Lincoln University, PA ; W.E. Atkins, Charles Frasher and H.P. Hargrave of Shaw University; and J.W. Barco and J.W. Pierce of Virginia Union University.

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Now it is the oldest African-American athletic conference in the United States. mostly consisting of historically black colleges and universities. Recent addition Chowan University is the first non-HBCU to play in the conference. Conference teams participate in the NCAA‘s Division II. Teams in the conference are mostly from North Carolina and Virginia, though there is one each fromPennsylvania and Maryland. The CIAA is divided into Northern and Southern Divisions in all of the sports except track and field/cross country and baseball, and sponsors 16 annual championships.

Can you say big dollars for the QC?!  There is talk about it leaving next year. At stake is one of the city’s biggest tourism events, estimated to create more than $40 million in economic impact. It may end up in Raleigh, Atlanta, Greensboro, Washington D.C., Brooklyn, N.Y. and Baltimore…who knows.

I plan to be at Hampton University watching my son play. But if you’re gonna be here. Here’s a few free event to enjoy.

The Fan Experience also will feature free concerts.
• Regina Belle, Thursday, Feb. 27 at 8:30 p.m.
• Jagged Edge, Thursday, Feb. 27 at 9 p.m.
• Mack Wilds, Friday, Feb. 28 at 9 p.m.
• Monica, Saturday, March 1 at 6:30 p.m.

THURSDAY:
*Fourth Annual Food Lion Teen Summit
Girls and boys, ages 13 to 18, are invited to an evening of “real talk.” This summit encourages teens to have candid conversations and interaction among their peers, and will also include food, a step show, DJ, contests, and prizes. Hosted by Girl Talk Foundation, Inc. 5:30-7:30 p.m. Free admission; advance registration required. Charlotte Convention Center, 501 S. College St., girltalkfoundationinc.com.
The Jump Off
This party will run from happy hour to late-night, featuring music from DJ Biggs of Washington, D.C. and DJ Lonnie B of Virginia. Brought to you by Eddietainment Inc., Pearl Vision Group, Eddleton Events, and J&J Entertainment. 5 p.m.-2 a.m. Free admission before 9 p.m. Vapiano, 201 S. Tryon St.,

February 27th- March 1st:

Be sure to stop by the CIAA Fan Experience, a three-day fan festival event located at the Charlotte Convention Center. Opening and closing times vary based on day. The best part- the entire event is free.  Robin Thicke, Trey Sonz, Rick Ross, and others will be performing. Win sponsor prizes, play video games, explore cooking exhibits and car shows, and be a part of interactive activities. This festival is nothing but real family fun.

Fan Experience Presented by Toyota – Thursday, February 27 – Saturday, March 1

Charlotte Convention Center, Halls A and B

CIAA Fan Experience Presented by Toyotais a three-day FREE fan festival event that is family-friendly and filled with activities. Taking up 200,000 sq. ft. at the Charlotte Convention Center, CIAA Fan Experience will feature free concerts, live entertainment, cooking demos and more. Celebrity guests include Tatyana Ali, Dawnn Lewis, DJ Rock T, Lance Gross, Morris Chestnut, Malcom Jamal Warner and Sheryl Lee Ralph. Keep checking back for updated information.

Fan Experience also will feature free concerts on the Coke Zero Sound Stage and will host a variety of performers. “Throwback” Thursday, February 27 AARP presents Grammy Award winner Regina Belle at 8:30 p.m. followed by Jagged Edge at 9 p.m. “New School” Friday, February 28, the official Lowe’s Day, will feature Mack Wilds at 9 p.m. and on “Super Saturday,” March 1, Monica will perform at 6:30 p.m.

CIAA Fan Experience Hours:

  • Thursday, February 27, 5 – 10 p.m. – presented by Toyota
  • Friday, February 28, 5:30 – 10 a.m., for the Yolanda Adams Morning Show
  • Friday, February 28, 5 – 10 p.m. – presented by Lowe’s
  • Saturday, March 1, 12 – 8 p.m. – presented by Toyota

February 28th- March 1st:

Teenagers and young adults are not the only ones who like to party. This is a call for small kids and children looking for an entertainment-filled night of toys, games, sports, books, movies, and arts and crafts galore. Not to mention pizza, snacks, and ice cream will also be included. The After School Construction Zone’s 6th Annual Kids Night Out will be held in Charlotte on Mt. Holly Huntersville Road from 8 p.m. to 8 a.m.

