Wednesday Wow-Common Law Sorta Marriage

If you have been living with your boyfriend for at least 7 ears, you just maybe married. Yes. Girl-Married. My boyfriend swore up and down we were married. And no matter how much I insisted that we weren’t he refused to believe me. Which makes me wonder if his parents are actually married, and at ease at the fact that I I was present at the courthouse when we went to apply for our marriage license. Seems as thought the common Law route is a family norm for them, but that’s a conversation for another day.

Are you shacking, co habitating and wondering if you are considered married?  This post will help!

The jurisdictions which still permit common-law marriages are the states of Alabama,Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, New Hampshire, Rhode Island, South Carolina,Texas, and Utah, and the District of Columbia.  does go a little further by saying that if you live in one of the above states and you “hold yourself out to be married” (by telling the community you are married, calling each other husband and wife, using the same last name, filing joint income tax returns, etc.), you are  the Mrs.! I think I’ll keep my officiating service right here in the beautiful state of NC.

• Alabama. In this state, the parties must agree to be husband and wife, they must have the mental capacity to enter into and understand such an agreement, and they must consummate the marital relationship.

• Colorado. In order for a common law marriage to exist in Colorado, the relationship must be proven by the cohabitation of the common law spouses and their reputation for being married.

• District of Columbia. In the District, a common law marriage is established by the parties’ explicit intent to be married and by their cohabitation.
• Georgia- (if created before 1/1/97)
• Idaho (if created before 1/1/96)
• Iowa. A common law marriage is established in Iowa by the parties’ intent and agreement to be married, their continuous cohabitation, and their public declarations that they are husband and wife.

• Kansas. In Kansas, the man and woman must have the mental capacity to marry, they must agree to be married at the present time, and they must represent to the public that they are married in order for a common law marriage to exist.

• New Hampshire. This state recognizes common law marriages only upon the death of one of the spouses. In other words, common law marriages are recognized in New Hampshire for inheritance purposes only.

• Montana. In Montana, the parties must have the capacity to consent to marriage, they must agree to be married, they must cohabitate, and they must have a reputation of being married.

• Oklahoma. The parties must be competent, agree to enter into a marriage relationship, and cohabitate in order to be considered as having a common law marriage.(for inheritance purposes only)

• Pennsylvania. A common law marriage is established in Pennsylvania by the exchanging of words between a man and a woman indicating an intent to be married at the present time. (if created before 1/1/05)

• Rhode Island. In Rhode Island, a common law marriage exists if a man and woman have a serious intent to be married and engage in conduct that leads to a reasonable belief by others in the community that they are married.

• South Carolina. In this state, if a man and woman intend for others to believe they are married, a common law marriage may be established.

• Texas. If a man and woman in Texas sign a form provided by the county clerk, agree to be married, cohabitate, and represent to others that they are married, a common law marriage exists.

• Utah. Utah does not recognize common law marriage, however courts can retroactively approve the marriage of couples without ceremony if the couple is of age and legally able to consent to marriage, have lived together, treated each other as spouses and hold themselves out as married.

If You Live in a State that Does Not Recognize Common Law Marriage

There is no way to form a common law marriage, no matter how long you live with your partner. There is one catch: if you spend time in a state that does recognize common law marriage, “hold yourself out as married,” and then return or move to a state that doesn’t recognize it, you are still married (since states all recognize marriages that occurred in other states). However, this is murky legal territory and I don’t recommend experimenting with it!

 

Now, If you desire a wedding officiant ,  I know this girl…… she is excellent and is registered in the state of North Carolina to perform really cool weddings for the non denominational, unchurch-ed yet spiritual couple. Check out Jabela, the life celebrant !

The common Law divorce- CLICK HERE !

NOTE:Much of the information on this fact sheet comes from an excellent do-it-yourself legal guide called Living Together: A Legal Guide for Unmarried Couples, by attorneys Toni Ihara, Ralph Warner, and Frederick Hertz (2008).

Friday Four-Finding Childcare Alone

Mainstream childcare is expensive! The good news is that help is out there! You just have to know where to find it. You have to open not only your mouth to ask, but your home to give back as well.

Queen City Stay At Home Moms are open to watching each other children when needed. They work as a team. Every mom in the group understands what each one is going through and the obstacles to finding  suitable work, and affordable yet adequate childcare. They also offer their members  a discounted childcare service rate through The Big Sister.

Not everyone is in Charlotte, but the concept could work ANYWHERE. Here’s what I would do as a parent without local/ willing relatives or other support:

• While out with the kids, observe the other moms. Notice if they would be someone you would want your child around. If so make a connection with them. If your child naturally navigate toward their child encourage them to introduce themselves….make friends. Then dive in on the parent. Go on exchange mommy cards.(Create your own mommy cards here)- please 🙂
• Look for mom groups that match your lifestyle. A good moms group will make your journey in motherhood much more blissful. Of course you get what you you put in it, but building your mom tribe is never a bad idea. If you are active within the group, (keyword is active) you pretty much have created your own childcare system, especially if they have teen children… (In Charlotte? Click Here)
• Speaking of teens- HIRE ONE! Retired women maybe an option too.Right now in Charlotte, are non certified sitter can get at least $9/hr. Add CPR beatification, more experience and other professional training and your rate goes up even more. If promise to feed them well , you may save even more. But don’t assume.it will happen with “busy-hard to listen little ones” No one wants to watch brats ..not even family members.
• Find a job that offers free child care benefits. They are out there. Try FlexJobs.com.

