Breastfeeding mom asked to leave public library computer room – UPDATE

I wanted to share a quick update. I’ll make this long story short- So back in August of 2012, Noah was just 2 months old when then Beatties Ford Regional library, librarian manager, Ms Iris, asked me to stop feeding Noah where I was seated.

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This the exact shirt, day, position, and hour with which Noah’s feeding was violated.

Wednesday Wow!  Breastfeeding In the QC,” by Kelle Pressleyqcsupermom, 22 August 2012:

I thought this would be a quick visit, but it wasn’t so I shift [my two month old baby] inside my white, thin, cotton shirt to feed him.  The only thing visible was his soft curly brown locks.  Seconds later a library volunteer approached me(twice),then the female security guard (twice), and finally the older female supervisor.  The message was consistent, plain and clear.  I cannot nurse at the computer.  I had to stop, get up and go into their 8x10ft nursing cellar.  I refused each time telling them I knew my rights and not only were they violating my rights as a library patron, but also as a breastfeeding mom.

The coverage with Dan from SafeLibraries was interesting as well –

SafeLibraries
@CMLibrary, which harassed #bfing @QCSuperMOM, has blocked me from reading its @Twitter feed! So much for #FreeSpeech! http://t.co/EwWrSABw
9/4/12 9:05 AM-Tuesday, 4September2012

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cmlibrary
@SafeLibraries Untrue. ^jd
9/4/12 9:10 AM-Tuesday, 4September2012

(Click here to read it all)

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So yeah, I was heated for a long time. But got over it as the feeling of accomplishment

 

filled my spirit. Knowing that standing my ground would definitely encourage other moms to breastfeed with pride as well. And it did. The story traveled further than I have traveled so far.  I could never be hushed for something I believe in- I’ve always been

stubborn like that.  But here’s the update.  img_20181007_165114_555

That little dark stuff room is now a nicer place to nurse.  Of course if you want to let the liquid gold flow in the lobby you can, but, I thought I would share that with you.

I was there this week and ran into a long time employee of the library.  She,  Ms Vivian shared with me that it was created after my breastfeeding incident in 20I2. She then invited me to tour inside the newly updated nursing moms space. What was a flex space for small storage is now a intimate, cozy, tiny silo for all nursing mom’s.

I’m okay with that, but more importantly interested in ensuring more staff*, understand the importance of not breaking breastfeeding moments.

Breastfeeding is normal. It can be done in public by women who ARE more comfortable with it than I was with no problem. And the fact is, in most place, they’re protected by law to do so. – CafeMom

Breastfeeding is normal

-To all the new moms that a fearful, ashamed and any other way un-encouraged to feed your baby your liquid gold, please read this and understand that you are everything your baby needs to survive! It was given to us as a gift from God. Before there was formula, there was breast milk. And if you truly want to give your child the absolute best, go on and slide a boob up in your little ones mouth.

12 most Ridiculous Places Moms Have Gotten Smacked for Breastfeeding

Today, Noah is a water loving, homeschooled, world traveling,  garden sowing, basketball playing, Discovery place going, ChickFila eating, superhero!

Wednesday Wow: Black Breastfeeding Week- YES!

NOTICE: To be clear, this is not about YOU — this effort does not exclude or preclude anyone else from joining in. Please hear me, every time black people get together in solidarity to address problems in their own community, it is not a statement or action toward YOU. In fact, your energy would be better spent thinking about how you can support such a life-saving effort. PLEASE CONTINUE…..

Safe Libraries  encourage me to call them out for the suckers they are on NIP.

August is Breastfeeding Awareness Month and a group of nationally recognized breastfeeding advocates have declared August 25-31st as Black Breastfeeding Week, marking the inaugural celebration of black life with community events in key cities, an live interactive webcast and several social media campaigns.

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 I agree that a special light should be given to mothers of color. Study’s suggest that although more moms of color are nursing, we still have a long way to go.75% of white women breastfed versus 58.9% of black women. ,

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 As I write, I am nursing my lil one and thinking to myself, how fortunate I was to have been pulled over 16 years ago in dialogue by my then baby father. When we found out that we were expecting, although NEITHER of us was too excited, he went into Super dad mode.  He said “you’re gonna breastfeed. No child of mine is drinking that {explicit}.” So I fed her.

