Wednesday Wow: Please Don’t Go! Transitioning to Preschool

These are not my original suggestions. My kids were happy to get a break from me,So they ran in the classroom the first day of school.Funny, sad, but true. after reading one of my dear friends New  school year woes, I got to chatting with other blogger moms and they shared these tips and ideas with me. I hope it helps you.(if it does share it with another nervous mom)

How can parents help soothe their children’s separation anxiety?leadership

Assess whether the preschool you’ve chosen is working for their child?
The first thing is to gauge whether the teachers understand that they’re not just there to support the child, but also the parent. Do they let parents stay in the classroom for the first several days, to help the child make the adjustment? How forthcoming are they about reporting both the ups and downs of the day? Again, you would expect a child to resist going for the first several days, maybe for the first week or two. See what she’s doing. If she’s on the teacher’s lap reading a story, or conversing and playing interactively with another child, or busily playing with something side by side with a child who’s playing with something else — those are all good signs. If she is wandering around aimlessly or sitting in a corner looking sad and not being attended to, those are obviously not good signs.

Come up with a good bye ritual  If this is the first time your child will be away from you, he may worry that you’re not coming back, or that you’ll get lost and won’t be able to find your way back to the school to pick him up at the end of the day.

Preschool teachers are often fabulous at nurturing independence, cooperation, patience, and self-control in young kids. Why? They've developed an arsenal of tactics for dealing with kids of every possible personality. And they don't get bogged down by mommy guilt.

Preschool teachers are often fabulous at nurturing independence, cooperation, patience, and self-control in young kids. Why? They’ve developed an arsenal of tactics for dealing with kids of every possible personality. And they don’t get bogged down by mommy guilt.

Invent a special parting ritual — such as a high-five, or saying something like, “I’ll be back to get you soon, long before we see the moon” — that you do each time you drop him off.

During the first few days, allow extra time to get him ready and out the door in the morning, too. The more calm things are at home, the easier the separation will be.

Remind your child that he is an expert at mastering new places Say something like, “Remember how afraid you were of the zoo? Now you love it!”

Separation Anxiety Pocket Hearts: Young children often have trouble separating from their caregivers. It sometimes helps for them to carry small transitional  gifts.

Separation Anxiety Pocket Hearts: Young children often have trouble separating from their caregivers. It sometimes helps for them to carry small transitional gifts.

No Turning Back. If your child starts to cry when you drop him off at preschool, resist the urge to swoop in and rescue him. This won’t help; it will only make separating more difficult. Leaving your child in a classroom while he’s kicking and screaming isn’t easy. But “Going back will only encourage the outbursts to continue and possibly cause your child to lose confidence in his ability to stay in preschool without you” says preschool program director Angela B.

Most of all, shake, shake, shake off the guilt.  Make a point of saying good-bye. Don’t drag it out or let on that you might be upset, too. Just do it matter-of-factly and confidently and he’ll learn to do the same.

Your child will stop crying a lot sooner than you think.

They, you, we, all of us, will be fine.

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To better days,

QC Supermom

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