Wednesday WoW: Skills Your Child Needs Now!

There’s much more to life than those basic subjects, and unless you have an exceptional teacher who is willing to break out of the mold, your child isn’t learning the crucial things he or she needs to learn in life.

Think about your own experience for a moment. When you got out of high school, did you know everything you needed in order to survive in life, let alone succeed? I didn’t.

 

No Charge!

No Charge!

 

Being in Rhode Island for 16 months to finishing up my bachelor’s degree then Atlanta for 5 months (Marriott Management In Training program after college) alone taught me a lot.

I promised myself that my child would never be as naive and unprepared as I was. Because we homeschool, we have the privilege to customized our children education as we please for the most part, based on North Carolina Department on Non Public Education (NCDNPE

What follows is a basic list that all children should know before reaching adulthood. There will probably be other skills you can add to this list, but at least it’s a starting point.

 

DSCI0120Social– Things will not always go as planned. But they can be changed for the better. Find solutions instead of complaints. And most of all, learn to believe in yourself, and to block out negative self-thinking internal and externally.

Spiritual-  Whether this is a higher religious purpose, or the purpose of making your family happy, or the purpose of finding your calling, having a purpose in life is extremely important. Teach your children the importance of this and show how to do it yourself. 

Be intimate: Teach by having an intimate relationship with your child, and model it with your spouse or other significant other (within appropriateness). Teach them the skills for developing these types of relationships, talk about the importance of it, and how to get through the bumpy parts as well. There are bad times in every relationship, but with the right skills of communication, empathy and compromise, they can get through them.

Environmental includes living in harmony with the Earth by understanding the impact of your interaction with nature and your personal environment, and taking action to protect the world around you. Protecting yourself from environmental hazards and minimizing the negative impact of your behavior on the environment are also central elements. Leading a lifestyle that is respectful to our environment and minimizes any harm done to it is a critical part of this dimension of wellness. 

My number 8 and 9 learning how to feed themselves= Priceless!

My number 8 and 9 learning how to feed themselves= Priceless!

Educational– One of the most important skills not taught in school. These days, we are taught to be robots, to listen to the teacher and not to question, to accept what we are told and not to think, to be good employees and to shut up. If you’re an employer, you might want your employees to be like this, and if you’re a politician, you might want your citizens to be like this. But is that how you want your child to be? An unquestioning, naive, ignorant citizen/employee/student? If so, carry on. If not, just start introducing the habit of questioning why? And the skill of find out the answer. And how to question authority — there is no one right answer. Conversation is a good way to accomplish this skill.

Financial-This is something to teach them from an early age. How to 

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shop around to get 


good deal, to compare between products of different prices and quality, to make things last and not waste, to control impulse buying. When we go out and do a shopping spree, including before Christmas, we are teaching them just the opposite
. Teach them the responsible use for money and credit, and how to avoid it when it’s not necessary, and how to avoid getting into too much debt, and how to use a credit card responsibly.

Physical- People who lead an active life are more likely to live longer and less likely to develop serious diseases such as heart disease, cancer and diabetes. Exercise not only makes you physically fitter, it also improves your mental health and general sense of wellbeing. There are so many fun ways to sneak it in your child brain as a fun thing to do.

Today’s kids (and their moms) report being surrounded by healthy eating messages.  In fact, when asked about where they are learning about “healthy eating”, kids (8-11) cite many different sources.2 Of these, traditional venues (parents, teachers, medical personnel) reign supreme. Global Kids Study

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Nutritional- It is directly linked to all aspects of their growth and development; factors which will have direct ties to their level of health as adults. Almost certainly helping them to live longer. Countless studies show that what someone learns as a child is then perpetuated


I call those the 7 branch
es of Wellness. Here are a few other ideas! throughout their life.

 

 

Practical                        

 

  • Auto. Why cars are needed (no, not to look cool), how to buy a practical car, how to take care of it. How the engine works, what might break down, and how it’s fixed. Should be taught to both boys and girls (that should be obvious, but I had to say it).
  • Household. How to fix things around the house and keep things maintained. Plumbing, electricity, heating and cooling, painting, roofing, lawn, all that good stuff. The tools and skills necessary to do just the basic maintenance and repairs. And how to know when to call a professional.
  • Cleaning. Too many adults grow up without knowing how to do laundry, to clean a house properly, to keep the house clean and uncluttered, to have a weekly and monthly cleaning routine. 
  • Organization. How to keep paperwork organized, how to keep things in their place, to to keep a to-do list,how to set routines, how to focus on the important tasks.

