“Yabba Dabba Doo” Family Valentine’s Day Party

Hello friends, I hope all is well. I know you’re about to be really busy the next couple of hours getting ready for and then getting over Valentine’s Day. Well not to hold you up, I wanted to remind you about the fourth Valentine’s celebration with your tiniest heart, the kids!

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The 4th Family  Valentine’s Day Party is THIS Saturday from 2-6pm at Pure Pizza on Central Avenue.

It’s going to be on and popping! So if you appreciate diversity, safe, affordable, healthy, and signature fun kid-friendly celebrations, this is for you!

 

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In 2014 it was Disney, in 2015- Doc McStuffins,  The Minions in 2016, and now it’s the Flinstones! Each year, we get better and attract better sponsors. The only thing that never changes is the format. We select a fun theme. One that will take the parents on a mental vacation. We then combine a vegan dessert bar, live entertainment, a DJ, a $20 shopping lane (consisting of mom & pops small business owners), and really fun games and decor! It works like magic! This year is no different! You just gotta come out and join us this year!

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This year, our sponsors are Signature Events Bags, Your Carolina CPA,  and Cassie’s Sweetz. Our fun times will be captured by Raphael from Flawless Capture Photography, the beat popping left and right by Ms. DJ-Boogie and our entertainment will be shared by Joyce Rosenblum, Health Coach & Natural Foods Chef of Natural Foods Academy

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Coming? Following? Sharing? Please use hashtag –> #QCFamilyVDayParty

Buy your family tickets on Eventbrite! Here’s the link!

 

Win a family four pack THIS WEDNESDAY at QCSupermom FACEBOOK

Be sure to like us if you haven’t already. You can also check out our Pinterest board for ideas of making your own costume! CLICK HERE!

Want to color? Here are some theme coloring pages.  CLICK HERE! 

Shucks, just click all the links I just shared. It will take you to some wonderful information!

Happy Valentine’s Day! See you there!

Jabela

 

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Scholarships for College Kids

Don’t wait. Apply for these great scholarships today! There are scholarships there that are still open! There are thousands of scholarships out there. Some are large scholarships that are well publicized, while others are lesser known.

Here are 27 scholarships for Saturday, December 3, 2016.

Jay Kennedy Memorial Scholarship
Sponsor: The National Cartoonists Society Foundation
Amount: $5,000
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to students at a four-year college in the United States, Canada or Mexico who will be a Junior or Senior during the 2016-2017 academic year. Applicants do not have to be art majors to be eligible for this scholarship. Applicant must submit an entry form and eight samples of their own cartooning artwork.

Lance Surety’s College Scholarship
Sponsor: Lance Surety Bonds Associates
Amount: $1,500
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to undergraduate and graduate students enrolled at an accredited university, college or trade school in the U.S. Applicant must submit an essay on one of three given topics related business or surety bonds.

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Larry E. Sitzman Youth in Nebraska Agriculture Scholarship
Sponsor: Nebraska Pork Producers Association
Amount: $1,000
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to students currently enrolled as a full-time undergraduate or graduate student at a fully accredited college, university or technical college in an agriculture related degree program in Nebraska.

Law Office of Joseph J. LoRusso Scholarship
Sponsor: Law Office of Joseph J. LoRusso
Amount: $1,000
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to students who are planning on attending an accredited U.S. college or university during the spring 2017 semester. Applicant must submit an essay on a topic related to car accidents.

Lead Roster Scholarship
Sponsor: American Marketing Ventures, Inc.
Amount: $1,000
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to high school and college students worldwide who have an interest in sales and marketing. Studying in the fields of Business, Marketing, Computer Science, Communications, or IT are recommended but not required. Applicant must create a video sharing why they should win the scholarship.

Legal Templates Annual Scholarship
Sponsor: LegalTemplates
Amount: $1,000
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to students who will be enrolled in college during the Spring 2017 term. Applicant must create a business plan executive summary that is original, creative, unique, and persuasive.

Los Angeles DUI Attorney Diabetes Scholarship
Sponsor: Los Angeles DUI Attorney
Amount: $1,000
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to incoming and current undergraduate and graduate students who have been diagnosed with diabetes.