I will tell you this, the better behaved your child is, the least they have to do, the easier you are to work with, the better your chances are for securing both affordable and adequate childcare.

2016-17 Graduation- Family Milestone

I am floating on cloud nine right about now!  By many accounts, I should not be where I am. I should not be married. I shouldn’t have smart children, nor should they be graduating, especially from college! BUT GOD!

This year, I have been honored to have not one, but 4 graduates to celebrate. My husband, my oldest son, and two of my daughters. It was not planned or budgeted. But think goodness for the life style we have. Because of that reason alone we are gonna celebrate in the most grand way possible. After all, how often do you get 4 graduates in one year?

 

My graduates- Raj- Husband- Army Veteran, Central Piedmont Community College/CPCC –  Elementary Education major

My oldest son- Jervon                  Basketball MVP, Hampton University, Hampton VA.  B.S. Liberal Arts

Below is a clip from one of his recent games at Hampton University. Watch here!

 

My 2nd oldest daughter- JC        Working Teen, Hemingway High, College bound- She hasn’t decided what she wants to do as of yet. 

My 3rd oldest daughter- DeeDua , teenpernuer,  Providence High School Trade School Paralegal Studies 

 

I’m so proud of each of them. Each of them were born with obstacles to overcome. From being the child of a single mom to starting life on this side some 4 months early. As they say the tassel was worth the hassle. They made it! Who else is celebrating a graduate? The video below is of a Momsrising friend of mine. She was sharing some motivational tips for my daughter DeeDua. Listen in!

I am so proud of each of my scholars. I know they are prepared for whatever life throws at them. My hope is that the younger one will follow their path and not mine as it relates to student loans. Going to college for free is a blessing. My husband education was sponsored by the Veteran administration. My son attended all four years under a athletic scholarship. My daughters had to search and apply for hundreds of grants and scholarships. The money is out there. You can get some too!

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Mama’s Cinco De Mayo Deals & Details

Cinco de Mayo Is Not Mexican Independence Day! That’s ok, you can still celebrate!

We choose to celebrate because we love spicy tacos, fun music and bright colors!

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“It (Cinco de Mayo) started out as a cultural celebration, then became bigger and bigger,” said Sánchez. “And at some point it became very commercial; with people taking advantage of the day to drink all the Coronas they can drink.”

Today marks the 154th anniversary of Cinco de Mayo, a bicultural celebration. For us, it’s a great way to teach the children about the Latino cultural and have a little fun at the same time.

Cinco de Mayo is the celebration of the courage of the Mexican people during the battle (La Batalla de Puebla) on May 5th, 1862 where 4,500 Mexican soldiers defeated the Mexican traitors (exiled Mexican Convervatives) and French army of 6,500 at Puebla, Mexico . The reasons why Cinco de Mayo is celebrated on a much larger scale in the United States is maybe because :

• If it had not been for the victory, France would have aided the South in the American Civil War and this would have an impact on the war.
• Chicanos celebrates this day in appreciation of its cultural and historical significance.
• General Ignacio Zaragosa was born in Texas when it was still part of Mexico and is considered to be a Chicano hero.

 So in honor of all our Latino friends everywhere…… this collection is for you!

Crafts for today! – A pinata!!!

 

QC SuperMomJamba Juice
With a coupon available on Jamba Juices website starting May 4, guests nationwide can celebrate the holiday with a Chili Mango or Mango-A-Go-Go Smoothie for $2.99. (The smoothies normally cost $5 and up.) The coupon is valid May 4-8.