A note on how to teach these things: These points should taught by setting examples, by conversation, by showing, and by allowing the child (or teenager) to do these things on their own (with supervision at first). Once you’ve talked about the skill, showed your child how to do it, and let them do it under supervision a few times, give your child the trust to do it on his own, and to learn from his own mistakes. 

Let’s Build a stronger generation~ QC Supermom

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Friday Four! A Father-Son Pep Talk

he talksRemember LUCY AND RICKY RICARDO (“I LOVE LUCY”) ? How about MORTICIA AND GOMEZ ADDAMS (“THE ADDAMS FAMILY”)? I see my family somewhere between them all with a bit of CLIFF AND CLAIRE HUXTABLE (“THE COSBY SHOW”)mixed in.

There is never a dull moment in our home. I feel like I’m always the one  giving the chit chats. “Sit down, Do your work, Stop that!”  Yesterday I walked in on my husband having a pow wow with our six and four year old son in the bathroom. I didn’t hear everything, but the tiny bits that I did hear, I’ll share them with you. 

I heard him share these life gems with our future gentlemen:ic

  1. Peer pressure is all about insecurity. Be confident in who you are and you won’t have to “fit in.” People will come to you.
  2. Hold open the door, pull out the chair and give her your coat. Chivalry is not sexism. Hold open the door for anyone. Respect is not sexism.
  3. Know your way around power tools. (And my favorite…….)
  4. When picking a wife, you can never do better than your mother.

Of course there was more, but those are the goodies that I caught before having my nose filled with his “fatherly advice.”

 

Till Next time, QC Supermommomlee

 

I found this page it had some awesome tips to share with your male partner-

 

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Clean Up Time

I did a little research, I’m not a helicopter mom or an attached parent.  

The term, “attachment parenting”, was conceived by pediatrician William Sears and his wife Martha, to describe a highly responsive, attentive style of caring for a child. Attachment parenting promotes physical and emotional closeness between parent and child through what the Sears refer to as the “Baby Bs.”

Helicopter parenting describes parents who hover over their children and become too involved in their lives, including interfering in college or career decisions later in life. Take the quiz!

I’ve never really fitted into any one box. EVER! I’ve even found a web page for “Mama Types” on the playground. None of these title work for me. Go figure!  I do know this that we’re all trying to figure this parenting thing out as we go, making mistakes along the way,protecting , loving our children more than life itself and sometimes wanting to strangle them.  In short I’m a MOM and  this is my most important role. If I fail at this, I fail at everything.”

Wiping off titles:

I’m still trying to figure this one out. But I’m totally spiritual. Not Islamic, Buddha,  Judaism, Christian* or any other of those monotheistic religions. (although I love GOD and actively attend and love my Methodist church family, teach children’s church and even assist with putting on service programs, etc )  I do have a relationship with God? My relationship is MINE. MINE, I tell ya. I study the Bible, pray*, attempt to  live according to the teachings of the Bible, give tithes and offerings, and try my best each and every day to be a good example of a follower of Jesus Christ. I selflessly give myself to the work of the ministry.As a mom, it’s important to me to teach and model in a way that says  there is a greater power and that power is the source of every and all things.

A chicken’s prayer doesn’t affect a hawk.

As a mother and  professional you learn to protect. Protect what you say, do, eat, think -consume. REMEMBER THAT MOMS! Always think twice and react once.

One does not use a sword to kill a snail.

The point to all of this sharing is simple. I’m just Kelle. What I shared last week was true Kelle. It’s something that I would have (and did) share with my 12,13 & 14 year old daughters. (maybe not so much with my mom or pastor-out of respect of course,may  God continue to rest their souls) I felt that the 31+ year old woman that I allowed in my home, pot, circle and heart betrayed me by sleeping with my son. I felt that it was very undignified and used by blog as a platform to express myself. Which wasn’t the best route. It was the most read post I ever had……I see why there are talk shows in long running, but it wasn’t the best platform for my ever inspiring, product reviewing, mom inspiring,community building  business space.

I’ve learned over the years to express myself, to be honest, not to be afraid of rejection – the perfect people will always stick around.

You can’t do it alone, you need a team. Find the best people and let go of the rest!

Thanks to my FRIEND Shannon and Sista’  Tip for SPEAKING from a place of courage and wisdom. I couldnt believe the gall of that “woman”. Through all of my thunderstorm and flashes, they were the voices of calm, saying “Kelle- think about your wonderful brand!”  I hope that I didn’t shock anyone to the point that you couldn’t relate and ran the other way. I enjoy sharing my lessons in motherhood and this too will be added to my list of stories to laugh about when he is married with kids.

Looking forward to more incredible times of sharing,encouragement  and growth- Thanks For Joining Me!

“This is my most important role. If I fail at this, I fail at everything.”