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Kitchapalooza 3: Tournament Edition 2014 Pop Life party with three buildings (Cosmos, Phoenix and Re:Public), one alley one host (Power 98’s No Limit Larry) and six DJs (DJ Skillz, DJ Shaun Nyce, DJ Hot Rod, DJ Ngenius, DJ CK & DJ 360). For tables and bottle service, call Tami at 980-322-9859. Free admission. Feb. 26, 9 p.m. to 2 a.m. 300 N. College St.www.thesolkitchen.com/category/ciaa/.

TRYST: Brunch & Day Party Eddietainment, A.C.T. Productions and Dynasty 5 present this day party with music by DJ Paradime and DJ Tayrock from Atlanta. For more information, visit http://www.eventbrite.com and search “TRYST: Brunch & Day Party” or click here. Free admission before 1 p.m. Feb. 28, 10 a.m. to 7 p.m. Vapiano, 201 S. Tryon St.

I should be able to catch some of this on Sunday:

Ninth Annual Panache Farewell Brunch
Order from a delicious à la carte menu, while enjoying music from a live band. Brought to you by Digital Divas. 11 a.m.-3 p.m. Free admission; reservations encouraged but walk-ins are welcome. Ruth’s Chris Uptown, 222 S. Tryon St., digitaldivasevents.com.
Farewell: The Last Day Party
Don’t leave town just yet. This day party will be hosted by DJ Biggs, with music from DJ Skillz, DJ Lonnie B, and DJ Self from New York City. Brought to you by Eddietainment Inc., J&J Entertainment Group, Pearl Vision, and Eddleton Events. Noon-7 p.m. Free admission. Suite, at EpiCentre, 210 E. Trade St., eddietainment.com.
That’s My DJ Midday Sunday Send-Off
After rocking parties for the last few days, several DJs are coming together under one roof, including DJ SNS, DJ Kash, DJ Pnut, DJ MC, and DJ Bro-Rabb. Brought to you by BestFriendz Entertainment. Noon-11:30 p.m. RSVP for free admission before 4 p.m.; VIP tables available. Whisky River, at EpiCentre, 210 E. Trade St.,thatsmydj.eventbrite.com.
Author Reading and Book Signing
Author and former Charlotte resident La Toya Hankins will read from and sign copies of her latest novel, K:Rho—The Sweet Taste of Sisterhood, which focuses on sorority life, LGBT issues, and the power of friendship. She will also discuss her first novel, SBF Seeking, which is set in North Carolina and features the CIAA weekend as one of the major plotlines. The books will be for sale and a portion of the proceeds will go to Charlotte area nonprofits. Refreshments will be provided. 2 p.m. Free admission. Zetas of Charlotte, 4248 Beatties Ford Rd.,latoyahankins.com.

I would suggest the step show, but it’s sold out already.  if you have never been to one, ‘Boy are you missing something incredible. There is NOTHING like a HBCU!  twi
A List of Colleges and Universities in the CIAA

CIAA 2014 Radio

CIAA Week Events and Parties Lists

Have fun & be safe,

QC Supermom

Wednesday WoW: Kelly and Micheal, here’s your UnStoppable Mom!

Sometimes when I allow myself to start decorating for a pity party, friends like Margot pop in and remind me why I can’t slow down or quit! She was talking about me and here’s what she said.

When I heard Kelly and Michael introduce this contest (The Unstoppable Mom Contest )   on LIVE, the first thing that came to mind was I had to contact Kelle Perkins, as she is the original Unstoppable Mom!! I know a lot of really great mothers, doing wonderful things, but Kelle is THE Unstoppable Mom! She is creative, intuitive, caring, smart, and clever and effortlessly manages a household of seven children (and a husband!) ranging in age from 16 years to twenty months and homeschools everyone except the baby!us fa

There is NOTHING that she can’t do and she welcomes a challenge and is very passionate/persistent in everything she does and makes it all look so effortless.