MoldNJ.net Scholarship
Sponsor: Mold Removal Experts
Amount: $750
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to U.S. citizens and permanent residents who are accepted or enrolled in a university, college, or graduate program in the United States with at least a 3.0 GPA. Applicant must submit an essay on a given topic related to preparing for a natural disaster.

MyCDLapp.com Scholarship
Sponsor: MyCDLApp.com
Amount: Up to $2,500
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to current undergraduate and graduate students pursuing a degree in Human Resources or Business Management at an accredited college or university in the United States.

National Ag Day Photo Contest
Sponsor: Agriculture Council of America
Amount: $1,000
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Contest is open to students in college in the United States. Student must submit an original photo on the contest theme: “Agriculture Food For Life.”

 

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You began surviving the movement you realised you didn’t have to be a victim”
-Miranda Burton

New Orleans Ghosts Scholarship
Sponsor: New Orleans Ghost Tours
Amount: $250
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to any student enrolled in an accredited college. Applicant must submit an essay sharing information about their educational goals and why they deserve the scholarship

Nutrition Inspector Scholarship
Sponsor: Nutrition Inspector
Amount: $1,000
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to college students currently enrolled in courses related to diet, fitness, and nutrition.

One Shot Scholarship
Sponsor: One Shot Outdoors, LLC
Amount: $500
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to high school seniors and current college students. Applicant must submit completed application and an essay describing their dream, goal, or passion.

(When you get all of that money, why not invest a little on your wardrobe? Lula Roe’s fabric is the bomb! It’s so comy! I got me three of them. I love the fact that no one else will have pants like mine) Please use the link below to chick out this moms business page.

 

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ORB Annual College Scholarship
Sponsor: Online Resume Builders
Amount: $1,000
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to domestic and international students enrolled, or due to be enrolled, in full-time university education for the semester they are receiving the scholarship (Spring 2017). Applicant must create a resume for anyone.

Prime Scholarship
Sponsor: Prime Medical Alert
Amount: $1,000
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to students working towards a two-year or four-year Nursing degree.

Prompt Scholarship Essay Contest
Sponsor: Prompt.com
Amount: Up to $10,000
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to students 16 years of age or older who are currently applying for an undergraduate degree at an accredited institution within the United States or Canada in 2017 (or 2018 if taking a gap year). Applicant can use any essay they have written as part of a college application. Scholarship is open every month until December 15. Each monthly winner will then have a chance for a $10,000 scholarship.


Damsel In Defense
Make sure your child (ren) are protected on campusmi

Judy Harris
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PHONE: (828)247-6375
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QuikshipToner.com Student Scholarship
Sponsor: QuikshipToner.com
Amount: $1,500
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to undergraduate and graduate students who attend an American college, university or trade school. Applicant must submit an essay on a given topic related to the printing industry.

Rare Disease Scholarship Program
Sponsor: XpertDox
Amount: $750
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to current undergraduate and graduate students who have an interest in medical related research (including public health) or patient care (medicine, nursing, pharmacology or nutrition). Applicant must submit an essay on a given topic related to rare diseases.

Resume Genius Annual Scholarship
Sponsor: Resume Genius
Amount: $1,000
Closing Date: December 15, 2016
Description: Scholarship is open to students enrolled, or due to be enrolled, in full-time university education for the semester they are applying for the scholarship. Applicant must create a resume based on the life of any fictional or non-fictional character, from TV, history, literature or myth.

 

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Disney On Ice,”Follow Your Heart” LIVE review (Zianna O., loved the show)

The last time 9 yr old Zianna was downtown, she was speaking to a room full of people.  She  didn’t intend to make them all cry, but sometimes the truth hurts, but must be spoken. So she did it. Her words transcended through their hearts . Her message was shared internationally. Yes, this little girl had adults checking themselves for racial injustice.

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First thing came to my mind is, “Who are her parents? ” I wanted to hug them. (Really tight.)  Everyone doesn’t take parenting seriously. It was clear that her parents did. I knew that as a mom,  when your child hurts, you hurt. The last thing you want is to have an emotionally scarred child for life.  As adults, we know that every high and low molds us into who we are, for better or for worse. This is most true of when we are young and our brain is rapidly developing. The power of everything from an unheard cry to an unmarked facial expression can have a heavy impact on a child’s evolving psyche.zoz-bmp

Charlotte has a long way to go, but Zianna’s childhood must be protected and thank goodness, over half of Charlotte agrees with that! Including the numerous news stations that have interviewed her and  especially the amazing staff of Time Warner Cable Arena.