I was surprised that he was that interested in what our soon to be baby would be fed.  We never talked about it. I know that my mother didn’t nurse us and not sure if his mom nursed him, but it was something he knew was great for our

When she was born it took a lot of trial and error. She bit me many times. I remember crying when it seemed like she wasn’t getting enough to eat.  My mom and other women, both young and old thought I was crazy for not accepting WIC’s offer for formula. To her nursing wasn’t worth the trouble because that darn formula was just sitting, waiting on me, in a can to pop open, drop in a bottle and shove in my lil ones mouth. But I kept right on feeding her.

After that daughter, we had 5 more babies. All of whom were breastfed for . I continues to get the looks, comments from strangers, family and friends, but I knew that it was working. The kids only went to the hospital for checkups and after a few accidents. My daughters have skipped an entire grade level, and my now 6yo reads on a 2nd grade level. So YES! I am an advocate for Black BreastFeeding. poster bf

When black mothers are given more support, guidance, and solid education I guarantee you- nothing more than a physical obstruction will stop a mom from sharing her gift that only a mother can share. So feed on!

 Leaky Boob said:For those of you who are offended by Black Breastfeeding Week, I have great news: it’s not for or about you. If you are offended by a group of people supporting each other and providing a safe space for dialogue about problems relevant to themselves, don’t worry, it has nothing to do with you. If you are unwilling to listen and provide support and solidarity, then don’t involve yourself in the discussion…..

 

 

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Because too many moms of color think this way, here’s why Black Breastfeeding Week is needed :

My mother and grandmothers don’t support it.

It doesn’t seem to be something folks like me do.  I just don’t see enough of  “us” out there.

My man thinks my boobs are only his. I can’t imagine sharing them.

No one else will be able to feed the baby but me, what if I need to leave the baby?

Most people I know use formula, and they are just fine.

I am not going in a bathroom to feed my child!

(Heard of any others?)

Let us have our week please! Like it or not, Black Breastfeeding Week is here! It’s the first one and we’re proud to be part of launching it. Like the page to get updates about this week’s events and SHARE with your peeps to help spread the word.

Nipples up for all breastfeeding moms! QCSupermom

Teach Me How To Breast Feed [MUSIC VIDEO]

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Sh!$ people say to breast feeding moms! (too funny)

Babies LOVE our milk. No formula can compare.

Babies LOVE our milk. No formula can compare.

Friday 4: World Breastfeeding Week

Noah nursing…..just as he was moments ago at the library.

This has become to be known as World Breastfeeding Week (WBW) celebrated every 1-7 August to commemorate the Innocenti Declaration. World Breastfeeding Week was first celebrated in 1992. Now it involves over 170 countries and is endorsed by UNICEF, WHO and FAO.

Yes it was almost two weeks ago, but I have to share what happened! Even with all the information out there nowadays promoting breast-feeding and nursing mothers’ rights, there are still breast-feeding-phobes among us. And what’s even more disturbing is that some of these phobes are parents themselves.

The recent incident at Beatties Ford Road Library in Charlotte, NC is a perfect example. Watch The clip here . After a complaint from other library volunteer, a library employee asked me to either stop breast-feeding my 2month old or go to the nursing room around the corner out of respect for others. How is asking a woman to feed her baby in a cold windowless square respectful? I was nursing rather discretly if I do say so myself.  Just watch the clip for more info.

Apparently some still think a woman breast-feeding her baby is more obscene than women walking around in skimpy bikinis. My response will always be: “If you’re not prepared to have tough conversations with your children, then you should rethink parenting.”

According to an editorial by two-time Pulitzer Prize winner David Horsey, “From business offices to high school classrooms, modest displays of cleavage are commonplace. Bolder up-front fashions are standard at dance clubs, proms, beaches and bowling alleys. Breasts are so out in the open in America these days that it has become ho-hum. Yet, when a new mom exposes far less skin while trying to satisfy a hungry baby, some people still get upset. Yes, some of them are crudely sexualizing this maternal function, but many others with a more traditional way of looking at the world are simply made uncomfortable when they observe a breastfeeding woman. For them, nursing is a purely private act and it should stay that way.”

Eating has never been a private act. If someone at your table was eating with his mouth open, would you ask him to go finish his meal in the bathroom because you’re seeing too much?

If you’re one of those folks who get uncomfortable around a nursing mother, give it a break /get over it. It shouldn’t upset you;I’m giving my hungry baby a meal.

Thanks for stopping in. Feel free to leave your comment below! -QC Supermom

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