Kelle is organized and schedules out her day to give the necessary attention to the children’s academics, as well as managing her home and giving back to the community. In addition, to the seven children currently at home, has a 21 year old son, who is on a basketball scholarship for Hampton University, and the family attends as many games as they can and form a cheering section all of their own, inviting many friends and relatives to join them. I don’t even know where to start, in describing this delightful, energetic, organized, loving, proud, engaging and unstoppable Mom. Kelle received her AA Degree in Travel and Tourism and then a BA Degree from Johnson and Wales, majoring in Hospitality. She credits much of her success to the education she received at Johnson and Wales, as she is able to make her education applicable to her family life and to an organization she founded-The Queen City Stay At Home Mom’s!! This organization was developed as many mothers were asking her “How to and How do you do” questions about being a mother ie. how do you breast feed and on and on, thus a niche was created and she has filled it beautifully, and expanded upon this, now also being a Doula and educating expectant mothers and carrying on with this education to the actual birth and beyond.

I love this!

I love this!

This 38 year old mother is a networking pro and loves the atmosphere of “bringing something to the table” with everything she does. In this particular situation, she has restaurants ready to give the new parents a MOM jervonwonderful free dinner at home after each birth, babysitters on hand to help with younger siblings, and is “on call” to help with any/all questions from now on!!. In becoming a Doula, Kelle has shared her passion with her daughters, and 14 year old Cassie, is becoming a little entrepreneur just like her mother! She started a cookie company called “Cassie’s Sweetz.” This is no ordinary cookie company though, as it is geared toward the lactating woman, who is either having trouble with her milk coming in or wants to make sure she keeps her ability to lactate.

cassie strawberryCassie, with the with the help of her innovative mother, developed these cookies from doing much research into healthy ingredients that would lend itself to this purpose and then took it one step further to finding these ingredients at a reasonable cost and incorporating them into a delicious, nutritious cookie!! She also employs a very “green” mentality and has a motto of recycle, reduce and reuse; she recycles containers, such as oatmeal containers and decorates them very whimsically, and them fills them with her homemade cookies and ships them off to her customers.

My number 8 and 9 learning how to feed themselves= Priceless!

My number 8 and 9 learning how to feed themselves= Priceless!

Kelle has a definite vision for her children; she wants them to demonstrate character, manners, independence, and good nutrition, along with empowering and educating them in so many ways, and it’s obvious to all that she is bringing up very success oriented, wonderful children. Kelle home schools the children in the mornings and then the afternoons are spent gardening, where they grow much of their own vegetable and have enough to share with others, organizing cooking classes with her mom’s group, or being servants to the community and volunteering. One of the family’s favorites is working at Loaves and Fishes, a local soup kitchen. She feels that being a well-rounded individual is most important so finds creative ways to inexpensively expose her children to the arts, whether it be a play at a local university; several of the younger boys are a ball boys for UNC-Charlotte, which gives them a sense of responsibility and enables the family to have a family gathering on the house!ball

In 2005, Kelle lost 11 year old Mya, (Yes, a mother to nine children!) to an auto immune disease. From the initial diagnosis to her death it was only a few months. Kelle spoke at Mya’s wake and even though she was a grieving mother, she wanted to keep this time upbeat, positive and a testament to the wonderful wit this child had, instead of burying her head in the sand and wishing her pain and anguish would go away. She has great faith in God and knew that she had to trust him and keep on going for her family’s survival.baking  vinge

This loss, made her question whether this death was because of something environmental, so in 2013 after much research, she joined MomsRising, and participated in the Stroller Brigade to make a presentation to Congress about reforming the laws on toxins. Kelle also is busy doing product reviews for companies and then passes on the product info and giveaways to her Queen City Stay at Home Moms. An example of this is her work with local supermarkets, ie. Earth Fare, as they are exemplary in supporting education for children’s wellness and health.

She also created and coordinates the annual Total Children’s Wellness Fair and does this solely through her networking contacts/businesses. This energetic and unstoppable mom lives in Charlotte, NC with her beautiful family and is married to Roger, a US veteran, who is currently attending college, so there is never a dull moment in the Pressley-Perkins household. If I was to ever win a reward of this size I already know how it’ll be spent! There’s so much to do.But even if I don’t I know that I’m the richest person I know. For I have excellent friends and a wonderful family! God Is Fantastic!

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Operation Mom; from Nurturer to Coach

mamaI am a blessed woman. I have 9 children, From 15 months to 20 years old. For each of them I’m a different mom. Based on where they are in development, I meet their needs differently.

Dr feelGoodNurturer- My 15 month old   I’m very attentive, nurturing and act as a human bottle and jumping gym to him. I still wipe his nose and change his diaper. This age they are the cutest.I can dress him in whatever I want to with out any back talk. This part is indescribably beautiful and awful all at the same time.