So guess what, for 90 minutes, Zianna her brother, mom, and stepdad attended the Disney On Ice, “Follow Your Heart” Live show. Little Zianna was laughing, dancing, moderating the story lines and just being a child. It was indeed what she and her family needed.  Big thanks to Feld Entertainment, Time Warner Cable and her parents for making this happen.

 

To my girl,

I will let you be children. For as long as I can, I will let you be children. I will protect your childhood fiercely. I won’t pressure you to do things you are not ready for. I will let you play, for hours I will let you play. I will let you discover yourselves. I will let you really know yourselves before you are pushed out into the big wide world on your own. I will let you imagine, and dream, and laugh, whenever you want to. I won’t ever wish this magical time away. All too soon you will be all grown up. You will worry about grown up things. But not now. For now you are a child, your job is to play, and that is important to me.

I will protect your childhood.

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The show will be here until the 2nd of October. Regardless of what you feel about the police and Black Lives Movement, remember to protect your child.  Go see Disney On Ice Live “Follow Your Heart” before they leave town. It is absolutely the best thing you can do for your child (ren)

(Buy Your Tickets Here!)

2016-17 Graduation- Family Milestone

I am floating on cloud nine right about now!  By many accounts, I should not be where I am. I should not be married. I shouldn’t have smart children, nor should they be graduating, especially from college! BUT GOD!

This year, I have been honored to have not one, but 4 graduates to celebrate. My husband, my oldest son, and two of my daughters. It was not planned or budgeted. But think goodness for the life style we have. Because of that reason alone we are gonna celebrate in the most grand way possible. After all, how often do you get 4 graduates in one year?

 

My graduates- Raj- Husband- Army Veteran, Central Piedmont Community College/CPCC –  Elementary Education majorIMG_5125-001

My oldest son- Jervon jervon                 Basketball MVP, Hampton University, Hampton VA.  B.S. Liberal Arts

Below is a clip from one of his recent games at Hampton University. Watch here!

 

My 2nd oldest daughter- JC        Working Teen, Hemingway High, College bound- She hasn’t decided what she wants to do as of yet. jcp

My 3rd oldest daughter- DeeDua , teenpernuer,  Providence High School Trade School Paralegal Studies dee

 

I’m so proud of each of them. Each of them were born with obstacles to overcome. From being the child of a single mom to starting life on this side some 4 months early. As they say the tassel was worth the hassle. They made it! Who else is celebrating a graduate? The video below is of a Momsrising friend of mine. She was sharing some motivational tips for my daughter DeeDua. Listen in!

I am so proud of each of my scholars. I know they are prepared for whatever life throws at them. My hope is that the younger one will follow their path and not mine as it relates to student loans. Going to college for free is a blessing. My husband education was sponsored by the Veteran administration. My son attended all four years under a athletic scholarship. My daughters had to search and apply for hundreds of grants and scholarships. The money is out there. You can get some too!

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Friday Four: What NOT To Do To A Teen Mom

The memories! The moment I learned that I was pregnant, I wanted to find the largest container of orange juice and just die under a rock. From the time my little guy was born, I always felt that I had something to prove to him, our supporters,our small town, other teen moms, and myself.

100 Things You Should Never Say to a Teen Mom

Just In Case you cross this bridge, here’s 4 Things You Should Really NOT Do To a Teen Mom:

  1. Shame or Degrade her- This is number one for a reason. OMG! You have no clue how much damage this causes. When your own flesh and blood teases you, make you the family calamity, and under dog. Even worse when the fathers family and her community dishonors her. You are asking for a mess. A broken, lonely, lost mess. It’s like saying “You’ve passed the point of no return.” She may believe it. Speak blessings into her life.
  2. Discourage her- This birth has effected her life as well. Work with her. If you discover an opportunity for her, tell her about it. Babysit while she goes to school, work or appointments. Offer to do the child’s hair, help with a birthday party. Mentor and support her into a mom the baby can be proud of.
  3. Disown the unborn- Most times it’s the fathers family that snarls at a unplanned teenage pregnancy. For some reason, his family thinks the girl wants the family treasures. Well, guess what, sometimes it’s true. At this point. So what? You have the opportunity to  groom another family member to be a part of your family goals. That baby maybe the missing piece of your family vision toward greatness. Don’t kill your blessing. That’s what DNA testing is for.
  4. Expect her to forgive you after you’ve done ALL of the above.-  Something can’t be healed once destroyed. Words do hurt. Somethings you should just keep to yourself if it’s not going to help the situation. That mom may not bring it up, but she will remember. You can not get out what you don’t put in. This includes love, respect, and acknowledgement.