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QC SuperMom(3rd Party info) Cinco de Mayo Margarita Deals, Taco Specials and More
An estimated 87.3 million pounds of avocados are consumed per year on May 5, according to the California Avocado Commission and tequila sales at U.S. bars and restaurants more than double. This year, save money on your Cinco de Mayo drink and food purchases with these special offers.Bahama Breeze: Get $5 margaritas all day on May 5.
Chili’s: Celebrate Drinko de Mayo at Chili’s with $3 Dos Equis and $5 Presidente margaritas.
Chipotle: Take $50 off any catering order for 20 or more people on Cinco de Mayo.
DoorDash: Sign up for DoorDash to get $5 off your first delivery and in certain cities, you can have Taco Bell delivered to your doorstep on Cinco de Mayo and every day.
Eat24: Use coupon code RELAX to get $2 off your order until Dec. 31, allowing you to get a Cinco de Mayo discount without leaving your couch.
Green Burrito: Buy one Burrito El Diablo and get a second free with this printable coupon through May 31.
Jamba Juice: Get a small Mango A-Go-Go or Chili Mango smoothie for $2.99 with this coupon until May 8.
Mad Mex: Enjoy breakfast burritos, eggchiladas and cornbread starting at 9 a.m. as part of the Mad Mex Cinco de Mayo party. All day drink specials include 22-ounce Dos Equis drafts for $5 and a $1 off all Mexican bottles and cans. Regular happy hour and late nght specials will be honored, in addition to some special games and giveaways.
Moe’s Southwest Grill: As part of its annual Cinco de Moe’s event, the first 100 customers in line will receive a free t-shirt while supplies last and participating locations will offer $5 burritos.
On the Border: Enjoy 14-ounce Cinco Cup House Margaritas for $4, 14-ounce Cinco Cup Dos Equis Lager, Dos Equis Amber and Corona Light Drafts for $3, a variety of Cinco Shots for $2 to $4, Dos Equis Lager, Corona and Corona Light bottles for $3 and commemorative t-shirts for $10 at participating locations.
Papa Murphy’s: The Steak Fajita and Taco Grande pizzas are both back until May 30.
Rubio’s: Get a free Taquitos Platter with any catering purchase of $125 or more.
Sonic Drive-In: Get 6- or 12-piece boneless wings for half price on May 5.
Taco Bueno: Party Tacos will be half price — $0.59 — all day.
Taco Cabana: Enjoy happy hour on Cinco de Mayo from 4 p.m. to 7 p.m., featuring $1.50 margaritas and a $3 small nacho and margarita combo. Additionally, Taco Cabana will celebrate Seis de Mayo by receiving one free breakfast taco when you dine-in during breakfast hours from May 6 to May 8.
Taco Del Mar: Take part in the annual Cinco de Mayo 5 pound burrito eating challenge at participating locations.
Taco Mayo: A new mystery item will be added to the menu on Cinco de Mayo 2016.
TacoTime: Get $0.69 crisp tacos all day on May 5.
TGI Friday’s: Get $5 margaritas and $3 appetizers on May 5.
Tijuana Flats: Enjoy 48 hours of Cinco de Mayo specials, including a Tijuana Burrito, chips and a drink for $5, with the option to add a draft beer for $1 on May 5 and $2 tacos on May 6.
Tumbleweed Tex Mex Grill & Margarita Bar: Start the weekend early with $0.99 domestic drafts — premium drafts not included — and Twisted Teas. Additionally, domestic longnecks will be $1.99.

“Cinco de Mayo is part of the Latino experience of the American Civil War,”

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QC SuperMomCaribou Coffee
Caribou Coffee is renaming May 5 “Drink-O de Mayo” as the day when it introduces its new Caribou Coolers, an ice-blended drink perfect for summer. To celebrate the launch, consumers can try all three of the new Cooler flavors—Salted Caramel, Mint Chocolate and Raspberry.

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More history behind the celebration 

Show The Teacher Some LOVE!!!

Teach·er

ˈtēCHər/

noun

1. a person who teaches, especially in a school.This is a wide group. I think it’s fair to say that mothers are the first teachers. Then there are public /private educators, professional tutors, coaches, professors, counselor; and ministers to just begin with.

 This week we are showing supper- duper love to all the teachers in our life!

So when you post a greeting, use #TeacherAppreciationWeek – okay?! 

With that being said here’s my salute to educators everywhere!

I LOVE WyZant! They have the best tutors available. Check them out!

Any home-schoolers here? Yes, we deserve our props too. Too many of us are doing it alone! Find a groups to support your efforts.They are out there, especially online. Not only will you resources increase, but so will your support circle as well. Don’t do it alone.

I appreciate what Senator Jeff Jackson said about Teachers in North Carolina

 

Homeschoolers just do it best* 🙂 We have all day –AND night educate our children.

 

Now time for the rewards! Below is a short list of perks for being educators/ teachers.  to check and make sure they will acknowledge your status. They can’t say anything but yes or no. Need a template for homeschoolers? Leave the request below & I’ll send over a sample. You’ll only need to print sign and laminate*.

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Nominate an inspirational teacher to win a classroom grant. http://bit.ly/1X4tB9x 

Almost done, and so happy about that. My husband hates for electronics to be on while it’s thundering and lighting.

Thank you to our teachers, educators and administrators for making a difference every day in our community! Join us on Tuesday, May 3, 2016 at a participating Metro Charlotte Area Chick-fil-A restaurant from 6:30AM to 10:00PM and receive one free Chick-fil-A Chicken Biscuit or Chick-fil-A Chicken Sandwich. One per person. Valid ID required. 

And check out Cassie’s Sweetz! She’s that teen vegan baker. She’s offering 50% off any Teacher gift sets! They start at just $16.00

Click this picture for more offers from your Charlotte Vegan teen, Cassie’s Sweetz! 

Click here for Teacher Gifts your child can make Easily!

Last but not least, if you really want to show your school teachers some love….. RAISE THEIR PAY!!! Okay gotta go, the children and I are studying now.