Play pretty! Stop that! Is that your sippy cup or mine? I said SHARE IT! Hush now, Wait a minute, I’m coming! …….. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.I say it all!
One of the most powerful assets a mom can have is her playgroup. The power in playgroups lies in their ability to make friendships and provide support for it’s members. But finding one can be the most important thing you choose besides your mate. It’s got to work for you both (all).
When you find one attend more than one play date before deciding if the group will work out for you, as the saying goes you can’t judge a book by its cover. This applies to playgroups as well, each event will have different people participating so you may find people you click with the second or third time around.
1. Bring something to the table. Some play group do a lot of education based events. Offer to help. No one wants to do all of the work alone. Don’t be known as that mom that never shows up or never helps out. If you are to nervous to really make conversation with some of the others don’t let that deter you from participating.
Use this time out of corporate work for you. Use your pre-mom skills In the group. Find ways to bring value that will look great on your resume when/if you return back to work.
2. Think like a mom. Act like a woman. Most moms lead with emotion. All moms should respond with maturity. If you can’t control your emotions, it is unfair and unreasonable to expect your child to control his. It’s important to know that at some point,your baby will cross paths with another lil one. You should be able to know when to intervene or to sit back and watch it dissolve. Yes, I know it’s harder than it sounds when someone pushes, your little one in anger.
3. Know what to expect. There are a plethora of playgroups. Some are support groups. You just have to be certain of what you need for you and your little one. You may like a highly structured group or a very open group. Does the age of the other kids in the group really matter? Many groups meet up so during the week, that the need of a licensed pre-school is not useful. (Ponder these option too!)
4. Leave with class. Like my uncle used to say,”Every road has a stop sign.” Every play group organizer knows this. As a matter of fact,unless they become a baby making machine for the next 18-50 years, they won’t want to be in the group either. When you are ready to move on, do it with class. Don’t leave her and the group without a trace.
Here’s how to leave- I didn’t know there were so many ways of saying goodbye, but I found a few good ones. THE MESSENGER ROUTE, THE SLOW WITHDRAWAL ROUTE,THE DIRECT ROUTE,THE EXPLANATION all of which is on American baby. Here‘s an actual statement from American Baby: “You guys have been such a great source of support, but I’m finding it’s getting harder and harder to make meetings. I’m sure our paths will cross at birthday parties and preschool!”
Well, I hope none of my moms are reading this with intentions to leave, but if she is,more power to her. I’d wish her the best. Till the nest play group, have fun!