 

 

“Teen parents want to be acknowledged as contributing members of society, not as society’s ailment. Not only are we leaders, activists, business owners, educators and so much more, but we are also raising intelligent and curious children who go on to do great things!”
– Mariely Moronta-Santos, 27, a mom of three who lives in Brooklyn, New York, and became a mother at 16

“I wish society would look at us as mothers.”
– Caitlin Shay, 26, mother of two who lives in Apopka, Florida, and became a mother at 17

I have five more to go before I can claim a total win,but so far so good. It has not been easy. But Oh My, it’s been worth every one of the obstacles and setbacks.

Success IS Indeed the greatest revenge. It is true. I would put my neck on a chopping block to swear by it. As I sit back and think of the upcoming month, I can’t help but smile and try to contain my extreme excitement.  I know it’s nothing but grace and mercy, but My God, the favor that is upon me right now is what I’ve been waiting on. I have FOUR graduates busting caps and gowns this year!  Two of my daughters, my oldest son and my husband.  Can you believe that?

This teen mom, single mom, mother of nine, once displaced*, gal from South Carolina, has 8 remaining- healthy children and every last one of them are thriving! Being a teen mom is not the worst thing to happen. When it happens encourage her to accept the call of motherhood and be the best she can possibly be. That way everyone wins.

I’m so grateful for my parents. I KNOW that I disappointed them. I KNOW that they too were catching slack because of their baby girl getting pregnant as a teen. I know my sisters were tried after the town knew that I was giving up ‘my cookies’. I am sorry everyone. I hope my recent accomplishments say thank, I’m proud of. You’ve done a great job by the children, So glad you didn’t let us down. Because of you I am a doula, wedding officiant, homeschooler, brander ambassador, mom coach, Queen City Stay At Home Moms organizer, social activist, and wife.

Happy Friday,

Kelle

Benefits for Teen Mothers

The best way to help teen moms: treating pregnancy as more than a medical event

When Food,Clothing, and Shelter Isn’t Enough

Big ups for the parents that provide clothes, food, and shelter for their child (ren)!

It’s not always easy, yet you have shown commitment, honor and determination to your family. THANK YOU! But are you preparing them for life after high school? Do you know what your child may be interested in?  What might she/he study as an profession?

As a parent, you have the ability to help your children develop critical, advantageous skills for a lifetime!

Here’s the scene~ The family is sitting around the house. Dinner has been served and laundry is done. The children are playing outside. This happens day in and day out for many days. Nothing more nothing less. Child eventually graduates from high school.The family tell child to leave and be happy.

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What Else Do YOU Need?

Parent: Sweetie, I’m so proud of you. Graduation is coming  up really soon. What will you do?

Child: I know. I haven’t given it much thought. I don’t know what I want to do. What do you think I should do? I haven’t seen anything I ever wanted to do.Maybe I could model,  rap, or something?  I do get lots of hits online.

Parent: Hmm, nope! I’m so sorry. I guess I haven’t  exposed you to many options and opportunities.

So what do kids need outside of the basic, food , clothing and shelter? Opportunities! Like this one….. Charlotte Youth Broadcasting  If you don’t  expose your child to different professions, skills, -positive experiences,  there is no way they will know what they like and dislike. Resulting in them taking longer to satisfy  their need for self sufficiency/self-actualization.

I’m gonna do you a favor and share with you what other families are saying about Charlotte Youth Broadcasting:

My  son Jordan has been to many camps and after a day or two, that was just another camp. Not the case after attending CYBC!! The CYB Camp allowed him to have a hands on experience at WBTV and WCCB. The video clips, photographs and the techniques that were used to enable him to be confident in front of a camera are priceless!