 

 Instructor -My 3, 4, and 6 year old

I’m teaching and reinforcing the rules and introducing new ones. My main job is to start building their self confidence and other essential character traits.For instance the Fruit Of The Spirits, is a great source to use as a model. Right now is important because they still soak up anything and everything.I’m not wiping their nose as regularly,cleaning up all their mess or changing their diaper, But I’m directing them and offering just a little less help.DIGITAL CAMERA

The coach – the 13,14,and 15 year old

An exciting time for all!

These are the girls in the family. Luckily, boys aren’t the main thing on their mind right now! They are still learning about their body, eating to live, what it means to be a girl today, the hierarchy of our family ( I make sure they understand that they have a voice,but because I’m NOT their friend – they must remain in control of their emotions) exploring their God given gifts as sufficiency options and how to do their chores better, To me, this is the most expensive time as they are more into their looks. As they move toward more independence, I still support and protect them. At this point, heck no, I’m not clean up their mess!

The girls with their cousin, Rissa Roo during a night on the town.

The girls with their cousin, Rissa Roo during a night on the town.

The consultant- My 20 year old

This can be an overwhelming time! But if I’ve done pretty well in previous stages, this should be less stressful. My son is in his 2nd year of college,new relationships emerge between us. He still needs me. Just less.

He still makes messes. Just different types. I instruct less and just listen more.Yes, it’s very hard when he gets supper excited about his “Girl flavor of the month” or other possible,weekend choices. But with a GPA of 3.5, I gotta kick him some slack.

My 1st and last born on the campus of Hampton University.

My 1st and last born on the campus of Hampton University.

You’ll find that the phases of parenthood aren’t entirely measurable or scientific. The phases overlap each other; one phase begins long before the previous phase passes completely. And different children will demand differing degrees of flexibility in moving from one phase to the next.

At the end of the day, always do your best!

Wednesday Wow: Picking up our son from college summer ‘2013

This Mother’s Day will be extra special! My gift came early. We picked it* up yesterday from Hampton Virginia. It was so huge, I had to make space in the entire back half of our mini van. It* is so precious, so incredible and so in-demand!

He's a sophomore at Hampton University

He’s a sophomore at Hampton University

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My number 4 son helping my number 1 get everything packed for home!

It’s my 20 year old son Keithric Jervon Kelly Pressley! Yes, I used every single one of his names. I missed him so and look forward to breaks and vacations from college to have him here with me. (So sue me. I told ya’ll a long time ago, that I was an helicopter mom)

Yes, we cleaned up for the next student! Doesn't everyone?

Yes, we cleaned up for the next student! Doesn’t everyone?

I have to come clean. As if you can’t tell, I’m also a doting mom. I’m so proud of him. He has made so many grown up decision and moves this year and have done them all on his own. At times I felt that he should have ran these options by me, his dad, aunts previous coaches  or grandfather, but he didn’t. So far, so good. He finished the year with great grades, looking healthy, and of a peaceful spirit! You can’t ask for anything more. I’m so grateful. DIGITAL CAMERA

Here’s my message to those moms thinking bout throwing in the towel with their son. Children are tend to live up to what you believe of them. This boy of mine wasn’t completely terrible. Yet, he gave me plenty of practice on raising his younger four brothers. In middle school I didn’t know what to do with him. I felt that he was  ruined. To me his priorities were out of order and he considered himself above reproach. My husband and I tried EVERYTHING! From enrolling him in a Scared Straight program to changing his diet, to having him volunteer his time to serve the less fortunate. We even used radical strategies that resulted in making other family members raise their eyebrows. But it worked, He is worth it. So right now, if “Lil Jean” driving you bonkers, just find options and use them as needed. Don’t give up on your child. The minute you do, hopelessness steps in and awful things happen. Anything worth having requires work, and if you can put massive energy in the things you truly like, why not put that same energy in your flesh & blood? LOVE Your CHILD to GREATNESS!

DIGITAL CAMERAMy mother’s Day is looking fantastic. Not for the gifts they’ll surly bring, or the hugs I receive, but for the fact that my son is finally getting it. ……Oh yeah, him grabbing the wheel for the long ride home was a treat too! Aaaah, the perks of having a child old enoughto drive. Till the next break, take care! QC Supermom