The Dash of Life : Inside The Temple Of Queens

There is a poem called “The DASH”. It really puts life into perspective. As a non denominational officiant, I like to use it to help loved ones wrap their minds around the loss of a loved one. And it usually works by helping them realize that everyone has a beginning and ending. Those particular dates can’t be changed or altered. But what really matters and can be controlled is what happens between those two dates. That is our DASH.

“Big K” Mr. Kelly Pressley Jr. – My 1st love. My daddy.

This year (2020), on the 17th of January, I lost Kelly Pressley Jr., my dad. When I sit and think for too long, I compare myself to an orphan; but an adult orphan. (I know it makes no sense, but it’s my truth ya’ll) THEN I snap out of it. How selfish am I to even entertain that thought. I had him for 44 good years. He poured into me every single day. He gave all. I gave all. We withheld nothing as father and daughter. My selfish tears were for the fact that my sons would miss out on all the great moments I had with him. My husband, nor his dad is anything like my daddy. I didn’t just get his huge hand, or his name. or wide jaw bone. I also got his strength. My dad is the strongest man I know. He had numerous medical setbacks since 2016, but came back each time fighting harder! Never complaining – ever! Hating to ask for help, he created clever ways of doing his new normal.

When I say that I want my sons to also have that much strength, loyalty, and commitment to family- I mean it. My dad set a great standard. He left us a great ‘Dash’ to follow.

Why else would my oldest son go through so much just to view his body?

Speaking of that strength, on 01, 12, 20 the Sunday after his death, I was honored to eulogize a memorial of a friends- friend. It was very nice. The lady was such an amazing woman. After speaking to her best friend and daughter, I felt like I missed out on my my best friend! She lived an amazing full life! She withheld nothing from her mom, daughter, friends, or self. Her “DASH” was beautiful!

(Yeah, I’ve been a minister of the Temple Of Queens for a few years now. I absolutely LOVE serving!)

Wednesday Wow: Getting Married In N.C.

Getting married in North Carolina? It can be something aggravating. I know first hand. My sisters are still calling me Bridezilla’. As a non-denominational wedding officiant, I wanted to remain relative`, so I asked a few friends what has the hardest part of getting married and each of them responded pretty much the same, “finding a non-denominational wedding officiant”. Turns out, not everyone wants to get married in a church. I didn’t. The other top issues centered around selecting an affordable and compatible officiant. I can help with that.

What should be included:
  • Many officiants include a get-to-know-you meeting with the couple, followed by two or three planning sessions. Most officiants provide several options for ceremony wording and structure, as well as a choice of readings. On the wedding day, the officiant arrives early, has the witnesses sign the marriage license, and performs the ceremony. Afterward, the officiant mails the marriage license to the county so it can be officially recorded, and mails a copy to the couple.

Why does it cost so much for 20 – 30 minutes of work?
It is completely understandable for couples and their guests to assume officiants earn an unusually high amount of money for simply prompting the couple through their vows and pronouncing them husband and wife, but that is only part of the story the most visible part.

Competent officiants invest time before the wedding gathering the pieces together and ensuring the desired flow of the ceremony is there. Time may be spent helping the couple customize vows, decide between a unity candle or a sand ceremony, and/or writing the opening words, a blessing. Ceremony composition is far more time-consuming than the joyful occasion itself.

Officiants are often present well before the service to calm nerves or confer with a wedding consultant, the photographer, and other wedding vendors. We are usually asked to stay for a portrait after….sometimes waiting for a long receiving line to conclude or family portraits to be taken first.
Officiants in North Carolina are also responsible for ensuring accurate completion of the marriage license and submitting it to the appropriate county clerk recorders office and there are travel and/or postage expenses associated with this responsibility.Wedding officiating is a business with accompanying expenses. Officiants must advertise, maintain home offices, have internet access, make long-distance phone calls and travel to the ceremony among other costs.
Your officiant is a professional every bit as much as your caterer and your photographer.

I would love to share Jabela: Non-denominational marriage officiant and life celebrant with you. I have been marrying couples since 2007! See more about her here—> CLICK HERE! Here’s the Facebook page: CLICK HERE!

Here’s more information:

On-Line Marriage Application Form
On-Line Marriage Application Form Only valid for 10 Days.

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