                    Watch This Video From Charlotte Youth Broadcasting Click Here!

Jordan was able to go behind the scenes with the real folks, sit through a live taping of a 12 noon news at WBTV and walk their own RED CARPET, yes I said RED CARPET!!! Ms. Antriece made all of this and much more possible at this week long camp. Please sign up your kids to attend the Charlotte Youth Broadcasting Camp, it will change and spark a new fire in your child’s life!!! It did for my Jordan!”

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 Our Camp encourages campers ages 10-12 and ages 13-17 how to work with each other combining diversity, using broadcast media, technology, and engaging them with others in an increasingly broadcasting world. They will learn the basic media tools in a fun collaborative environment which provides our youth with the skills to utilize the media technologies in a positive and productive way. This camp is a great way to break the fear of public speaking and will teach campers how to articulate.

 Camp Cost: $300.00 per week w/Lunch & 2 snacks 

Deposit $60.00 (non-refundable) to hold camper(s) weekly space. Remaining balance paid prior to or on the 1st day of camp, or pay the amount in full to hold camper(s) space.

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5 Crucial Life Skills to Teach Your Children for Success

Life skills for little ones.

How to be a successful parent: 59 most important life skills we teach our children

Wednesday WOW: NC Sheroes; “Moving Forward”

Sometimes Sheroes are right in our back yard!  They are the ones that get up everyday, no matter what’s going on at home, in their mind, or in their account and make it happen. No excuses , no delays- they are unselfishly walking in their calling and impressing the world one day, move, and thought at a time.

You may or may not  know their names, or ever spoken to them, but you’ve seen them or results of their incredible work. They are “Sheroes; Moving Forward!”

 

 

 

On April 2nd, at 11″30 am, We will honor our sheroes by resting their capes and revealing why they are so bold, brave and unstoppable!

 

In honor of Women’s History Month, the Charlotte Mecklenburg Public Library presents NC SHEROES  “Moving Forward!”

 

THIS IS OUR 2nd year celebrating with MomsRising NC  and my moms group Queen City Stay At Home Moms.

 

We will honor 6 amazing women, who have made significant contributions to the Women’s movement right here in North Carolina.

After an introduction, we will award each Shero. Then go into a Round-table. Come prepared to find out why women matter and should be empowered to have a voice! Bring a child with you. It’s lessons like these that stick with them!

 

Here is our impressive line up!

Tawanna Ross- Award wining Gospel Hip Hop artist

Asha Sims- Gentle Yoga instructor

Melody Gross- Doula

 Nadine Ford – Farmer/gardener

Cassie Pressley- Teen Vegan Baker

Tina B. – Social activist

Special Guest TBA later.

Sweet Right?!  We’ll see you there! This ceremony is complete with  refreshments! So don’t worry about stopping for breakfast. And …Yes bring the kids, we’ll have a station for them to entertain themselves need be.

April 2,2016

11:30 Am

Beatties Ford Public Library, Charlotte NC

All are welcomed and encourage to attend. Free Parking, Refreshments and Admission

RSVP Here or Here! 

 

This is from last year. More videos are on YouTube. (go on and click it, it’ll show)

College Weekend In The QC With My Teens!

I graduated from Johnson and Wales University with two degrees. It was a fun wild and time to put it mildly. Some 20 years later, if  I knew then, what I know now, I may have attended a Vocation/Trade school. For some reason, I grew up thinking it was an automatic decision.

It would have saved me time and loads of money. BUT then I wouldn’t be QC Supermom right? No looking back! But what I CAN do is ensure I prepare a spread of options before my children, and encourage them to find their own path.  With that in mind, we are now prepping 3 daughters for life after high school .

Over the weekend, I took two of my daughters to two separate fairs this weekend. Both were extremely informative!

So much so that it got me thinking about going back to school to enhance what I’m doing now in my birthing services. But that’s another story for another day.

The Fast Track hosted Saturday ‘s Trade School Fair.  We met LaTanya Gray from Brightwood College. (I LOVE HER!)  It was reassuring to have the kids hear what I’ve always tell them. Listen in…..

 

I was really impressed with the quality of schools there. Who knew that AVEDA  offered such a holistic menu of services. Did You Know that with their program you can become a licensed cosmetologist and Esthiology at the same time?

 

I also learned that Job Corp isn’t what I thought it was. It has changed A LOT since the 90’s. No more do they pay students when they go home for the Christmas holiday.  I also found out that they do not go after “trouble youth” anymore. But they can refer you to an agency that does. Note: They are still FREE!

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The other companies in attendance was:

  • The Charlotte Star Room
  • ITT Technical Institute
  • Central Piedmont Community College -Kawan Bilal told us about the 3D printers making salads and ears! No joke! (STEM Programs)
  • ECPI University
  • Paul Mitchel
  • The Iron Yard
  • The Arts Institute
  • and Carolina School Of Broad Casting

On Saturday, the International College Fair was like entering a new world. I NEVER considered attending college aboard! Spain, Brazil, Switzerland, China, the U.K, Paris; Oh my! I was impressed. Many of the schools that were inside the U.S. offered internships aboard to help broaden their horizons.

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Sweet Briar College is an All- Female college

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What I figured out is that Trade School are for those that knows EXACTLY what they want to do. for a career. They teach you a trade. The focus is on preparing students to enter the workforce  upon completion of the course. A good trade school would balance conceptual and practical knowledge. One of the obvious advantages of vocational education is that it’s relatively quick: usually students complete their studies in just one or two years instead of four.

The average trade school in the U.S costs $33,000,

Traditional colleges are for those who are aren’t quite sure yet. If you have an academic bent of mind, you’re better off in a traditional college.  By design you get more classes that tends to funnel your interests into one  or maybe two concentrations.Oh and the Greek Life! Sororities and fraternities are great places to meet like-minded people and forge life-long friendships.(Something else that I didn’t do)

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TorShonda Howard from Warner University. She is ONE Resourceful Woman! 

The average bachelor’s degree in the United States costs $127,000.

Get More Technical here with hybrid-education

Trade School Maybe Better For You If…….

 RoseDale reported that the trade school scholar salary isn’t that much of a drop-off compared to a four year degree.(that statement is very vague if you ask me)  In short, explore all options and make it’s the best fit for you! The worst feeling is to question your decisions years later and be buried in student education loans.Is trade school the best or traditional college way to go is  in part, on the student’s ultimate educational and career goals.

Happy college trails my friends,

QC Supermom

Friday Four: Finding Chastity

Ok, yes, I know it may be strange for a teen mom like myself to bring up chastity, but YES…. I am. I mean, think about it. Who better? I think I scared my husband so much that when he found out we were having daughters, the first thing came out of his mouth was”I want to get my girls to wear chastity belts!” True story.    It was the first time I have ever heard about chastity belts, but as time past, it was shout out time after time at very interesting times ranging from self preservation to political statements.

 

Believe it or not, there was an Italian woman forced to ask firefighters to liberate her from a chastity belt because she lost the key to the contraption. The woman, who has not been named due to privacy reasons, reportedly wore the belt of her own volition to stop herself from having sexual relations. Chastity belts were long thought to have been inflicted on medieval wives in order to prevent them from having affairs, but historians now believe that they are the stuff of myth; most references to chastity belts in medieval literature are satirical. Our anonymous Italian friend, it seems, did not get the memo. If only she had guarded the key to her iron panties with the same sort of fervor that she dedicated to protecting her loins. NY TIMES

“I tried to push her away, but she wouldn’t stop until she was finished. When she was, she said, “You better not say shit to no one or else you gonna get a terrible whupping.” R. Kelly via The Black Voices

4 Ways to ENCOURAGE chastity to teens:

  1. Protect what your child is exposed.  Give the talk, but walk the walk. Our children can more easily recognize the distinction between right and wrong when we are consistent models of right behavior in all matters. So know that there are some magazines, t.v. shows. and conversations you may need to keep out their reach.

“I tried to push her away, but she wouldn’t stop until she was finished. When she was, she said, “You better not say shit to no one or else you gonna get a terrible whupping.” R. Kelly via The Black Voices

2. Be mindful of who your child is exposed to. Having the right influence around your children is detrimental. My husband and I never let our children out of our sight until they were old enough to articulate what went on around them and understood that their body was private. Our ideal influence are positive, loving (but not too loving*) respectful and non over sexually seductive -dressed person, media, t.v. programs and music..

When my niece was young, like 12,  she made it very clear that not only did she know her daughter had a boyfriend she also said that she did care.  She though because her daughter minion family partydidn’t go anywhere with the boy, that meant there was no concern for that relationship. Well guess what happened less than 3 years later? Yes, she got pregnant. While I didn’t rub it in her face or reminded  her that girls don’t go from pumps to flops. Sex was bound to happen. I thanked God that I never questioned my rules toward my daughters on having boyfriends at a young age.

3. If you haven’t already, build trust. That leads to many opportunities for discussion  and  influence on the subject. We parents have so much more power than we give our-self credit for.

4.Last but not least. Get your child involved in worthwhile activities, like music, sports, drama, and hobbies that develop talents.

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I never share pictures of gifts, but I had to share this one. Kaylah’s Sweet 16 gift arrived. Kudos to my Dad, the first man to place a ring on his granddaughter’s hand, he has definitely set the bar. Love him infinity. He said “who’s her Grandpa”!!

More great tips on teen chastity

eHere – yes, just click that 🙂

Alright ladies, keep it locked down.

Jabela!

Friday Four: Home school, Charter, High and Private

This year we got two of our children accepted for an Opportunity Educational grant. The Opportunity Scholarship Program expands school choice in North Carolina through scholarship grants for eligible children in kindergarten through 12th

 

It wasn’t hard at all to get it. All I did was apply. It took less than a hour and I did it for five of my children.

Our children have been to public school, charter schools, regular high schools in low income zones and now high school in high income zone.  Let me be  the first to tell you , there is MESS in all of them if you skip a beat.

Our oldest daughter was attending Kennedy Charter last year. They put so many electives in her day. They kept promising to fix it the following semester and it never happened. Because they were easy classes, my daughter got comfortable with them too so of course she wouldn’t say anything.  As we began the process to transfer her to her current high school, instead of her being a senior, she a junior.

Now at the high income high school, ( for reading pleasure, let’s say Providence High) the counselor there won’t return phone calls to figure out a way to get her out in time. When my daughter discovered at opportunity, she replies that she has never heard of it.   So now she passing the same classes she’s taken already.

As we now prepare ourselves for private school. I am creating a checklist for signals to lookout for. Of course you can never be to sure of anything, but from dealing with a few educational warehouses,  I now can sense when to grab my child and run. Types_of_Schools_Venn_Diagram

Disclosure: I acknowledge that school systems are blessed with many gifted administrators and dedicated teachers, not all educational facilities are created equal. However, here are my four points of caution. Feel free to add yours in the comments.

  1. The large majority of your teachers have less than five years of experience- The best schools have solid veteran teaching forces, mixing in talented newcomers each year as teachers retire or move into administration or other job opportunities. When you run off your veteran teachers, you not only do not have teachers who can mentor the younger staff members and help them reach their full potential, but you also are increasing the odds that you are going to hire some less gifted teachers just to fill the vacancies. That makes it that much harder to understand why so many state legislatures are appropriating millions for inexperienced Teach for America instructors instead of spending that money to keep their best teachers in the classroom.”
  2. Does your child seem fixated on designer labels and trendy clothes for school? This is a symptom of an approach that emphasizes external rather than internal values, causing children to rely on shallower means of comparison and acceptance, rather than deeper values.
  3. The community is not involved in its schools- In many school districts, the community is kept at arm’s length until it is time to pass another bond issue or tax levy increase. Or the community involvement is restricted to a carefully selected group of business and civic leaders or the spouses of those leaders. A successful school district is one in which the involvement is organic and comes from all segments of the community, not just the ones who are needed when it comes time to ask for money. In some school districts, the community is asked for its input and then guided to give the input the administrators are seeking so they can say whatever initiative they have has the support of the community. That is not community involvement; that is pure spin
  4. Your child suffers a staggering drop in self-confidence. “Your child may begin to call himself ‘dumb’ or ‘stupid’ or is overly anxious about homework.”This is often a sign that the teaching style your child is meeting in the classroom is in direct conflict with what he or she requires to learn. Conversely, if your child is not being challenged, you may notice that he or she has started to act out in the classroom or regularly complains about being bored at school.”

More on Schooling:

Types of schooling

8 Signs Of A Bad School

The top-five reasons to avoid a high school

Wish us luck!

Jabela